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Start here => Free For ALL => Topic started by: Scrapheap on April 06, 2007, 11:44:00 PM
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I remember hearing about an Aspie site that only allowed British/ European IP adresess. Does anyone know what site this is/was ??
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Aspievillage, I think. Though I could join it if I wanted to, since Sweden shares IP "blocks" with the UK.
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Going for a ban speed record Scrap? :eyebrows:
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Going for a ban speed record Scrap? :eyebrows:
Nah ..... just curious. Although I wonder if I could join using a proxy server. ;)
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Only if the proxy server is British. ;D
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Only if the proxy server is British. ;D
Does it transmit in Cockney code ?? :laugh:
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what does this mean?
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this is my favourite thread copied from aspie vilage. I will never comprimise the support of members, but I will "treat" people to the humor.
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Someone told me that in French, the word "asperger" means to "squirt", or to "sprinkle".
Considering how much the average aspie males look at porno, is that why they call it Asperger's...the "squirting syndrome">????
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PostPosted: Sun 11 Feb, 2007 12:25 pm Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
absolutely not and i'd have thought you would've known better. besides a lot of men whether AS or not look at porn so your theory doesnt work at all
Anonymous
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Excuse me, I happen to know that Hans Asperger himself had an extensive collection of every issue of "Red Hot Hooters" in his library.
Anonymous
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*rolls eyes* There is one on every forum...sometimes even two or three or four. What an INTENSE world this can be, LOL.
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why dont you go offline and have a wank in the bath instead of subjecting us to all this ridiculous crap?
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Nice one, couldn't have said it better myself Very Happy
Anonymous
PostPosted: Mon 12 Feb, 2007 4:32 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
Stop being so piously celebate. We are all animals at the end of the day, and we have natural urges, there's nothing wrong with looking at porn.
Just going to smoke a nice spliff and watch some myself now! 'Filthy Latin Whores' the disc is called!
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PostPosted: Mon 12 Feb, 2007 4:27 pm Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
Spliffs and porn - sounds rather like Duncvis Rolling Eyes
Any luck looking for a job yet, Duncey boy, or is ten years on the dole not long enough for you?
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Lol, sure sounds like someone off that disreputable site, but not entirely sure who is giving us the misfortune of their presence here Wink
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Why assume it's not a regular AV poster?
That's the whole point of these Anonymous Forums - they give people who pretend to be OK the opportunity to show us the perverted side of their personalities - but it's OK I can usually work out who it is
People with big mouths and evidently tiny c**** Laughing
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"People with big mouths and evidently tiny c**** "
LOL
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How droll. Yawn.
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Stop being so piously celebate. We are all animals at the end of the day, and we have natural urges, there's nothing wrong with looking at porn.
Just going to smoke a nice spliff and watch some myself now! 'Filthy Latin Whores' the disc is called!
Hans himself directed that one. And he stars as "Austrian Autistic Anaconda"
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Spliffs and porn - sounds rather like Duncvis Rolling Eyes
Any luck looking for a job yet, Duncey boy, or is ten years on the dole not long enough for you?
Now all we need is P.Mckenzie treating us to an anecdote about his defective penis Neutral
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Spliffs and porn - sounds rather like Duncvis Rolling Eyes
Any luck looking for a job yet, Duncey boy, or is ten years on the dole not long enough for you?
Now all we need is P.Mckenzie treating us to an anecdote about his defective penis Neutral
Neither of these people post here.
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As a wild guess, I'll assume it was Wobert who thought I could be arsed to post anonymously on AV. :laugh:
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Men suck no matter what disorder they have or lack. Women will whine about it so long as they have powers of communication, and if they have a disorder that prevents it, the think it. It's not news.
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I remember hearing about an Aspie site that only allowed British/ European IP adresess. Does anyone know what site this is/was ??
Here is a link to the online bullying thread on Aspie Village, even though I can't access it anymore, since I have an American IP address:
http://www.aspievillage.org.uk/ftopic2223-0-asc-0.html
Good luck.
Thanks for the screenshots, La Mala. The post that calls Duncvis Duncey boy has to be RobertN, since that is his pet name for him.
Let me make a wild guess. Graelwyn's post is the one where she says her bra size is 32DD? ;)
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Men suck no matter what disorder they have or lack
Only the good ones. Just like women.
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robertn
Has anyone here ever experienced online bullying?
I am a member of an aspie forum called Intensity, but I rather suspect many people there haven't actually got aspergers. The idea of the forum was to promote free speech, but the whole idea has failed and it has degenerated into a cesspool of personal insults and bitchiness.
Its really awful because some people just hide behind their mask and mock you, knowing full well they can get away with it. There is a karma system (read - a popularity scale). The in-crowd on the site just add karma (applaud) to each other at any opportunity. Some of them are at +70 or more, which is riduculous. They smite people they don't like (I am at -15), until the gaps between the members are so obvious that the in-crowd or "clique" as I like to call them, can kick out people to bully based on their low karma scores, knowing that few people will bother to defend them.
The whole business is getting me down. If I just leave, the thugs will think they have won, and I don't want to give them that satisfaction.
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Hmmm
Sounds like an interesting challenge - what's the site address?
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yea i wanna join aswell, swing us those umm details will ya Cool
lets take on the challenge Nessa Very Happy
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PostPosted: Thu 31 Aug, 2006 12:49 am Reply with quoteBottom of PageBack to top
The reports I hear about other AS sites always make this one seem like some kind of utopia!
We're like some kind of aberration in all getting along so well (most of the time anyway)!
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hmmmmmmmmmm so what does that make me then Nessa ?
am i more utopia or what ?
be frank, i am... honest Cool
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(Nervous laugh) Well Tom, continual Utopia would be a bit dull so I suppose you 'shake it up' a bit
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thats a fair confirmation Very Happy
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You know most people who got bored of the place just moved on Rob. The non-uk members...who cares about their opinion, there totally irrelavant and have no barring on your life what so ever.
You just keep digging yourself a hole mate and your better off just moving on and not caring. I was cringing at your call out threads you really do need to know when to shut the F' up sometimes you really do cause your full of it and you completly lost the point and just tried to make wild accusations at people. The site is stale and dying and your just gonig to be an easy target going around like a headless chicken ranting at people.
There is an equal playing ground there if you want to confront and argue with people, its hardly there fault you suck at it. You are more asperger then half of them put together and its so blatent a few have nothing to do with aspergers anyway.
That whole Karma system no one takes seriously apart from you Rob.
GET A GRIP!
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Don't be so harsh!
(I can't believe I'm saying that!)
And PS - give us a link!
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I dont feel its neccesary to give you a link, ask mutate, omega female or Rob if you like. I ain't gonna be held responsible basically for you turning up there Razz
Im afraid Rob needs to come to a few realisations and he needs to come to it sooner rather than later or hes gonna get burned and i'd rather save him the anguish of learning the hard way. Not just on intensity but on his communication, on his reading of people and on life in general. No more social worker handling him with kid gloves attitude its time for cold harsh reality
This site is a friendly community and i can't believe he was shreiking around in terror before the cambridge meetup because of some morons on that intensity site he took seriously. But thats another issue entirely, infact when i learned of this it absolutely infuriated me that some people did that but then if your a sucker for it people will always be tempted
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You make me sound like some kind of verbal semtex! I'm pretty sure they'd all take great delight in ignoring me anyway so there'd be nothing to worry about
I used to go on the Aspie Hangout Delphi forum and the Americans there had no problem posting over me; I'd have a rant about it, they'd acknowledge me then it would run on much as before
I never felt I was making a proper 'connection' with them. I don't think we speak the same language as Americans
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ohh ok sorry laz i didnt realise i thought what was said was LAW. i guess now that the true light has been shown it seems like i sound bad now Sad
but i agree with what you said, some people need to take a step back sometimes and admire the view, not charge head first into a scenario.
and that stuff that went on earlier, there really was no need of it.
Rob, you probably mean well but you need to chill out every once in a while and listen to your heart and dont be rash.
and if someone tells you to "shut the F up" take them seriously, they're only being rude cos they dont want people to forget about it and carry on reguardless.
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ahhhhhh time to chill out sum more i think...
now where did i put my rizla Very Happy
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hows about we talk about this like adults in chat eh, and not get it banned again eh ?
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I only want to read the posts anyway
Posting cold on a new board is the equivalent of walking into a pub youve never been in before and starting a conversation out of the blue with the first person you come across - it's too much like hard work and the length of time you'd have to hang around to get 'accepted' as one of the crowd is too great and might never happen anyway
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and so what, i'd just carry on reguardless, if people dont like me all they need do is say it in a respectable manner and i'll let things be, but to be profane at me or insult my intelligence, well that has been known to provoke the Inner Badger Cool
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nessa456 wrote: ‹ Select › ‹ Expand ›
Posting cold on a new board is the equivalent of walking into a pub youve never been in before and starting a conversation out of the blue with the first person you come across - it's too much like hard work and the length of time you'd have to hang around to get 'accepted' as one of the crowd is too great and might never happen anyway
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OK, I just thought that's a good quote to start my first post with. I've actually been here before (see some old entries by 'Till'), but that account is now listed as guest. Nothing to add to this conversation for the moment, except I agree that aspievillage was quite unique in being a forum for open and honest discussions without the need to hide yourself - I hope it's still (or rather, again) that way, there seem to be too many sites like the one mentioned above already.
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but robert complains about people here who attack people elsewhere, and calls it bullying.
yet, he did it to duncshit and peter.
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ZZZZzzz. In stereo. :zzz:
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I am a member of an aspie forum called Intensity, but I rather suspect many people there haven't actually got aspergers. The idea of the forum was to promote free speech, but the whole idea has failed and it has degenerated into a cesspool of personal insults and bitchiness.
Thanks again, La Mala. I had forgotten how funny it was.
According to Godwin's Second Law, I guess the thread was over before it started because our diagnoses were questioned.
:LMAO:
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Unfortunatly they have just in the last 20 minutes disabled the entire Anon Forum and deleted all posts due to the great "Bringing Nunchukas to the meetup" thread!
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I had this new troll character i wanted to pass the time with. It would be a fat guy of 30 living at home who thinks he is a Savant because he can recite every episode of "Air-Wolf", and heard that it was his "Ortism" that made him so smart. And he wants dirty sex and thinks NTs are stupid.
Also I was going to sign into WP as "The Reverend McNulty" an Irish middle aged female vicar who has AS and so they would make me a mod, because I would be extremely conservative and easily offended. But, that was back in the days when I actually wanted to look in the Mods Forum, noone I know posts there anymore, so I'm not bothered now.
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Also I was going to sign into WP as "The Reverend McNulty" an Irish middle aged female vicar who has AS and so they would make me a mod, because I would be extremely conservative and easily offended. But, that was back in the days when I actually wanted to look in the Mods Forum, noone I know posts there anymore, so I'm not bothered now.
There's still time. ;D +
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Unfortunatly they have just in the last 20 minutes disabled the entire Anon Forum and deleted all posts due to the great "Bringing Nunchukas to the meetup" thread!
Obviously that person must have been joking about the "Nun-Chuckers" and watching five movies to learn how to use them, as well as being trained by a "friend who was in the SAS". Either that, or it's RobertN. When's the next meetup, or did they cancel it because they are afraid of this "anonymous" person showing up with nunchukas? If it is RobertN, even if he has "Nun-Chuckers" in his trousers I could still take him.
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I think its in London next Saturday, and I think Robert is coming (I will welcome him as a friend if he does as I have no emnitly against him)
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I think its in London next Saturday, and I think Robert is coming (I will welcome him as a friend if he does as I have no emnitly against him)
Internet personas don't always protray an accurate image of the people behind them.
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Brilliant, Einstein.
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Brilliant, Einstein.
You'll take me seriously once I'm at my prime.
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I think its in London next Saturday, and I think Robert is coming (I will welcome him as a friend if he does as I have no emnitly against him)
I'm glad, because he may well be a good person IRL, just immature for his age, a big-time grudge holder, and way too desperate to get laid.
I still think I could take him if he tried to use "Nun-Chuckers" on me, though. ;)
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I think its in London next Saturday, and I think Robert is coming (I will welcome him as a friend if he does as I have no emnitly against him)
I'm glad, because he may well be a good person IRL, just immature for his age, a big-time grudge holder, and way too desperate to get laid.
I still think I could take him if he tried to use "Nun-Chuckers" on me, though. ;)
Callaway, i think youy can take me also. i would never hit a lady.
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Internet personas don't always protray an accurate image of the people behind them.
How...how could they?
Callaway, i think youy can take me also. i would never hit a lady.
Don't count on it man.
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Do you have a link to that post?
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put a bra on.
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Do you have a link to that post?
unfortunaly that whole forum has now been shut down as a result! You cant read it. Its just a fat guy I found on somethingawful.
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Haven't we seen a pic of him wearing a grown-up diaper?
I feel sorry for the guy, but we all need a laugh sometimes, since peaguy retired.
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Haven't we seen a pic of him wearing a grown-up diaper?
I feel sorry for the guy, but we all need a laugh sometimes, since peaguy retired.
Semi-retired. I recently got banned from that site.
