Ask Eclair anything.

[McGiver]

Are you at least able to explain this to them?

That was before I got diagnosed.  Now things may be different, but I don't know...I still have the sensory overload thing.

So, would you push someone out of bed?
What were the effects?

Not reciprocate if someone is emotional...go blank, do something else, change subject, leave, hang up...which then unfortunately translates to someone like you are playing games or not interested or emotionally cruel when in fact, after I go or leave I can be highly emotional but have no words or blank out completely. 

just don't shut me out, because i have the same problem as you.
and i may just run away as well.  it is easier that way.

I'm not in love with you so you are safe. 

whew.

don't think i could ahndle you if you were.

are you in love with somebody?

[Eclair]

Are you at least able to explain this to them?

That was before I got diagnosed.  Now things may be different, but I don't know...I still have the sensory overload thing.

So, would you push someone out of bed?
What were the effects?

Not reciprocate if someone is emotional...go blank, do something else, change subject, leave, hang up...which then unfortunately translates to someone like you are playing games or not interested or emotionally cruel when in fact, after I go or leave I can be highly emotional but have no words or blank out completely. 

just don't shut me out, because i have the same problem as you.
and i may just run away as well.  it is easier that way.

I'm not in love with you so you are safe. 

whew.

don't think i could ahndle you if you were.

are you in love with somebody?

I still love everybody I've ever loved, including the ones I don't see or who hurt me.  As for in love, yes I am in love with somebody now, but I have never told them.

[McGiver]

I still love everybody I've ever loved, including the ones I don't see or who hurt me.  As for in love, yes I am in love with somebody now, but I have never told them.

do you love easily?

[Eclair]

I still love everybody I've ever loved, including the ones I don't see or who hurt me.  As for in love, yes I am in love with somebody now, but I have never told them.

do you love easily?

No, only 4 times.  But I can be extremely fond of people.

[McGiver]

I still love everybody I've ever loved, including the ones I don't see or who hurt me.  As for in love, yes I am in love with somebody now, but I have never told them.

do you love easily?

No, only 4 times.  But I can be extremely fond of people.

if i read you correctly:

at what point between fondness and love do you bigin to pull away?
is there a defining moment?
is it after you exchange the words i love you?
after you exchange body fluids?
etc?

[Eclair]

I still love everybody I've ever loved, including the ones I don't see or who hurt me.  As for in love, yes I am in love with somebody now, but I have never told them.

do you love easily?

No, only 4 times.  But I can be extremely fond of people.

if i read you correctly:

at what point between fondness and love do you bigin to pull away?
is there a defining moment?
is it after you exchange the words i love you?
after you exchange body fluids?
etc?

Each time was different.  Exchange of bodily fluids is just sensory overload, not capable of saying it after that from memory...maybe when I was engaged though.

[Eclair]

Plus I only told 2 of the 4.

[McGiver]

Each time was different.  Exchange of bodily fluids is just sensory overload, not capable of saying it after that from memory...maybe when I was engaged though.

say, "i love you"?


also, then i take it that you are able to seperate your emotions from sex?

[Eclair]

Each time was different.  Exchange of bodily fluids is just sensory overload, not capable of saying it after that from memory...maybe when I was engaged though.

say, "i love you"?


also, then i take it that you are able to seperate your emotions from sex?

Yes, and yes.

[McGiver]

a rare quality for a woman.....

do you find that it is much easier for you to have sex with men that you aren't really attracted to; personality-wise?

[Eclair]

Each time was different.  Exchange of bodily fluids is just sensory overload, not capable of saying it after that from memory...maybe when I was engaged though.

say, "i love you"?


also, then i take it that you are able to seperate your emotions from sex?

Yes, and yes.

But if the sex is good, it can tip me over the edge...as I say, 4 times may not be enough to get the statistics.  Twice the sex tipped me over with feelings of love and funnily enough, those were the 2 ones I couldn't tell.

[Eclair]

a rare quality for a woman.....

do you find that it is much easier for you to have sex with men that you aren't really attracted to; personality-wise?

No, they have to be engaging and there has to be some shared charisma there I guess.
I can't orgasm with a twit.

[McGiver]

a rare quality for a woman.....

do you find that it is much easier for you to have sex with men that you aren't really attracted to; personality-wise?

No, they have to be engaging and there has to be some shared charisma there I guess.
I can't orgasm with a twit.

then how does it become more for you?

[Calandale]

a rare quality for a woman.....

do you find that it is much easier for you to have sex with men that you aren't really attracted to; personality-wise?

No, they have to be engaging and there has to be some shared charisma there I guess.
I can't orgasm with a twit.

 

[Eclair]

a rare quality for a woman.....

do you find that it is much easier for you to have sex with men that you aren't really attracted to; personality-wise?

No, they have to be engaging and there has to be some shared charisma there I guess.
I can't orgasm with a twit.

then how does it become more for you?

When the above turns out to be on the same wavelength in the bedroom, plus a whole lot of other things that can vary from person to person.  Obviously I wouldn't fall for someone who treated me like shit or didn't care for me, no matter how good a fuck they were.