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which site, AV? Ill have words with mods! I am a personal friend! I have seen the mods forum and all the deleted threads in the past.
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which site, AV? Ill have words with mods! I am a personal friend! I have seen the mods forum and all the deleted threads in the past.
After being apparently rude to one of the mods, I doubt that you could sway them, Tom Thumb. :(
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Semi-retired. I recently got banned from that site.
You still have many redeming qualities despite your retirement.
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Semi-retired. I recently got banned from that site.
You still have many redeming qualities despite your retirement.
Speaking of redeeming qualities, you wanna sing an Annie muscial with me?
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little orphan annie, another famous redhead.
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Semi-retired. I recently got banned from that site.
You still have many redeming qualities despite your retirement.
Speaking of redeeming qualities, you wanna sing an Annie muscial with me?
Thaaaaa Sun 'll come out ....... Tomorrow ....
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Tomorrow! Tomorrow! I love ya Tomorrow! You're always A day A way!
....waayyyy...!
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yeah.
waaaaay ghey.
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I love that song!
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I love that song!
yes.
it's an american classic.
but i thought you hated the yanks.
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She just hates NTs, the sap.
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I didn't make the rules on AV
Ithink keeping it just UK is to keep it smaller, more manageable and more of a community, not due to any
particular aversion for any non-UK residents
It seems to me that on places like WP where it's anyone allowed people are getting banned all the time
- we hardly ever get bannings on AV as it's usually very calm
Too many wild-cards/too many personality clashes if you don't limit the site in some way
Agreed that Intensity is therefore needed as a haven for the wildcards lol
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intensity is needed to celebrate diversity.
i guess you could call us more PC than the other sites out there. because we don't discriminate.
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Yes, I can see that now
If it's accepting of everyone though, you have to admit that chaos is far more likely to reign
and it won't be a very stable or calm environemnt
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Yes, I can see that now
If it's accepting of everyone though, you have to admit that chaos is far more likely to reign
and it won't be a very stable or calm environemnt
Good. More excitement, and less of the bores.
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Yes, I can see that now
If it's accepting of everyone though, you have to admit that chaos is far more likely to reign
and it won't be a very stable or calm environemnt
life is chaos.
evolution is random.
if you want calm, then may i subggest you revisit the womb.
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yeah.
waaaaay ghey.
Old man, there's no need to feel down...
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Lol, why is being boring so terrible??
One person's boring is anothers' interesting
I find you exceedingly boring and tedious P
McJagger is at least capable of sustaining intelligent conversation
You don't even attempt it
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Lol, why is being boring so terrible??
One person's boring is anothers' interesting
I find you exceedingly boring and tedious P
McJagger is at least capable of sustaining intelligent conversation
You don't even attempt it
Why do you keep replying to me then, oh extroverted one?
Look Macie, it's an internet weirdo. Say hi to the nice lady! :laugh:
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peaguy is very entertaining.
and one of the nicest and most loyal friend a person can have....once you get past his defensive mechanisms.
why has he built these defensive walls you ask?
well i suspect that it is from a life of dealing wioth people who did not understand his quirks and ridiculed him for them. even punished him for them.
maybe he has learned to act less serious, because it hurts less when people tells him he is wrong.
think about that.
think about how much harm your rules are doing to legitimate aspies. how your intolerance, is intolerable.
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Well I've had a lifetime of ridicule myself
My manner is a defence mechanism too
I know you/he think I am only being patronising and snotty but i do have an
actual desire to help
I see what works for me and use that as a template to advise others - that's all I'm trying
to do
I can see that some people don't want my advice tho and I can accept that...
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Well I've had a lifetime of ridicule myself
My manner is a defence mechanism too
I know you/he think I am only being patronising and snotty but i do have an
actual desire to help
I see what works for me and use that as a template to advise others - that's all I'm trying
to do
I can see that some people don't want my advice tho and I can accept that...
I help people too. You just don't know it.
I win.
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but your advice is hippocritical.
from what i have observed people need you to ram your advice down their throats, yet are not allowed tolerance when speaking from the place that they are coming from.
for example:
your only making a joke with lit, yet other people are nasty when they say in effect the same things.
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Well it's the language they use to say things that often offends me
I do accept that I have a tendency to lecture people tho
It's cos my social/bantering skills are no good tho - I literally can't do the jokey stuff
you do on here - it's like a foreign language to me
Peope think I'm self-righteous and po-faced but I cannot do the other stuff - I get penalised for not doing something Im incapable of - that seems unfair to me
I would feel liek I was being a different person if I acted like the peopel on here - it's alien to my nature
So I play to my strenghts ie finding information, trying to advise people and defending people
I can do conflict but not jokey bantering on a board, not very well anyway
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I don't mind lectures providing that it's not crammed down in my throat.
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Well it's the language they use to say things that often offends me
I do accept that I have a tendency to lecture people tho
It's cos my social/bantering skills are no good tho - I literally can't do the jokey stuff
you do on here - it's like a foreign language to me
Peope think I'm self-righteous and po-faced but I cannot do the other stuff - I get penalised for not doing something Im incapable of - that seems unfair to me
I would feel liek I was being a different person if I acted like the peopel on here - it's alien to my nature
So I play to my strenghts ie finding information, trying to advise people and defending people
I can do conflict but not jokey bantering on a board, not very well anyway
i can accept this.
fighting for those that you care about is true strength of character. i can admire that quality in you.
i don't think that you are a bad person. on the contrary, i like you. my argument was about the language and peoples diversity.
how about that blowjob? :laugh:
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Well thanks :)
I am very into self improvement and open to constructive criticism
I can see that in a social setting I can be insufferable to certain types of people -
I'm not totally unaware of how I come across lol
If you keep changing yourself to fit in with all the different kinds of people though there's a danger
of losing your actual identity imo
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Well thanks :)
I am very into self improvement and open to constructive criticism
I can see that in a social setting I can be insufferable to certain types of people -
I'm not totally unaware of how I come across lol
If you keep changing yourself to fit in with all the different kinds of people though there's a danger
of losing your actual identity imo
i couldn't agree more. and i would hate to lose myself.
it's just that it has always been a mystery how people inteact with each other so seemlessly. so i like to abserve, always have. and i make decisions in my ownlife based upon those observations.
can i live with that action....well then it is food for thought.
did that action repulse me....then i will certainly not adapt that behaviour.
was that persons action moving to me in a positive way...then i will consider it and likely adopt it for self use.
the thing i realize is that no matter how hard a person fights things, they are still influenced by the things they have seen and done. their person is made up of situations along there lifes journey and the character of their natural spirit.
who a person is is a give and take between the two.
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I have this thing whereby I actively don't adopt certain types of behaviour for the very fact that most people
seem to be doing it and I don't want to just copy them
It's like when a big blockbuster film comes out and they say 'See this film!' so most people, like sheep, see it
- I will not want to see it for that very reason ie because I am being told to see it and because everyone is seeing it
Much social behaviour seems like that to me - everyone adopts it cos it's the 'done thing' ie everyone else is doing it, on any kind of forum/IRL
I seem to have this perverse need NOT to partake in this behaviour - it seems like a dilution of my essential self to act like this just to get on with other people, so I never learned how to do it cos I didnt want to be like other people
Does that make me anti-social?
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Stop trying to differentiate yourself from the rest of the human populace just because people are excited about a certain film or music album. You're no different from anybody else.
Welcome... to the human gene pool.
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In some ways I do want to be just like everybody else, I want to blend in and be seen as 'normal'
but in other ways I have a total horror of being like everyone else - what's the point in being alive if you're just a clone?
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I have this thing whereby I actively don't adopt certain types of behaviour for the very fact that most people
seem to be doing it and I don't want to just copy them
It's like when a big blockbuster film comes out and they say 'See this film!' so most people, like sheep, see it
- I will not want to see it for that very reason ie because I am being told to see it and because everyone is seeing it
Much social behaviour seems like that to me - everyone adopts it cos it's the 'done thing' ie everyone else is doing it, on any kind of forum/IRL
I seem to have this perverse need NOT to partake in this behaviour - it seems like a dilution of my essential self to act like this just to get on with other people, so I never learned how to do it cos I didnt want to be like other people
Does that make me anti-social?
it makes you a rebel.
yet you are limiting yourself.
maybe you are missing out on a cenematic classic.
maybe there are things that you can learn from the film.
btw- i really do not like movies, mainly movies made over the last 20 years.
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Agreed, I have too many hard and fast rules
They are comforting though
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The rebel mentality = cloneish behaviour.
We got enough of "rebels", thanks.
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The rebel mentality = cloneish behaviour.
We got enough of "rebels", thanks.
actually you are right.
i would say since the fifties, rebels are a manufactured image.
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Wanna be a rebel? Stop looking for approval.
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Wanna be a rebel? Stop looking for approval.
:clap:
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Wanna be a rebel? Stop looking for approval.
:clap:
I wasn't looking for that, mind you. Honest! >_>
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I don't know what I want to be to be quite honest
I want a certain level of approval from peopel I respect - that's only natural
I don't want to conform totally but do tend like sticking to the rules
People who habitually rebel are of ten only doing it to gain peer-acceptance anyway so it
can be a stronger position to adhere stirctly to the rules in many environments as you will invariably be in the minority
This rebellion is the new conformity as P said
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Yes, I can see that now
If it's accepting of everyone though, you have to admit that chaos is far more likely to reign
and it won't be a very stable or calm environemnt
Good GOD! It's a spectrum, woman! (I use that term loosely)
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Use what term loosely?
AV has a variety of people on the spectrum and it's pretty calm and stable so it can be done!
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Yes, I can see that now
If it's accepting of everyone though, you have to admit that chaos is far more likely to reign
and it won't be a very stable or calm environemnt
life is chaos.
evolution is random.
if you want calm, then may i subggest you revisit the womb.
*snorts*
Does close count?
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I don't understand what you mean
You're evidently far too sharp for me ;)
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I don't understand what you mean
You're evidently far too sharp for me ;)
Eh, I think he's an arse for trying too hard.
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Yeah, OK...What do you have against arse?
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Use what term loosely?
AV has a variety of people on the spectrum and it's pretty calm and stable so it can be done!
I'm failing to see maturity in your responses, that's all. I know, mine, too, but that's beside the point. I'm comfortable.
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When someone calls me unintelligent, I can't but laugh. I have an overall IQ of over 135 and a verbal IQ like Shakespeare or Goethe. 8)
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I don't need tests, for I have faith in my abilities.
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When someone calls me unintelligent, I can't but laugh. I have an overall IQ of over 135 and a verbal IQ like Shakespeare or Goethe. 8)
"Stupid is as stupid does. That's what my momma always says"
I may be an idiot, but I'm not a stupid one. That's what I always say.
(I may be uneducated, but I'm not unintelligent.)
You're smart enough without someone's numbers, Tig. Laughing is smart.
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That's true. :agreed: :plus:
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They've locked AV! :'(
Well most forums anyway
There's no happy medium - it's the nanny state or the bear pit!
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Extremes are fun. :)
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They've locked AV! :'(
Well most forums anyway
There's no happy medium - it's the nanny state or the bear pit!
Shit! I was hoping that real life could sort of whisper at you, first, instead of yelling.
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In some ways I do want to be just like everybody else, I want to blend in and be seen as 'normal'
but in other ways I have a total horror of being like everyone else - what's the point in being alive if you're just a clone?
There is no point. You live, you die, that's it.
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In some ways I do want to be just like everybody else, I want to blend in and be seen as 'normal'
but in other ways I have a total horror of being like everyone else - what's the point in being alive if you're just a clone?
There is no point. You live, you die, that's it.
No, Odeon. You live and survive in order to obtain the "prize"!
At least that's what Connor MacLeod teaches us...
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In some ways I do want to be just like everybody else, I want to blend in and be seen as 'normal'
but in other ways I have a total horror of being like everyone else - what's the point in being alive if you're just a clone?
There is no point. You live, you die, that's it.
No, Odeon. You live and survive in order to obtain the "prize"!
At least that's what Connor MacLeod teaches us...
Who the fuck is he? ???
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In some ways I do want to be just like everybody else, I want to blend in and be seen as 'normal'
but in other ways I have a total horror of being like everyone else - what's the point in being alive if you're just a clone?
There is no point. You live, you die, that's it.
No, Odeon. You live and survive in order to obtain the "prize"!
At least that's what Connor MacLeod teaches us...
Who the fuck is he? ???
The Immortal Highlander! Don't you watch tv?
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pea, will you give me that hummer?
esmy will not accept my advances. :laugh:
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Not before he duels me for the prize.
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Not before he duels me for the prize.
what, a cock fight?
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There is no point. You live, you die, that's it.
No, Odeon. You live and survive in order to obtain the "prize"!
At least that's what Connor MacLeod teaches us...
Ah, yes, but then they killed off Sean Connery and I lost faith. Fuck the prize!
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What if the prize is old and ugly?
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It's got to be old and ugly. :laugh:
Anyone seen Christopher Lambert in anything AFTER Highland XIII or that comic book thing he was forced to accept to pay his bills? He was never much of an actor but he was right for Highlander.
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Not seen Highlander yet...
I think there is a point (to being alive)
I believe in God, not because of wanting there to be an afterlife but because it gives a sense
of meaning in terms of trying to do the 'right thing'
You get to create your own meaning
And I know that one's going to go down like a lead balloon...
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And I know that one's going to go down like a lead balloon...
You can convince inanimate objects to perform oral sex on you?
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I am confused as to why you are a) called Calamity Jane and b) have a photo of a woman if you are male
So you think we are all wrapped up in cotton wool on AV?
Why does 'real life' have to necessarily be harsh?
You can filter out the harsh stuff and concentrate of the nice stuff
- we all know it's still there, but it's you who controls what you focus on
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How can an inanimate object go down on anyone??
It's inanimate! lol
:clap:
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I am confused as to why you are a) called Calamity Jane and b) have a photo of a woman if you are male
:asthing:
That's a kind of irony. A clue: I'm not the guy on my avatar either. 8)
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Who are your photos of then? Lit/Cal?
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Black Bart, the American "gentleman robber". 8)
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Ohhhhh
I that was some kind of reference to Bart Simpson lol
I've never heard of him
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How can an inanimate object go down on anyone??
It's inanimate! lol
:clap:
That's why I was impressed. I can get LOTS of animate objects to go down on me.
Not too many humans, but well, you know.
Who are your photos of then? Lit/Cal?
No, that's really me.
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Lol
Sorry, I meant Calamity Jane
It should never be a case of 'getting' a person to do anything, they should
be freely wanting to do it or it's not worth having imo
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Yeah, but with non-human animates, it's sometimes hard to tell what their feelings are.
Like the studebaker.
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Lol
You're funny! :laugh:
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Lol
Sorry, I meant Calamity Jane
It should never be a case of 'getting' a person to do anything, they should
be freely wanting to do it or it's not worth having imo
Other questions that have been posed, yet you are "focusing" on someone's avatar and screen name? Do your answers depend on my answers? Is that honest? What if they are only there for my entertainment and have no real function or hidden message? Are you planning on telling me why you choose to be called by a name with numbers in it? What if, in my "little world", which is a place of converging/diverging imagery, with very little else to go on, I ignore you, because without an image to identify with you, you may not be real? More likely, you are " a bit of underdone potato".
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Lol
You're funny! :laugh:
Either that or idiotic. Hard to tell.
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No you are very amusing Cal
Calamity, it was a simple question, what's the problem with giving a simple answer?
What other questions are you referring to anyway?
In what way are you failing to see maturity in my posts?
and since when was maturity necessary to post on this board anyway lol?
When everyone's being crude and offensive and I'm being 'mature' by calling it such, I've apparently got
a self-righteous pole up my arse so WTF with the immature label!?
The goalposts are just continually moved to suit your argument!
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No you are very amusing Cal
Calamity, it was a simple question, what's the problem with giving a simple answer?
What other questions are you referring to anyway?
In what way are you failing to see maturity in my posts?
and since when was maturity necessary to post on this board anyway lol?
When everyone's being crude and offensive and I'm being 'mature' by calling it such, I've apparently got
a self-righteous pole up my arse so WTF with the immature label!?
The goalposts are just continually moved to suit your argument!
Simple answer is, "No".
No to a discussion of my user profile.
No smokescreen to charm or swerve the direction of the discussion.
No to your sexual reference.
No to any perceived goalposts.
A less simple answer:
I see a lack of maturity in the need for velvet gloves, in order to deal with each other. My remark about "real life" was merely a satire of how effectively we can control what others do, made in response of your stating they had closed the forum, which I am not allowed to view. Accepting others is a prime base for productive discussions. Intolerance leads elsewhere.
So, I guess the best answer is the simplest.
No.
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It's not simple at all cos I don't have a clue what you're on about!
'No to a discussion of my user profile.
No smokescreen to charm or swerve the direction of the discussion.
No to your sexual reference.
No to any perceived goalposts.'
I never made any sexual reference
I don't know what this smokescreen thing is about at all and am not aware of having
made one if that's what you're implying
You talk in absolute riddles as far as I'm concerned which is totally uncondusive to honest communication! lol
And I think 'velvet gloves' as you put it, are most important, as if you put someone's back up you've immediately lost them ie they invariably won't be interested in anything you have to say from that point onwards,
however intelligent!
People only tend to bother with people they like
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People only tend to bother with people they like
Brilliance!
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But the almighty Worldwide Mad Deadly Gangster Communist Computer God and its hangman rope sneak underlings secretely control us all. :o
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Glad to see the threads back on track.
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I am confused as to why you are a) called Calamity Jane and b) have a photo of a woman if you are male
So you think we are all wrapped up in cotton wool on AV?
Why does 'real life' have to necessarily be harsh?
You can filter out the harsh stuff and concentrate of the nice stuff
- we all know it's still there, but it's you who controls what you focus on
the point is that you can't. not if you are forced to walk on eggshells and are living under over censored conditions.
you lose your sense of self....as you pointed out earlier.
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It's boring trying to push the boundaries and be 'controversial' all the time tho...
Can I ask you a question about your family background?
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It's boring trying to push the boundaries and be 'controversial' all the time tho...
Can I ask you a question about your family background?
you just need to push sometimes.
most times, life takes care of it for you.
yes, my life is an open book. ask whatever you want.
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Are your parents together?
Would you say you had a happy childhood?
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no they aren't.
my first childhood memory is of the night my dad left, when i was three.
i was the middle child.
i would not say that my childhood was happy.
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Ok, thanks
I'm sorry to hear that
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where you going to go somewhere with this?
was it the basis of an argument?
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Well I'm trying to work out the people on here, what makes them tick
I am trying to find common factors
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Well I'm trying to work out the people on here, what makes them tick
I am trying to find common factors
i actually think that i have rejected a decent amount of what i should be.
i spent several years holing myself up in my room....watching tv, radio, reading, doing puzzles, sorting my baseball cards, coloring, etc...so as not having to deal with my family.
i was constantly corrected around them.
i consider myself juvenile, to some degree, because of that. because i taught myself my own rules....alone. and spent a good part of my late teens and twenties philosophizing and writing and reading. trying to figure out how it all works.
i have no concrete answers. not even sure if what i think works for me actually does.
the one thing i know for certain is that i want to be myself without constant correction from others.
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Very interesting
Lamala (Tom?) seems to have had a tough time with his parents and he seems drawn to this site/is more of a rebel
I class parents as either the type who fulfil a proper 'parental' role or those that somehow mess up and the child
has to become their own advocate - this can be a good thing though as it seems to lead to more independence of thought
ie the children of 'good' parents can end up as mini, well-behaved versions of them but with less autonomy
I often feel like that
It also explains why I find it hard to relate to your type of person
I mean i like you, just can feel we are different types
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so you came from a 'functional' family?
you know, those with autonomous thinking are usually the ones who push the envelope and find a new, sometimes better way.
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It's certainly not perfect but more or less functional I suppose
I agree with you re. autonomous thinkers
I'm not criticising at all, just seeking to explain differences in outlook on life
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How can an inanimate object go down on anyone??
It's inanimate! lol
:clap:
THE BALL IS INERT
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Funny. I came from a semi-functional family (always fighting), but had
pretty much the same response to it MJ did.
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So you think we are all wrapped up in cotton wool on AV?
Yes.
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They locked the forum where Pete and I made some posts where we demanded an explanation of the banning of P. I could easily flame them to the Andromeda galaxy. :flames:
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But why bother?
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I just felt like flaming them after they banned P, but you're right. They aren't worth me wasting my energy on them.
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I'm not about to say that you can't do it. It's Internet drama and all that, but they won't change and you won't change.
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But why bother?
He likes me. :)
I'm not about to say that you can't do it. It's Internet drama and all that, but they won't change and you won't change.
It kills off some time though.
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I'm not about to say that you can't do it. It's Internet drama and all that, but they won't change and you won't change.
someones got to change their adult diapers.
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I'm not about to say that you can't do it. It's Internet drama and all that, but they won't change and you won't change.
someones got to change their adult diapers.
Who? Who?
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I'm not about to say that you can't do it. It's Internet drama and all that, but they won't change and you won't change.
someones got to change their adult diapers.
Who? Who?
let the young guys like peter, lit and pea.
they have the energy and sense of adventure for it.
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I'm not about to say that you can't do it. It's Internet drama and all that, but they won't change and you won't change.
someones got to change their adult diapers.
Who? Who?
let the young guys like peter, lit and pea.
they have the energy and sense of adventure for it.
Lemme just grab my cane and we can go over and watch together. Have any beer?
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I'm not about to say that you can't do it. It's Internet drama and all that, but they won't change and you won't change.
someones got to change their adult diapers.
Who? Who?
let the young guys like peter, lit and pea.
they have the energy and sense of adventure for it.
Lemme just grab my cane and we can go over and watch together. Have any beer?
i have some jack daniels.
and i think my wife bought some ice and diet coke.
no popcorn, but i have roasted peanuts in the shell.
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That'll do fine. Them young folks can entertain us some now.
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There's no one to annoy on the site
It's dead most of the time
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they're all on their way back from london
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Did you have a good time?
How come you've already made 40 posts on this site??!
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40??!
don't know? saturday night and i'm at home and bored?
yeah it was good, thanks. nice not to have too far to go home
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I'm glad you enjoyed it
Any gossip, scandal?? :o
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not really afaik.
i thought you said gossip and scandal was an "NT" thing :P
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Did you have a good time?
How come you've already made 40 posts on this site??!
Intensity is like crack; people keep trying to quit, but they almost always come back.
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internet in general is like crack
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Lol Touche!
I never said I didn't have NT in me - I just hate that aspect of me
Or more like I take it in turns to hate the NT part or the AS part in rotation!
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I'm glad you enjoyed it
Any gossip, scandal?? :o
Was there another IRL meetup?
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yep. 10 minutes walk from where i live, conveniently. ~20 people there
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Yes, it is rather addictive on here
Nothing happens on AV unless I start it a lot of the time!
I@m rescuing abandoned threads, advising people who are really low,
recommendign articles or books and sometimes when anotehr person comes on sayign how shit their life is
I think 'Will someone else f-ing get that for a change!'
It really anoys me how slow people are to respond to a call for help post - like it's not 'fun' so they
can't be bothered
They do respond but sometimes not very quickly
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20 is a really good turnout!
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yep. 10 minutes walk from where i live, conveniently. ~20 people there
That sounds really fun, but 20 is a lot. I have met many autistic and Aspie children, but only a few other adult Aspies IRL. The only semi-famous one was Temple Grandin, because she lives nearby and was speaking to a church group.
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You've met Temple Grandin!
She's my heroine!
What was she like?
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true, but smaller groups splintered off and did different things for a while and at the end we just had 5-6 left.
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i've read her book about animal behaviour
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You've met Temple Grandin!
She's my heroine!
What was she like?
She was really nice. She was wearing an embroidered Western shirt like she often does and she gave me some advice for my daughter. She autographed two copies of her book Thinking in Pictures for my daughter and her special education teacher. I already had my own copy, which I have read twice, but I forgot to bring it with me and I thought my daughter might like to have her own autographed copy someday.
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Sounds brilliant
She is giving a talk over here but it costs £70-odd :'(
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Sounds brilliant
She is giving a talk over here but it costs £70-odd :'(
That sounds like a lot of money. I guess Temple Grandin would need to recoup her travel expenses and some fee and the people sponsoring it would need to recoup the costs of the venue, but even still, that is a lot of money. This talk I went to was free, but the church group was sponsoring it and we met in their church. She did not have to travel far at all to give this talk. She was promoting her book Animals in Translation, I think. At least they had copies of it and Thinking in Pictures there for sale.
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Professionals are being charged £100!
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Professionals are being charged £100!
What kind of talk is this, anyway? Who could afford to pay those prices?
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http://www.autismawarenesscentre.org/conferences/may-17-18-2007-birmingham-uk.html?Itemid=86
I would certainly struggle to pay it
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Lol Touche!
I never said I didn't have NT in me - I just hate that aspect of me
Or more like I take it in turns to hate the NT part or the AS part in rotation!
Unless it's part of the DSM or seriously discussed by known researchers, it's just more of your BS. I'm sick and tired of your mo, where you label anything that you disapprove of as "NT". Grow the fuck up and understand that PEOPLE are different. Who made you the authority on AS behaviour anyway?
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I think you said it with so much more
power intensity than I could muster. This is what I was trying to say with my very first post in response to her, uhm, OK ... BS. She insulted and tried to shock me (possibly? ... can't think of any other reason to post what she posted next) without knowing anything about how much living and dying I've seen of this world or how close to impossible it would be to even get my attention, saying nothing, yet, of actually shocking me in any way.
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Ok point taken
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You had an oppurtuntiy to do great things. You actually gathered the attention of several people, here. I can think of no greater waste of self than the squandering of another's attention span. I wish you recovery.
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I rebelled to gain peer acceptance at school. When I was 9, I used to answer the register with "yo" instead of yes". It made everybody laugh, because the teacher screamed and went so nuts. She told me if I did it on friday I would go to the head. SO on friday when she said my name I jumped out of my chair, and started dancing and reciting a song I had heard
"yo, ill give it ya, no triva, rolled like cocaine straight from bolivia". She went NUTS shouting crazlyly and pointing at me wildly, and I went to the head. But everybody was laughing at (with?) me, so I went down happy.
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What arrogance!
At least I can own up to my faults!
Who says I wanted the attention anyway??
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maybe you were viewed as being arrogant when you made your AS criteria's and dx's.
owning up to your faults is one thing. doing something productive about them is quite another.
we all want attention. you were right though, you can keep a thread running very well. you just happen to be better about getting attention than others.
an NT quality? ;)
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Hmmm
I have a certain amount of the NT in me, for sure
I am trying to improve myself - I see a psychotherapist every week and we work on anger management lol
Sometimes it works, sometimes not.... :laugh:
And I am trying to find another job, so I can be more productive
I've also applied to join the mental health action group with a view to attending council service user
meetings, to put an AS viewpoint, as there are currently no specific services for people with AS in my town
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Hopefully they'll realise your AS viewpoint isn't necessarily representative of all aspies.
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Is there something intrinsically wrong with my viewpoint as opposed to yours/the one on this site then?
If I'm going to the effort of getting my viewpoint across, that's what they will hear -
If that inspires you to get your own viewpoint heard on your own local council, to give a more 'balanced'/drunk/drugged?? AS view, that's all the better Dunc ;)
I'm sure they have the intelligence to work out for themselves that I'm not ALL people with AS
Don't worry tho, the process has been so agonisingly slow so far i don't expect to be making an appearance at a
meeting anytime soon!
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If that inspires you to get your own viewpoint heard on your own local council, to give a more 'balanced'/drunk/drugged?? AS view, that's all the better Dunc ;)
lol. i must admit, I laughed at loud at that.
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'Open minded' and 'rational' rather than 'prejudiced' and 'making blanket assumptions based on flimsy evidence' I was thinking, actually. I had to LMAO at the second bit though - I've been working to provide a voice for auties who want to make changes online, as well as advocating for my son at local level and helping make local service providers aware of other perspectives.
Oh and are you sure they have the intelligence? Thats an AS trait surely? AS = good, NT = bad/anything Esme doesn't like. :smarty:
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Having somewhat rigid views isn't mutually exclusive to having intelligence
(Apologies I thought you mean was I sure I had the intelligence lol)
I'm open to modifiying my world view, but just cos you have different views to me doesn't mean I should just jump ship and take on your views wholesale imo
Hey, I made Tom laugh and he's been feeling down lately, so I can't be that bad! ::)
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When I said a lot ofthat stuff about the AS/NT dichotomy I was trying to defend the AV site from invaders as well
and beign cheeky deliberately
In fact I was astonished that some people got offended by what I said - I don't believe a lot of the crap I spout, I just say it for comic effect a lot of the time lol
I'm playing to the crowd a lot of the time, imagining what will make people laugh
It's posting as performance art! :laugh:
All my bfs have been NT, so I don't hate them
I used to wind one bf up something chronic by spouting the NT stuff tho - he hated the term
and it became 'the word that cannot be said' lol
But the term AS was pretty much the same ie he was embarrassed by it and said 'It's not something to boast about is it?!' :(
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Nobody expects you to take on their views wholesale, any more than I would change my world view to adopt someone else's - but opening your mind a crack, recognising your prejudices and questioning your assumptions is always helpful.
And I didn't say having rigid views precluded intelligence, I expressed mock disbelief that you hadn't claimed intelligence for the aspies as a desirable trait, considering that you tend to proclaim all behaviours/attributes you disapprove of as 'NT'. :P
Yay for making Tom laugh anyway. ;)
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When I said a lot ofthat stuff about the AS/NT dichotomy I was trying to defend the AV site from invaders as well
and beign cheeky deliberately
In fact I was astonished that some people got offended by what I said - I don't believe a lot of the crap I spout, I just say it for comic effect a lot of the time lol
I'm playing to the crowd a lot of the time, imagining what will make people laugh
It's posting as performance art! :laugh:
All my bfs have been NT, so I don't hate them
I used to wind one bf up something chronic by spouting the NT stuff tho - he hated the term
and it became 'the word that cannot be said' lol
But the term AS was pretty much the same ie he was embarrassed by it and said 'It's not something to boast about is it?!' :(
Why the fuck do you people keep out Americans anyways ??
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When I said a lot ofthat stuff about the AS/NT dichotomy I was trying to defend the AV site from invaders as well
and beign cheeky deliberately
In fact I was astonished that some people got offended by what I said - I don't believe a lot of the crap I spout, I just say it for comic effect a lot of the time lol
I'm playing to the crowd a lot of the time, imagining what will make people laugh
It's posting as performance art! :laugh:
All my bfs have been NT, so I don't hate them
I used to wind one bf up something chronic by spouting the NT stuff tho - he hated the term
and it became 'the word that cannot be said' lol
But the term AS was pretty much the same ie he was embarrassed by it and said 'It's not something to boast about is it?!' :(
Why the fuck do you people keep out Americans anyways ??
Because of stupid, gung-ho bastards like yourself.
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Ive explained this before
a) It's not my site so I don't make the rules
b) I assume it's because it keeps things relatively small and manageable
Look at WP - anyone allowed and chaos/bannings/emnity appear to reign
Whereas AV hardly ever has bannings and we all love each other
(well perhaps not but it doesnt get anywhere near as nasty)
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Ive explained this before
a) It's not my site so I don't make the rules
b) I assume it's because it keeps things relatively small and manageable
Look at WP - anyone allowed and chaos/bannings/emnity appear to reign
Whereas AV hardly ever has bannings and we all love each other
(well perhaps not but it doesnt get anywhere near as nasty)
We don't love each other, nor do we pan -- err, "ban" -- selected people either.
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Hmmm
Well i think RobertN might disagree with you there re. the panning
Laz and Omega haven't had too warm a reception lately either
(I'm not trying to drag things up again tho)
There's no love lost between me and certain people on AV anyway, I was being ironic lol
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I tried to be performance art with my crazy cat lover, fat nunchuka psycho and latino gay hooker. I hope it kept morale up.
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I tried to be performance art with my crazy cat lover, fat nunchuka psycho and latino gay hooker. I hope it kept morale up.
Keep those saucy text messages to yourself, sweetie, k? ;o
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Ive explained this before
a) It's not my site so I don't make the rules
b) I assume it's because it keeps things relatively small and manageable
Look at WP - anyone allowed and chaos/bannings/emnity appear to reign
Whereas AV hardly ever has bannings and we all love each other
(well perhaps not but it doesnt get anywhere near as nasty)
i was banned, then again, i am an american.
but was peaguy the first UK based member to get the axe?
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Not sure
He could have been in theory I suppose...
What an accolade!
Tbh I'm amazed ive never been banned from there as I've been really provoking and antagonistic at times
I was really quite nasty towards Andrew and a few others on one occasion - I was upset but nevertheless
I went for the jugular on there
It was quite funny to see his very hasty damage limitation exercise - would have made Tony Blair proud lol
Perhaps they needed me to drum up interest in the site? :laugh:
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Not sure
He could have been in theory I suppose...
What an accolade!
Tbh I'm amazed ive never been banned from there as I've been really provoking and antagonistic at times
I was really quite nasty towards Andrew and a few others on one occasion - I was upset but nevertheless
I went for the jugular on there
It was quite funny to see his very hasty damage limitation exercise - would have made Tony Blair proud lol
Perhaps they needed me to drum up interest in the site? :laugh:
I think the same thing happened to me "damage limitation" when I got raggy on new years. And, I think that's partly why neither of us were ever banned- if they did, it would add fuel to those fires - safer to placate us.
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It was quite funny to see his very hasty damage limitation exercise
what does this mean?
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You reckon?
What can we do if we're banned tho?
Burn andrew's house down?!
Am I that feared?
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Removing the whole thread
Talking to me on IM when he'd never done so in the past
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maybe you and la mala are exceptions, because you are strong posters and well liked.
maybe the elitist cliques are a part of every forum site....
....smashes, yet another of the ascanians angles.
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Lol
I am not well-liked
Tolerated I'd say cos I can offer advice and keep threads moving
I dont feel ive received my dues off some people on there tho - they delight in
sidelining me
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Lol
I am not well-liked
Tolerated I'd say cos I can offer advice and keep threads moving
I dont feel ive received my dues off some people on there tho - they delight in
sidelining me
seems like you brits like to sideline people, period.
classism and grouping people seem so important to you fine folk.
all brits, btw.
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I disagree
I used to post on Aspie Hangout - a predominantly American Delphi Forum and it was liek being invisible
Every so often Id have a rant about being ignored and peopel woudl apologise and it would carry right on
I read far more than I posted
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peasants?
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There was a v interesting peron ont here - possibly called photek but kept changing his name
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i wonder if it was ante.
i have always been intrigued by that guy.
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he was a tcollege i think
he had problems with women
he had done a lot of 'work' on himself mentally to toughen himself up - he used to describe the process required to
get yourself in same mindset as nts
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he was a tcollege i think
he had problems with women
he had done a lot of 'work' on himself mentally to toughen himself up - he used to describe the process required to
get yourself in same mindset as nts
this could be an interesting philosophy/discussion.
where did this bloke get off to?
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Sounds like techstep.
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Possibly still on Aspie Hangout
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Didn't techstep used to post on aspie hangout? cos that sounds familiar. he's pretty tough on himself. (if its the same guy, he posts here btw)
*never mind...
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Like a form of mental martial arts, 'torquing up'
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techstepgenr8tion (http://www.intensitysquared.com/index.php?topic=1575.0)
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I used to think he was being too hard on himself - over-analysing everything
But he encapsulated a lot of how things are in a very astute way
Like the Aspie wholesome 'glow'
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Yes that sounds like his type of name
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I used to think he was being too hard on himself - over-analysing everything
But he encapsulated a lot of how things are in a very astute way
Like the Aspie wholesome 'glow'
Agreed. I've always liked him and it would be cool if he hung around here more.
I think he's still on WP as a mod, though I don't know how active.
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He was a bit of a guru for me when I was learning about AS
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isn't techstep an american?
if he is then he wouldn't be able to post on AV.
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He is, but I came across him on Aspie Hangout, which is American
I was on there before discovering Aspie Village
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He is, but I came across him on Aspie Hangout, which is American
I was on there before discovering Aspie Village
ok.
i thought you meant both places.
i am having an ADD week.
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i don't know him but it would make some sense as "photek" is the name of a drum and bass artist and techstep is obviously into his drum n bass.
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He is a good bloke
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i know that he likes drums and bass.
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Hmmm
Well i think RobertN might disagree with you there re. the panning
There was a very good reason for the ban, but the ban was still removed as soon as possible. Intensity's not in the habit of banning people other than minors.
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Ok John
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I like Techstep an all. He also makes some good tunes. 8)
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will have to have a listen some time.
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will have to have a listen some time.
Check it out - http://www.mp3.com/5pryme/artists/21723569/summary.html&q=5PRYME :)
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cheers. bookmarked for later - dnb will wake me up too much now..
did you check out the amon tobin link that i posted in the other thread? his stuff is a bit of an obsession of mine..
good if you like dnb that's a bit experimental but loud and visceral
Mix here:
http://rapidshare.com/files/20615032/amon_tobin_-_ddl.rar (http://rapidshare.com/files/20615032/amon_tobin_-_ddl.rar)
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esme what did you argue with andrew so badly about?
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cheers. bookmarked for later - dnb will wake me up too much now..
did you check out the amon tobin link that i posted in the other thread? his stuff is a bit of an obsession of mine..
good if you like dnb that's a bit experimental but loud and visceral
Mix here:
http://rapidshare.com/files/20615032/amon_tobin_-_ddl.rar (http://)
Nice. I likey experimental/visceral - my preferred electronic subgenres are IDM, harsh electro and goa, so this should be up my street. I checked out the link you posted the other day but didn't have much time to listen sadly. :-\
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will have to have a listen some time.
Check it out - http://www.mp3.com/5pryme/artists/21723569/summary.html&q=5PRYME :)
Very curious.
I tried to load that page twice and my browser crashed both times. Could it have some conflict on the page that scares off Firefox?
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I organised a meetup in Birmingham last year to go and see a film - the one with Signourney Weaver playing an Autistic person - 'Snow Cake'
It was showing at an arts cinema in B'ham called the mac (Midlands Arts Centre), which is a really nice place - not too busy, nice restaurent/cafe and bar - perfect for an AV meet in my opinion, as everything was there in the one place, no need to trek all over the place and cause additional stress
5 people from AV attended on the day; 3 to see the film and we had to meet up with 2 others all the way back at B'ham station as that suited them better
I met up first with a person called Philip at B'ham station (Philip the Great on AV)
I recognised him from some of the photos of previous AV meets
I said Hi to him and he said 'Oh, I didn't think it was you as you looked too old to be posting on AV'
How's that for an opening gambit! lol :clap:
I realised that he was displaying a typical AS lack of tact and so continued to give him the time of day but I was
VERY offended in all honesty - that totally crushed me!
I am always complimented on the very fact that I DON'T look my actual age (41) so this was totally new to me and therefore a real blind-sider
I had also recently split with my bf and was feeling somewhat emotionally fragile
I had HOPED that the meet would be an opportunity to get out of myself more and feel better.....
What am I meant to do?? - take it in good spirit but how can you carry on interacting in a totally natural way when a person has said somthing like that to you!?
Andrew turned up next - friendly bloke, touch of the 'Head Boy' about him tho, like he's really in charge, despite it being my f-ing meet and me already being pissd off about the Philip the Not So Great comment!
Taking into account as well that stations/anywhere in public really really stress me out so the longer we're hanging around there, the more my stress is going to build up
We waited around for Tom whose train/coach was late and this involved going out into B'ham to find somewhere to get a drink/something to eat while we waited for Tom to arrive
I would have been happy to sit at a cafe within the station but oh no, Philip wants to go out of station - see a theme developing here?
Then when we found somewhere there was further dithering about and we had to come out of there as Philip wanted somewhere to eat his sandwiches outside
Philip's main interaction with me appears to be a bemused/amused expression and taking the piss out of my Midlands accent, so that I get the distinct impression I'm not there as an equal person, just a figure of fun or something
Something akin to patting a small furry animal on the head and then going 'Anyway, so you were saying Andrew' etc
My tolerance was waning rapidly....
And Andrew seemed to be getting p-ed off with me getting p-ed off...
Which p-ed me off even more! >:(
We finally met up with Tom at the station and got a taxi to the mac
(with hardly any time to spare I might add!)
We met my friend Lee there , as arranged
Now I could have just have got a lift with Lee to this place and saved myself all the hassle of faffing about with the other
2....
In fact, I'd initially arranged to just meet up with another Aspie friend and just us two go and see the film!
But in my infinite wisdom I'd decided to open it up to others on the AV board
My Aspie friend then decided he didnt want to come as he wasn't that comfortable in groups
I felt guilty about changing the arrangement and wished I'd stuck to the original arrangement to be quite honest
as he was good company
Lee didnt stay after the film and when i asked him after what he'd thought of my Aspie bretheren (as I thought he might possibly have AS himself) he said 'They were like a cross between University Challenge and Monty Python' (a reference to Andrew and Philip I might add as Tom had trouble gettign a word in edgeways with these two witterign on about their f-ing statistics!
I had to lol at Lee's assessment, but it made me think he prob doesn't have AS as he evidently didnt feel he had much in common with them. I felt somewhat protective of them at this comment also tho - God knows why!
I also could have just gone home with Lee at this point but no, the masochist in me decided to soldier on....
Anyway, after Lee left, we had a drink in the bar there (and I mean A drink!)
I had alcohol, the other 3 had non-alcoholic drinks - I paid for the round
We never had another round.....
Apparently people were 'saving themselves' for the pub when we met up with the other 2 later
My meet evidently wasn't 'the main event' for them....
So we sit in the bar for a while and Andrew and Philip spend a fair amount of the time discussing stats regarding local councils, postal districts and crime rate statistics
I try to join in but it's pretty evident they arent that interested in my contributions
We did all converse with each other but there was a strong feeling coming off these 2 that they were finding each others' far better company than my own
The other member there was Tom, who is always good company imo :)
I was getting decidedly pissed off that we werent drinking and no one else had even offered to buy another round
After an hour or so of this, we had to catch a f-ing bus all the way back into B'ham to meet Mike (another good friend of mine, good bloke, won't have a word said against him) and David1978 - a close friend of Andrew and Mike
And, get this - they have come in the f-ing car!
So would it have killed them to get in said f-ing car and drive to meet US at the mac, as the whole plan initially intended???
When we'd done more of the f-ing incompetent dithering that was becoming a distinct feature of the day, we eventually located them at the station
In fact, the meet should have been called Birmingham New Street Station meet as we spent most of out f-ing time at the place!
David doesn't greet me in a friendly way, he says hello warily, with a f-ing 'what have we got here?!' type hostile frown on his face and said frown is to be seen on his face whenever I glance at him - like im evidently not what he expected
Nice, tolerant attitude he had going on there... ::)
I might add, that with ALL the ASers Ive ever met, ALL have been extremely tolerant and nice. There's been the distinct lack of threat coming off them that I seem to feel when mixing with non-autistic people.
This David is definitely a different flava of Aser tho......make of that what you will
...Oh yes, and he's self-diagnosed
So my ego and nerves are taking a fair old shredding...
I'll do next part later - there's more!
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It's Me! Lol
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David doesn't greet me in a friendly way, he says hello warily, with a f-ing 'what have we got here?!' type hostile frown on his face and said frown is to be seen on his face whenever I glance at him - like im evidently not what he expected
Nice, tolerant attitude he had going on there... ::)
LOL! I can just imagine that. I never interpreted in that way though. I though it was nervousness at big social meets.
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Apparently people were 'saving themselves' for the pub when we met up with the other 2 later
It is like virginity. You save yourself for the "marriage" to that one special drink. It also means you can get more ppl to buy you drinks >:D
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Well in my experience it's the type of narrow-eyed look that men give when they arent impressed with how you look or something, a look people give to a person they dont like the look of
He's entitled to his opinion of me, fair enough but the whole idea of meeting up with other Aspies is to me, the chance to socialise with open-minded, non-judgmental people, for whom image and looks arent the be all and end all!
That generally does tend to be my experience with others with AS but in his case I make an exception!
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It often only works once tho - taking advantage of a person's generosity...
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It often only works once tho - taking advantage of a person's generosity...
Not with the right people.
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Lol
So you're actively advocating it then?
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I don't even know what IT is.
Just stating a fact.
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It often only works once tho - taking advantage of a person's generosity...
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I disagree. Like I said, depends on the person.
A lot of people are gullible as hell.
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I think i do agree with you actually, thinking about it
I have another 'friend' who I dont realy class as a friend and he will meet up to go to cinema but if we go to cafe he always lets me pay for things - never offers to pay himself for a change and then he wiould usually come abck to my house and have a meal
He is unemployed and always looks semi-homeless so I feel a bit sorry for him - he definitely plays this up tho
My Mum dislikes him - says he's a scrounger
So you are right
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Hell, if someone ALWAYS offers to pay, I let them do so.
I'm rather used to being relatively poor, and I figure whatever.
Probably sound a lot like your quasi-friend. On the other hand,
my friends (when I had them) would never make such foolish
offers, unless I mentioned that I didn't have enough money to
do something - in which case they might (usually just loans though);
I'd do the same for them too.
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Is it foolish to be generous tho?
I feel this 'friend' takes advantage of me and that makes me feel stupid but on the other
hand I see it in a way like a test of my generosity/Christian principles
ie if something is hard to do that doesnt necessarily make it a bad thing and if it's helping another
person shouldn't that be the main thing?
I have a real moral dilemma over this person
Each time I drop contact with him as I get fed up of feeling 'used', I have this nagging voice saying 'You took
the easy way out - you aren't a truly 'Christian'/good person as self-interest has won the day'
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And that's the eternal dilemma when you make the mistake of considering self-interest evil.
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I don't consider it 'evil' as such, just not always equating with being a truly 'good' or moral person
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And Im certainly not holding myself up as some saint or anything :laugh:
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Is it foolish to be generous tho?
I feel this 'friend' takes advantage of me and that makes me feel stupid but on the other
hand I see it in a way like a test of my generosity/Christian principles
ie if something is hard to do that doesnt necessarily make it a bad thing and if it's helping another
person shouldn't that be the main thing?
I have a real moral dilemma over this person
Each time I drop contact with him as I get fed up of feeling 'used', I have this nagging voice saying 'You took
the easy way out - you aren't a truly 'Christian'/good person as self-interest has won the day'
But if this person is using you, maybe you are better off dropping contact.
As an alternative, you could stop offering to pay for him, then maybe you would not feel so used.
I don't think being a moral person is equivalent to being a doormat.
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Agreed
That's why I do drop contact
Then a year or more can go by and he'll email me out of the blue and I will sometimes
resume contact
It's cos my life is so devoid of better options a lot of the time!
He's the only person I know who has such a strong interest in films and would prob come to see any film
or play with me if I asked (I dont pay for his ticket lol)
How sad is that?! ::)
I have other friends who would do this but not so consistently and I can't have the same nerdy film conversations with them as with him
Btw I realise this is very off-topic but no-one seems interested in talking about AV anymore
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Btw I realise this is very off-topic but no-one seems interested in talking about AV anymore
That's because the Internet drama's gone. Now it's just another forum.
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It's not as though you are not using them as well, to make you
feel the better Christian. Do whichever makes you feel better.
Hell, maybe even discuss the issue with him, why keep this
only to yourself?
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I spent ages typing out that description of the Bham meet tho and no one appears to have appreciated it :'(
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Frankly, esme, I thought you sounded pretty intolerant and bitchy in it, but I didn't care enough to start an argument about it.
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I can't talk to him about stuff like that - he doesn't seem tuned in to emotional stuff
He is mildly autistic apparently
He's a very odd combination
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repeated for further attention -
I organised a meetup in Birmingham last year to go and see a film - the one with Signourney Weaver playing an Autistic person - 'Snow Cake'
It was showing at an arts cinema in B'ham called the mac (Midlands Arts Centre), which is a really nice place - not too busy, nice restaurent/cafe and bar - perfect for an AV meet in my opinion, as everything was there in the one place, no need to trek all over the place and cause additional stress
5 people from AV attended on the day; 3 to see the film and we had to meet up with 2 others all the way back at B'ham station as that suited them better
I met up first with a person called Philip at B'ham station (Philip the Great on AV)
I recognised him from some of the photos of previous AV meets
I said Hi to him and he said 'Oh, I didn't think it was you as you looked too old to be posting on AV'
How's that for an opening gambit! lol Clap
I realised that he was displaying a typical AS lack of tact and so continued to give him the time of day but I was
VERY offended in all honesty - that totally crushed me!
I am always complimented on the very fact that I DON'T look my actual age (41) so this was totally new to me and therefore a real blind-sider
I had also recently split with my bf and was feeling somewhat emotionally fragile
I had HOPED that the meet would be an opportunity to get out of myself more and feel better.....
What am I meant to do?? - take it in good spirit but how can you carry on interacting in a totally natural way when a person has said somthing like that to you!?
Andrew turned up next - friendly bloke, touch of the 'Head Boy' about him tho, like he's really in charge, despite it being my f-ing meet and me already being pissd off about the Philip the Not So Great comment!
Taking into account as well that stations/anywhere in public really really stress me out so the longer we're hanging around there, the more my stress is going to build up
We waited around for Tom whose train/coach was late and this involved going out into B'ham to find somewhere to get a drink/something to eat while we waited for Tom to arrive
I would have been happy to sit at a cafe within the station but oh no, Philip wants to go out of station - see a theme developing here?
Then when we found somewhere there was further dithering about and we had to come out of there as Philip wanted somewhere to eat his sandwiches outside
Philip's main interaction with me appears to be a bemused/amused expression and taking the piss out of my Midlands accent, so that I get the distinct impression I'm not there as an equal person, just a figure of fun or something
Something akin to patting a small furry animal on the head and then going 'Anyway, so you were saying Andrew' etc
My tolerance was waning rapidly....
And Andrew seemed to be getting p-ed off with me getting p-ed off...
Which p-ed me off even more! Angry
We finally met up with Tom at the station and got a taxi to the mac
(with hardly any time to spare I might add!)
We met my friend Lee there , as arranged
Now I could have just have got a lift with Lee to this place and saved myself all the hassle of faffing about with the other
2....
In fact, I'd initially arranged to just meet up with another Aspie friend and just us two go and see the film!
But in my infinite wisdom I'd decided to open it up to others on the AV board
My Aspie friend then decided he didnt want to come as he wasn't that comfortable in groups
I felt guilty about changing the arrangement and wished I'd stuck to the original arrangement to be quite honest
as he was good company
Lee didnt stay after the film and when i asked him after what he'd thought of my Aspie bretheren (as I thought he might possibly have AS himself) he said 'They were like a cross between University Challenge and Monty Python' (a reference to Andrew and Philip I might add as Tom had trouble gettign a word in edgeways with these two witterign on about their f-ing statistics!
I had to lol at Lee's assessment, but it made me think he prob doesn't have AS as he evidently didnt feel he had much in common with them. I felt somewhat protective of them at this comment also tho - God knows why!
I also could have just gone home with Lee at this point but no, the masochist in me decided to soldier on....
Anyway, after Lee left, we had a drink in the bar there (and I mean A drink!)
I had alcohol, the other 3 had non-alcoholic drinks - I paid for the round
We never had another round.....
Apparently people were 'saving themselves' for the pub when we met up with the other 2 later
My meet evidently wasn't 'the main event' for them....
So we sit in the bar for a while and Andrew and Philip spend a fair amount of the time discussing stats regarding local councils, postal districts and crime rate statistics
I try to join in but it's pretty evident they arent that interested in my contributions
We did all converse with each other but there was a strong feeling coming off these 2 that they were finding each others' far better company than my own
The other member there was Tom, who is always good company imo Smiley
I was getting decidedly pissed off that we werent drinking and no one else had even offered to buy another round
After an hour or so of this, we had to catch a f-ing bus all the way back into B'ham to meet Mike (another good friend of mine, good bloke, won't have a word said against him) and David1978 - a close friend of Andrew and Mike
And, get this - they have come in the f-ing car!
So would it have killed them to get in said f-ing car and drive to meet US at the mac, as the whole plan initially intended???
When we'd done more of the f-ing incompetent dithering that was becoming a distinct feature of the day, we eventually located them at the station
In fact, the meet should have been called Birmingham New Street Station meet as we spent most of out f-ing time at the place!
David doesn't greet me in a friendly way, he says hello warily, with a f-ing 'what have we got here?!' type hostile frown on his face and said frown is to be seen on his face whenever I glance at him - like im evidently not what he expected
Nice, tolerant attitude he had going on there... Roll Eyes
I might add, that with ALL the ASers Ive ever met, ALL have been extremely tolerant and nice. There's been the distinct lack of threat coming off them that I seem to feel when mixing with non-autistic people.
This David is definitely a different flava of Aser tho......make of that what you will
...Oh yes, and he's self-diagnosed
So my ego and nerves are taking a fair old shredding...
I'll do next part later - there's more!
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See - Im always the one at fault, it's like people can treat me like shit but I must just tolerate it! :grrr:
Why is everyone else always so much better than me!?
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Don't bother re-posting it
It's peoples' lack of appreciation for hat I do that really pisses me off
I mean Spag asks what happened, I tell him AT LENGTH and get jack shit response to it!
I give up with people - let them all think im a waste of space I don't care anymore!
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But the idea of some kind of a 'recruitment drive' for your site looks a little ridiculous....
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But the idea of some kind of a 'recruitment drive' for your site looks a little ridiculous....
It's supposed to be ridiculous, if you mean the News Box.
I didn't know what to say about the Birmingham meet-up, but it must have taken a great deal of effort to do it.
Also, just because a person looks at you in a certain way, they don't necessarily mean what you assume they do. You and I are not mind readers. David could have been feeling shy and awkward or a hundred other things that were not negative toward you or how you looked.
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Hi esme
Nice pic! you deceived us with all this "ugly" talk. and i agree you don't look 41.
A few things occured to me reading your mini-autobiography - hope you don't mind me making some comments - this is also kind of advice to myself as I sometimes think in the same kind of ways as you've written about.
I met up first with a person called Philip at B'ham station (Philip the Great on AV)
I recognised him from some of the photos of previous AV meets
I said Hi to him and he said 'Oh, I didn't think it was you as you looked too old to be posting on AV'
I met philip at the meet on saturday. To be honest I thought he was a bit of nob as well, one of the only ones i thought that about, but not for the same kind of reasons. He had a slightly irritating pathetic yet arrogant way about him that got on my nerves.
I honestly couldn't give a shit though, as I was just there to enjoy the day for whatever it turned out to be. But here's an example: when we arrived in greenwich people said they wanted to go for a picnic in the park as it was such nice weather. some had brought food but most hadn't so went to M&S to get some picnic ingredients. Arrived at the park, he says that he didn't realise we were supposed to buy food so he didn't have anything to eat. Having ended up buying far too much food, and feeling charitable, I said he could share some of what i had. While everyone went off to sit on the grass, he announced that it was too hot for him and he didnt like sitting on grass so could we go and sit on a bench in the shade. Having offered food i had to join just him and Paul (v nice guy)for a bit but felt i was missing out on chatting to the others so left him with some sandwiches and joined the rest. He didn't really bother to thank me.
How's that for an opening gambit! lol :clap:
I realised that he was displaying a typical AS lack of tact and so continued to give him the time of day but I was
VERY offended in all honesty - that totally crushed me!
A similar thing happened with Punctual - she had wandered off and came back and said to Omega female "oh are you the only girl left with all these men?" Susan, who was fairly short hair and who was also there looked pretty pissed off..(guess that proves theories about Omega's looks wrong..)
What am I meant to do?? - take it in good spirit but how can you carry on interacting in a totally natural way when a person has said somthing like that to you!?
Think " it's probably an aspie trait - (not just the tactlessness but having no clue about what age people look.)" or "that guy's an idiot"
then remind yourself of all the people who complemented you about how you look, the experience you've had that he hasn't, then forgive and move on
stations/anywhere in public really really stress me out
I would have been happy to sit at a cafe within the station but oh no, Philip wants to go out of station
Maybe Philip finds stations (incl the cafe) just as stressful as you do?
Something akin to patting a small furry animal on the head and then going 'Anyway, so you were saying Andrew' etc
He probably felt more in touch with Andrew being a more similar age to him and having similar interests..
Andrew.. touch of the 'Head Boy' about him tho,
lol, yes a bit, but i thought he was a very friendly bloke. Can't believe he's only 23. I liked him
Re-read these:
despite it being my f-ing meet
I had HOPED that the meet would be an opportunity to get out of myself more and feel better.....
My meet evidently wasn't 'the main event' for them....
We never had another round.....
Apparently people were 'saving themselves' for the pub when we met up with the other 2 later
...
I was getting decidedly pissed off that we werent drinking
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as the whole plan initially intended
It sounds to me like you built this day up, and the people going on it, *far* too much in your head. I'm often guilty of this too, but seeing it written down makes it
jump out at me.
You wanted a day when everyone would follow your plan and you'd be in charge because it was your meet in your city.
Punctual did this last week also, wanting to give very specific advice and be the "tour guide" and the centre of attention.
But people just wanted to explore for themselves and get on with it.
If anything didn't go quite to plan you got upset and are now blaming them. I do this also. I go out with people and even though there's a great film/gig/restaurant that i want to see on, and think everyone should go
the majority rule decides to go to some shit club/pub like we always do, and everyone except me is enjoying themselves, while i'm either banging on about how much better the other thing would've been or sulking and thinking "these people are too different from me. i should stick to my other friends who are more into my kind of things..(except it's then the same story with them)"
If instead you'd just relaxed and just gone with the flow without too much expectation you'd probably have enjoyed it more. But it's a tricky one.
And Andrew seemed to be getting p-ed off with me getting p-ed off...
Which p-ed me off even more! >:(
If you'd just chilled and said "what will be will be" everyone would have been less pissed off.
David doesn't greet me in a friendly way, he says hello warily, with a f-ing 'what have we got here?!' type hostile frown on his face and said frown is to be seen on his face whenever I glance at him - like im evidently not what he expected
this is *your* head reading between the lines and saying all this. He might just have that kind of expression. People tell me all the time i look pissed off when i'm not.
This David is definitely a different flava of Aser tho......make of that what you will
...Oh yes, and he's self-diagnosed
here we go again with the NT accusations..
I didn't really talk much to him so can't really comment much but you really have to show that you don't care and give people the benefit of the doubt.. even if they look like they're looking disapprovingly just pretend they aren't and act as if they were being friendly. This way you'll feel better about the interaction and chances are they won't feel so disapproving as they'll see that actually you're ok.
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No, I meant that one minute im being asked how I find the site, next minute totally deffed out!
That's how it feels anyway
Lets all agree on one thing - i'm not really suitable for this site am I? Lol
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I mean Spag asks what happened, I tell him AT LENGTH and get jack shit response to it!
here you go again assuming the worst.
patience woman! it takes a while to respond to such a lengthy rant!
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Lets all agree on one thing - i'm not really suitable for this site am I? Lol
As long as you speak your mind and aren't easily offended, you are.
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Lets all agree on one thing - i'm not really suitable for this site am I? Lol
thats up to you really. considering we don't have a problem with gobshites, I'd say you are if you drop your guard slightly for your own enjoyment. your call, but you're more than welcome to post here...
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No, I meant that one minute im being asked how I find the site, next minute totally deffed out!
That's how it feels anyway
Lets all agree on one thing - i'm not really suitable for this site am I? Lol
Sorry, I don't know what this means. Would you mind explaining it?
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David doesn't greet me in a friendly way, he says hello warily, with a f-ing 'what have we got here?!' type hostile frown on his face and said frown is to be seen on his face whenever I glance at him - like im evidently not what he expected
this is *your* head reading between the lines and saying all this. He might just have that kind of expression. People tell me all the time i look pissed off when i'm not.
This David is definitely a different flava of Aser tho......make of that what you will
...Oh yes, and he's self-diagnosed
here we go again with the NT accusations..
I didn't really talk much to him so can't really comment much but you really have to show that you don't care and give people the benefit of the doubt.. even if they look like they're looking disapprovingly just pretend they aren't and act as if they were being friendly. This way you'll feel better about the interaction and chances are they won't feel so disapproving as they'll see that actually you're ok.
You said this a lot better than I could, Spaghetto.
:plus:
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I'm sorry for jumping to conclusions Spaghetto and thank you for the analysis of things - I find it very helpful
I know a lot of this stuff is me reacting in the wrong or an over the top way and so I often think oh well Im evidently just not a 'group person', but every so often I give it another go and this sort of thing happens lol
I only posted my photo a) because you had and b) to show that I don't look my age - in case people doubted this
part of the story
Then it was like absolutely no posts were received except Cal's
So I thought - oh God, they think I look so awful they dont even want to talk to me any more!
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I'm sorry for jumping to conclusions Spaghetto
I only posted my photo a) becasue you had and b) to show that I don't look my age - in case people doubted this
part of the story
Then it was like absolutely no posts were received except Cals
So I thought - oh God, they think I look so awful they dont even want to talk to me any more!
I think you look nice, Esme.
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Thanks Callaway, I certainly didn't want attention, just a sort of exposure therapy ie to see if I could cope with my photo being up there
My heart was beating very fast when I posted it lol
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How was it with that British-American language confusion again? :smarty:
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Then it was like absolutely no posts were received except Cal's
So I thought - oh God, they think I look so awful they dont even want to talk to me any more!
It was a slow time. Happens pretty regularly.
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'How was it with that British-American language confusion again?'
I don't understand what you are referring to here
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'How was it with that British-American language confusion again?'
I don't understand what you are referring to here
You wrote something that Callaway didn't understand. ???
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Ohsorry, 'deffed out' means ignored
I suppose it's from 'deafed out' ie peopel pretend they can't hear you or something
It's slang and i'm not that comfortable using it as I'm not very knwledgeable abotu most of it anyway
lol - it's probasbly so old-fashioned these days no one under 40 prob uses it lol
It's 'yoof talk' - young peoples' talk
I steer well clear of it most times as know how appalling it can look tryign to be 'cool' when you're
categorically not lol
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"totally deffed out"
sounds like a brummie expression to me.. getting totally ignored
esme - cool no worries. I just think you have to bury insecurities (like "noone's repsonded to me") sometimes. If you talk about them out loud then people might feel they have to tread on eggshells around you, and the next time they do respond to you, you might start thinking they only did to make you feel better after how you reacted the first time.
It was like this with my ex. I'd send her a text, and if i didn't get a reply within 5 minutes i'd start panicking, and have to sit on my hands to not ring or text again asking what was wrong.
still, not as bad as a guy at work who told us that stop himself phoning his ex he actually decided to microwave his phone.
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I understand American slang better than British. I blame the internet and TV.
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I don't get either. Barely understand internet abbreviations either - and I've been dealing with them for a while.
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funny there seem to be yanks on here using words like "arse" and "wanker"
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I know exactly what you mean Spaghetto
It's been the story of my life - people treading on eggshells round me - my Dad's said it so many times! ::)
And as for the getting paranoid about lack or text replies - that is me!
I used to have some humdinger rows with my ex about why didnt he reply sooner lol
Then I would not even have my phone switched on when he texted lol
And I find it very hard to cut contact with an ex if it hasn't ended acrimoniously
- as I see these people as friends foremost and dont want to lose them
But it can create all sorts of problems with the current bf
My ex came back to the house one day when my friend Lee was visiting and we were watching a DVD
My ex offered us both tea and I thought things were fine
After he says 'I saw the look he gave me while sitting on MY settee with MY girlfriend'
I said he was being ridicuous!
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funny there seem to be yanks on here using words like "arse" and "wanker"
There was a funny vote about whether "ass" or "arse" was the right word. For some reason "arse" won and from that some Yanks, like true aspies, use the word "arse". :asthing:
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I know what you mean, it's just that i would tend to bite my tongue rather than have an argument about it even though i'm dying to. But by the end it turned into me being clingy and going "what?" all the time so we ended up breaking up.
I'm going to bed now so any further non-replies are due to that! :P
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For some reason "arse" won
haha, good vote. It is a funnier word i reckon.
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arse sounds dirtier imo
I have exceedingly great problems with biting my tongue - it's not in my repertoire if too stressed lol
nite :)
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I have exceedingly great problems with biting my tongue - it's not in my repertoire if too stressed lol
It's easier to bite someone else's.
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Lol true, true...
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"totally deffed out"
sounds like a brummie expression to me.. getting totally ignored
..... like the word deaf, but deliberately misspelled to imply ignorance?
..... similar to saying, you "axed" the bitch a'nass lack to humm it, instead of "asking"?
....... but, what's a brummie? We have rummies.
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Lol true, true...
You have a very cute and mischievious smile, Esme. I like it, but you should not have run the picture through that "get older" Java thing that Spag posted.
(OK, now that was a joke. I thought I should point that out, since we have problems communicating. You're cute.)
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esme,
i don't understand why you keep saying that you didn't do it for the attention (anything you've done). it's quite obvious to me that you are an attention whore.
so am i.
if you quit living in denial, i may just welcome you to the club.
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Lol true, true...
You have a very cute and mischievious smile, Esme. I like it, but you should not have run the picture through that "get older" Java thing that Spag posted.
(OK, now that was a joke. I thought I should point that out, since we have problems communicating. You're cute.)
OUCH!! lol, glad its a joke!
For what its worth I really enjoyed the Snowcake day - I didnt mind sitting listening to Phil and Andrews blah, and I loved the film. I was a bit "over sensory" in Pizza Hut - It was so bright, nosiy crowded. I don't think I talked or noticed anyone , but I was sorry to hear that you were upset there later.
RE the eggshells thing - feel like this on AV a bit now, because of my new years rant. What I don't think people got is I really dont't mind people not replying to my posts - I see a post as casting a fishing line - if people are intrested great, if not, try another. But to invite me to a real life meetup and then have those 2 make a point to ignore me ( which is what i interpreted), upset me. But, I have accepted that those 2 have AS and that I possibly misinterpreted them, and am trying to wip my slate clean re. AV behaviour.
But really, anyone on AV can feel free to ignore my posts - if it doen't relate to them, I won't mind!
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Thanks Calamity :)
I might add that it is a fluke 'good' photo of me tho lol
It was taken when I was ill with flu at the time so Im possibly delerious and hence looking happy lol
Brummie is the term used to refer to a person from Birmingham, one of the largest cities in UK after London
It might be the '2nd (largest) City' but I think it's in competition with Manchester for that
I come from Wolverhampton, which is in the West Midlands area (centre of UK) of which Birmingham is a part
But, and this is a very important but, Wolverhampton is also classed as coming under an area called The Black Country, of which Birmingham is not a part and yet the term 'Brummie' is often used to refer to anything in the general West Midlands/Midlands area which is not very accurate as Black Country peope have a very much more down to earth character to people from Birmingham, who are more urban I'd say. Each town in the Black Coutnry has it's own specific dialect/character in my opinion.
Also when people try and take off a Brummie accent, it's invariably a Dudley one that they actually do
- this is irritating as well
Lenny Henry the comedian has the typical Dudley accent
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Yes I think I am an attention-seeker McJagger but I am also incredibly shy and retiring in the average social situation
so there's a conflict
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'You have a very cute and mischievious smile, Esme. I like it, but you should not have run the picture through that "get older" Java thing that Spag posted.'
I don't understand this Calamity - these jokes are wasted on me :'(
Do you mean I do look older?
I'm glad you enjoyed the meet Tom
You are far more easy-going than me
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I just know how fixated you seem to be about how people look or don't look, so I thought I would let you off the hook and remind you that you are accepted. The joke was about other statements you have made, but not wasted, trust me.;)
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Ok thanks :)
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Really annoyed I couldn't make the AV meet up, but couldn't make it as I've had £1200 nicked from my bank and was sorting it all out that week. Good to see you here spaghetto.
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hey mr K.
how are you doing now?
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Oh better now thanks, it's taken ages to get the police to take the incident seriously. Finally now CID is involved though, I think I have to go again tomorrow morning to answer more questions about the whole thing.
Not rang many people though yet as I know everyone keeps asking about it.
Main thing is to get my money back and phone replaced on insurance. If they catch them it's a bonus though I'm a little wary given that they were a gang of criminals.
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the police didn't take something like that seriously!!? wtf?
good to hear progress is finally being made though. Sorry you lost so much money as well. still seems like they did a hell of a lot for not *all* that much (for them) compared to the trouble they went to..
really hope you weren't hurt or anything
let me know the details for tuesday btw
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Blady hell your post count is pretty high for someone that's only been here a week!
The main thing for me is to get my money & phone back. If they catch them it's a bonus though I'm wary as these gangs use violence. Look at the arrests they made in Harleseden for example.
I think we are now going to meet on Wednesday instead in a pub in Farringdon, will post details on the clubbing group.
Anyone else here want to join us in the pub this Wednesday night in central London? We afe all very safe, high functioning aspies
The first Intensity Squared London meetup?
Do you use MSN messenger? If so PM me your ID.
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yeah not sure how that happened!
it can go up quite quickly if you get into a conversation i suppose.
don't think there's many londoners here btw though
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How did the meet up go? Who came? Looks like lot's been happening on AV, though on this connection the proxy server is blocking me from going on AV for some reason so can't witness the fun.
Do you prefer AV or I2?
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the meetup was good. in greenwich, so right on my doorstep. ppl there that i can remember were dr nawe, deano, punctual, philip the great, susan, kam/mr spock, tom/mutate, omega female, robertn and mike/dnsdude. oh and steve45. and david1978, psych, platypus hatstand.
anyway it was an entertaining enough day. felt slightly awkward when some girl who someone asked to take a pic of the group said "You're all beautiful" as if we were a group on a day trip from a home or something...
had afternoon in park then on boat up thames - had a few beers with a few afterwards in waterloo.
prefer here as it moves a bit quicker, there's a wider variety of people and isn't censored or anything
although all these dancing smileys are getting on my nerves a bit.. might switch them off
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What was the crowd like at the meet up? Any of them 'mild' aspies like us? Anyone worth getting to know? AV seems to have a fairly diverse mix of higher and medium functioning aspies. Really annoyed I couldn't make it.
Will plan some hard partying once I get my money back!
I will never be beaten, be looking for me on your arse Mr Thief :police: :police: :police:
I find slow forums annoying too, seems busier here. AV is good for the UK aspect though, more chance of meeting people IRL.
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What was the crowd like at the meet up? Any of them 'mild' aspies like us? Anyone worth getting to know? AV seems to have a fairly diverse mix of higher and medium functioning aspies. Really annoyed I couldn't make it.
Will plan some hard partying once I get my money back!
I will never be beaten, be looking for me on your arse Mr Thief :police: :police: :police:
I find slow forums annoying too, seems busier here. AV is good for the UK aspect though, more chance of meeting people IRL.
How did you get robbed ??
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nice job scrap, you thread killer!
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Good luck with the bank getting your money back, I've heard that they'll try anything to get out of refunding customer's money- mainly claiming that you must have kept your pin number with your card.
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Good luck with the bank getting your money back, I've heard that they'll try anything to get out of refunding customer's money- mainly claiming that you must have kept your pin number with your card.
i am sure that they would never admit to having shoddy security in place, even though it is proven time and time again.
bottom line, the banks somehow make money off your loss. they have to. otherwise they would have better security precautions in place.
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nice job scrap, you thread killer!
Did I miss something here ??
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nice job scrap, you thread killer!
Did I miss something here ??
no.
obviously the uppity brits don't want to be talking to some lowly american.
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nice job scrap, you thread killer!
Did I miss something here ??
no.
obviously the uppity brits don't want to be talking to some lowly american.
I hope you were only referring to certain Brits and not lumping us all in the same group, after all isn't that what us Brits do? :P
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nice job scrap, you thread killer!
Did I miss something here ??
no.
obviously the uppity brits don't want to be talking to some lowly american.
Some things never change. :-\
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nice job scrap, you thread killer!
Did I miss something here ??
no.
obviously the uppity brits don't want to be talking to some lowly american.
I hope you were only referring to certain Brits and not lumping us all in the same group, after all isn't that what us Brits do? :P
exacly.
and since i am an angliphile, i decided to stereotype any and everything.
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BTW, I seem to remeber the name Kahless from WP. Is he an evil wp'er or a good guy ??
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nice job scrap, you thread killer!
Did I miss something here ??
no.
obviously the uppity brits don't want to be talking to some lowly american.
I hope you were only referring to certain Brits and not lumping us all in the same group, after all isn't that what us Brits do? :P
exacly.
and since i am an angliphile, i decided to stereotype any and everything.
Does that mean I've got to start being an uppity Brit and stop talking to you?
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Basically I was forced to hand over my PIN number to a gang of drug dealers who later extracted £1200 from my account. Fucking cunts! I know roughly where they live, but most importantly I want to make sure I get my money back from the bank and my phone (through insurance).
I am pro-american.
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Basically I was forced to hand over my PIN number to a gang of drug dealers who later extracted £1200 from my account. Fucking cunts! I know roughly where they live, but most importantly I want to make sure I get my money back from the bank and my phone (through insurance).
I am pro-american.
If you were forced to hand over your pin number then I don't see how the bank can refuse- its not like you had much of a choice. Good luck anyway.
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Basically I was forced to hand over my PIN number to a gang of drug dealers who later extracted £1200 from my account. Fucking cunts! I know roughly where they live, but most importantly I want to make sure I get my money back from the bank and my phone (through insurance).
I am pro-american.
It's better to die on your feet than live on your knees IMO. It should be legal for you to defend yourself from these thugs with a gun because they probably have guns themselves.
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Handguns are banned here. I do have an air rifle though.
My mum once threatened to shoot this big fat grey squirrel that kept on eating all the bird food. She was literally going to bump it off, but it was so fat it fell out of the fir tree and died!! She was saying in the weeks before 'one day that squirrel is going to fall out of the tree it's so greedy'.
I like America but why did you give us these fat grey scummy squirrels? It's like the typical image portrayed of an American :O They eat everything, get fat, and die! From 100 feet though the one in our garden had a horrible death. Serves it right for being greedy. It even fell from an American tree (Monterrey Cyprus)! I would happily repeal the hunting ban so the men on horses with hounds could clear every grey squirrel, bellowing 'God Save our Reds' from their bugles, in our green and pleasant land!! Bring back the reds.
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Handguns are banned here. I do have an air rifle though.
My mum once threatened to shoot this big fat grey squirrel that kept on eating all the bird food. She was literally going to bump it off, but it was so fat it fell out of the fir tree and died!! She was saying in the weeks before 'one day that squirrel is going to fall out of the tree it's so greedy'.
I like America but why did you give us these fat grey scummy squirrels? It's like the typical image portrayed of an American :O They eat everything, get fat, and die! From 100 feet though the one in our garden had a horrible death. Serves it right for being greedy. It even fell from an American tree (Monterrey Cyprus)! I would happily repeal the hunting ban so the men on horses with hounds could clear every grey squirrel, bellowing 'God Save our Reds' from their bugles, in our green and pleasant land!! Bring back the reds.
Did you say you have a ..................... Squirrel problem ?? :eyebrows: :tooledup: :flame:
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Well, blame your own countrymen for importing grey squirrels to your blessed plot. It wasn't Yanks, it was some aristocratic british twit who wanted something else to shoot. Probably the same dolt who introduced rabbits to Australia.
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Well rabbits are best served on a plate. They tastes great, and are a cheap, ORGANIC meat.
Yes I'm from AFF, but not been to that site in eons, was never really my kind of place. Like the 'Socialist Worker' for aspie sites.
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Yeah, I haven't been there for some time either. I have turfed it to my daughter to have some fun in chat. I thought I recognized the user name. Nice to know I'm not the only one who uses the same name in different forums!
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Yes wherever I may be, it will be grey squirrel free.
I am the same, everywhere I use this name.
This forum, that forum.
The sword of Kahless will cut grey squirrels Klingon red, they won't be getting to bed.
Qa'PLa!
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er, sorry to interrupt the squirrel slaughter, but in answer to your question, yeah mostlly. a few from nearish london. I think you've met one of them before (smudge- marianne) at danda or something. she said she's more cheerful now than she was then though!
psych is in london and into his music, could see if he wants to come along. as long as you don't mind being told about how plausible david icke's theories actually are!
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nice job scrap, you thread killer!
Did I miss something here ??
no.
obviously the uppity brits don't want to be talking to some lowly american.
I hope you were only referring to certain Brits and not lumping us all in the same group, after all isn't that what us Brits do? :P
exacly.
and since i am an angliphile, i decided to stereotype any and everything.
Does that mean I've got to start being an uppity Brit and stop talking to you?
don't talk dowm to me, go down on me.
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Basically I was forced to hand over my PIN number to a gang of drug dealers who later extracted £1200 from my account. Fucking cunts! I know roughly where they live, but most importantly I want to make sure I get my money back from the bank and my phone (through insurance).
I am pro-american.
maybe you should have just paid your drug debt!
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What was the crowd like at the meet up? Any of them 'mild' aspies like us? Anyone worth getting to know? AV seems to have a fairly diverse mix of higher and medium functioning aspies. Really annoyed I couldn't make it.
Will plan some hard partying once I get my money back!
I will never be beaten, be looking for me on your arse Mr Thief :police: :police: :police:
I find slow forums annoying too, seems busier here. AV is good for the UK aspect though, more chance of meeting people IRL.
There are lots of more severe, less mild aspies who are worth getting to know, Kahless.
I'm sorry to hear about the thieves. I am not as conservative as you are politically, but If they made it legal I would love to help you hunt them down with either pistol or longbow.
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I've nothing against more severe aspies, I just want to make sure I don't end up mixing with the wrong people. There have been a fair number of unsavoury characters over the years who have come and gone to some of the social groups.
Last Septmember one of them was even arrested at a pub do in Central London whilst everyone was there!!
I am conservative in some ways, liberal in others. But I hate it when townies think they know it all and dictate how the countryside should be run.
The Right to Bear Arms in Company of Grey Squirrels, Foxes, and Rats!
Anyone here like Jeremy Clarkson's books?
Pysch lives not that far from me, but haven't met him IRL yet.
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I met Psych on Sat - I really liked him. He's quite quiet and calm, like me. I remember you once saying something about wanting a meetup group where only high functioning aspies were allowed on AV - I was going to ask how you planned to enforce it - a bouncer at the door trained to recognise levels of the autistic spectrum? :laugh:
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What was the crowd like at the meet up? Any of them 'mild' aspies like us? Anyone worth getting to know? AV seems to have a fairly diverse mix of higher and medium functioning aspies. Really annoyed I couldn't make it.
Will plan some hard partying once I get my money back!
I will never be beaten, be looking for me on your arse Mr Thief :police: :police: :police:
I find slow forums annoying too, seems busier here. AV is good for the UK aspect though, more chance of meeting people IRL.
There are lots of more severe, less mild aspies who are worth getting to know, Kahless.
I'm sorry to hear about the thieves. I am not as conservative as you are politically, but If they made it legal I would love to help you hunt them down with either pistol or longbow.
My man!
I'm there, too. The same way you take care of coyotes that go after your calves.
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I'm also a bit split politically. I've argued with many a leftie but i think most americans would consider me a liberal as the centre of gravity is a bit further to the right over there i think.
and Clarkson is entertaining i suppose but he can be a bit of a cock sometimes (exaggerated though what he says may be)
Top Gear host Jeremy Clarkson has come under attack in the Malaysian parliament for labelling one of the country's cars the worst in the world.
Mr Clarkson has voiced his frustrations with the small three-cylinder model in both magazine articles and on film.
In one article, he said its name was like a disease and suggested it was built in jungles by people who wear leaves for shoes.
And in a DVD car review, he described it as "unimaginative junk, with no soul, no flair and no passion".
He then smashed it, hung it from a crane with a one-tonne weight attached, before blowing it up.
And he thinks motorists should have more right of way than cyclists because they pay road tax.
I know he's just trying to bait lefties but it seems like a lot of people take his ideas seriously and act on them
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I met Psych on Sat - I really liked him. He's quite quiet and calm, like me. I remember you once saying something about wanting a meetup group where only high functioning aspies were allowed on AV - I was going to ask how you planned to enforce it - a bouncer at the door trained to recognise levels of the autistic spectrum? :laugh:
lol. you could have a challenge to have a conversation with a random person and see if they thought you were weird or something.
enforcing it sounds like a recipe for disaster though..
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Hold on - is that a star trek t shirt, how many star trek videos do you have ? can i see some ID? not tonight mate, go home
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Handguns are banned here. I do have an air rifle though.
My mum once threatened to shoot this big fat grey squirrel that kept on eating all the bird food. She was literally going to bump it off, but it was so fat it fell out of the fir tree and died!! She was saying in the weeks before 'one day that squirrel is going to fall out of the tree it's so greedy'.
I like America but why did you give us these fat grey scummy squirrels? It's like the typical image portrayed of an American :O They eat everything, get fat, and die! From 100 feet though the one in our garden had a horrible death. Serves it right for being greedy. It even fell from an American tree (Monterrey Cyprus)! I would happily repeal the hunting ban so the men on horses with hounds could clear every grey squirrel, bellowing 'God Save our Reds' from their bugles, in our green and pleasant land!! Bring back the reds.
Did you say you have a ..................... Squirrel problem ?? :eyebrows: :tooledup: :flame:
There was a hawk taking the small birds that I fed for the winter. I have an air rifle too and I twice shot so near that there were tail feathers shot away from him, but he escaped. If I had had a shotgun he'd been dead meat by now, literally.
But that's nothing, of course, compared with that we Europeans are tied up by the law, so that criminals can do whatever they want to us. >:(
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I've nothing against more severe aspies, I just want to make sure I don't end up mixing with the wrong people. There have been a fair number of unsavoury characters over the years who have come and gone to some of the social groups.
Last Septmember one of them was even arrested at a pub do in Central London whilst everyone was there!!
I am conservative in some ways, liberal in others. But I hate it when townies think they know it all and dictate how the countryside should be run.
The Right to Bear Arms in Company of Grey Squirrels, Foxes, and Rats!
Anyone here like Jeremy Clarkson's books?
Pysch lives not that far from me, but haven't met him IRL yet.
Since you have honed your perceptions of others so keenly, you shoulld have no fears. Go and enjoy yourself. If you feel the need to avoid someone, how better to do it than in clear view?
......... and report back. I would love to hear it.
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What was the crowd like at the meet up? Any of them 'mild' aspies like us? Anyone worth getting to know? AV seems to have a fairly diverse mix of higher and medium functioning aspies. Really annoyed I couldn't make it.
Will plan some hard partying once I get my money back!
I will never be beaten, be looking for me on your arse Mr Thief :police: :police: :police:
I find slow forums annoying too, seems busier here. AV is good for the UK aspect though, more chance of meeting people IRL.
There are lots of more severe, less mild aspies who are worth getting to know, Kahless.
I'm sorry to hear about the thieves. I am not as conservative as you are politically, but If they made it legal I would love to help you hunt them down with either pistol or longbow.
My man!
I'm there, too. The same way you take care of coyotes that go after your calves.
... I forgot to mention that my pistol WAY outdoes your longbow. They don't get to see mine comin' ...
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that's just the brits and their pride for their beloved longbow.
ah, a time when they were powerful.
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There was a hawk taking the small birds that I fed for the winter. I have an air rifle too and I twice shot so near that there were tail feathers shot away from him, but he escaped. If I had had a shotgun he'd been dead meat by now, literally.
Poor hawk. You were fattening up all the little ones for it, and then just shot at him. :grrr:
... I forgot to mention that my pistol WAY outdoes your longbow. They don't get to see mine comin' ...
Eh, but no one much hears the bow.
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There was a hawk taking the small birds that I fed for the winter. I have an air rifle too and I twice shot so near that there were tail feathers shot away from him, but he escaped. If I had had a shotgun he'd been dead meat by now, literally.
Poor hawk. You were fattening up all the little ones for it, and then just shot at him. :grrr:
No, I was feeding the little ones up so they'd survive the winter. If I'd hit him, hed probably been dead in a couple of seconds. It's the most powerful air rifle allowed in this cowardly country. The muzzle velocity is 200 m/s and the impact 10 J/cm2. The bullet is small but goes straight through 2 mm tin.
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I hope you get pecked to death by pretty vultures.
You've always seemed like a pretty decent guy, but
shooting birdies? That's just wrong.
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I hope you get pecked to death by pretty vultures.
You've always seemed like a pretty decent guy, but
shooting birdies? That's just wrong.
not if he eats them.
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I hope you get pecked to death by pretty vultures.
You've always seemed like a pretty decent guy, but
shooting birdies? That's just wrong.
I don't want him to suffer, I just want to kill him so that he doesn't eat my little robin or some of the other small birds I like.
If I do kill him and the authorities find out, I'll probably go to jail, though. It's illegal to kill hawks here, since they're rare.
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And noble.
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I hope you get pecked to death by pretty vultures.
You've always seemed like a pretty decent guy, but
shooting birdies? That's just wrong.
not if he eats them.
I don't know what a hawk tastes like. The small birds are probably tastier.
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And noble.
Yes, he's kind of noble, but he eats my small birds.
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They're his birds as much as yours.
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more, really. I like birds of prey myself.
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I hope you get pecked to death by pretty vultures.
You've always seemed like a pretty decent guy, but
shooting birdies? That's just wrong.
not if he eats them.
I don't know what a hawk tastes like. The small birds are probably tastier.
So you want to kill him for being smarter than you. I've heard of this.
I once was cleaning out some seagulls that had found my horse feed. I did not know it, but an owl had taken interest in the slaughter and I accidentally shot her. I was very remorseful. She was beautiful, but her wingspan and color was almost the same as the pests. I needed her even more than I needed the feed. I don't eat gulls, but my dogs did.
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Did the Hawk taste nice? My mum hates magpies and grey squirrels for either killing or starving the birds she feeds.
And I fucking hate lycra Nazis, they should pay road tax else every cycle lane should be filled in. I have a bike as well but I know and respect that cars rule the road.
The police could use stingers to catch every militant cyclist once a law has been passed.
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tolerance my good fellow, tolerence.
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Did the Hawk taste nice? My mum hates magpies and grey squirrels for either killing or starving the birds she feeds.
I loves magpies. Mammals on the other hand....
And I fucking hate lycra Nazis, they should pay road tax else every cycle lane should be filled in. I have a bike as well but I know and respect that cars rule the road.
The police could use stingers to catch every militant cyclist once a law has been passed.
I respect that cars are bigger than I am. That's why I carry a 5lbs. sledge.
Evens the score. Works on bikes too.
Stingers would be more effective though. MPSAMS make good anti-vehicular weapons.
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.... MPSAMS make good anti-vehicular weapons.
Why not use a good old-fasioned L.A.W. ??
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Eh, a VLAW is enough for cars. But, sometimes one can't
get the best tool for the job.
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Eh, a VLAW is enough for cars. But, sometimes one can't
get the best tool for the job.
WTF is a VLAW ??
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Just add the word very.
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Just add the word very.
It goes through several inches of steel plate... what more do you want ??
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It's essentially a lighter version of the same weapon.
The US doesn't use them.
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And what about a congestion charge for bikes too?
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And what about a congestion charge for bikes too?
A lycra tax. >:D
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I'm not a raving eco-fanatic cyclist (though a friend of mine could be described this way) and i rarely ride my dilapidated old bike but i think that although the roads are obviously built with cars in mind, bikes do far less damage to the roads and generally contribute less to the need for the road tax to maintain them.
not to mention the difference in environmental problems. so i think it's good if there's some sort of incentive not to always use a car. And on congestion - if they made cyclists pay congestion charge and road tax then the cyclist may as well go and get in his car and then there'd be more congestion
I'm lazy though so i'd probably still drive my car if i had one again, and cyclists can be quite arrogant and they piss me off when they jump red lights and cycle fast down the pavement. cunts ;(
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why don't you blokes ever win the tour de france?
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i blame the shitty weather.
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i blame the shitty weather.
good point.
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Because we prefer cars!
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Because we prefer cars!
you lot are killing the environment.
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Technology will win the day. They've developed an engine that runs on compressed air in France, not an ounce of pollution of any kind. Yes pollution is a problem, but technolgy can easily make 4 wheeled transport pollution free.
Cars are crucial to individual freedom and economic success. It's just that until now there was no incentive for the companies to use anything other than the 130 year old combustion engine. Now there is a big momentum for new types of propulsion to be developed.
I believe the same can and will happen for trains and planes with enough pressure from citizens.
We can't allow the green lobby to impose economic stalinism on us. Yes pollution is a problem, but let entrepeneurs and the private individual fix that!
The most the state should do is give guidance on technogical needs, but never technology itself, else you will end up with the green version of a Lada or how Skoda used to be.
The Labour government is NOT an example of this though.
What about an underground tube system of cycle lanes? The state never thinks intelligently.
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I agree, but isn't that technology being developed partly in response to the (moderate) green lobby?
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Technology is actually a large part of the problem. Contrary to what some will make you believe, it's not easy to develop alternative fuel solutions for anything with wheels. It's certainly possible, and even viable, but since the incentive is, and is likely to be in the near future, largely a financial one (as in "gain"), the industry isn't really bothering to do more than absolutely necessary. It's hugely expensive to develop a single new engine for an automotive so they avoid this for as long as possible.
Unfortunately, the planet doesn't have the time to wait.
What the state should do--any state--in the interest of saving their future economies as well as large portions of the third world population, is to force the industry to act. This is happening but not nearly as fast as it should be. There are always exceptions, there are carbon dioxide quotas routinely exceeded, and there are always excuses.
If the Lada or the Skoda is green enough while being state-made and generally boring, I'd readily accept the trade-off. It's no fun driving a cool car when the planet is going to hell.
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Well partially, but more so because of the science. Technology is what responds to scientific discoveries, it's the logical solution. Governments are not the natural match with science.
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Plus, it's probably too late for conservation efforts to stand
a chance anyway. We might as well live it up, and screw the young.
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Yeah, to hell with the next generation. :green:
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Actually, I was thinking more along Lit's line here....
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yeah but scientific discoveries don't just happen. they come about thanks to funding and the govt has a choice what kind of research to fund.
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.......or how Skoda used to be.
Skoda used to do pretty good in World Rally Championship.
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When there is a business incentive, private enterprise will always answer the calls. I trust them far more than state hands. If the NHS or Department of Transport were businesses, they would be bankrupt in an instant.