Well I have been thinking on this, why you so adamantly reject anytime I bring up racism built into our society.
I will make a comparison with being transgender. Unless you are trans, or know someone who is trans, or decide for some reason to study and investigate being transgender, you are not going to be mindful of discrimination and oppression every day. You are not going to be hypersensitive to it- in fact you do not even need to think about it. You can forget about it...you can live your entire life without having to confront, acknowledge or recognise it.
But if you are transgender the story is different. Its in your face every day with almost every interaction. It affects every aspect of your life from friendships, to education, to employment, to using the bathroom. You see laws pass and really, it doesn't affect much in your daily life...so there is not too much recourse in politics. You struggle with even advocacy- not all LGBT activism represents every trans experience. In fact not all trans people even represent others very well. theres a whole world of self-discovery and self-confidence that has to grow out of vigorously punching back against all the layers of oppression stacked upon you. There are tipping points as well...and what may seem like non-events to some people are HUGE DEALS to someone who is trans.
If I bring up something about being trans and get put down, I am not surprised. Lost out on the suggestion I made about having an "other" option here. For some reason I was immediately compared to someone who I have never met, an apparently overly aggressive person who accused people here of cis discrimination. So it was too inconvenient for a few people here to fathom an other option, and for them the whole idea was scrapped? I dunno what happened.
The thing is, whenever a minority speaks up, there will be a majority to push back or challenge. That is a given. But majority does not mean it is what is right. A majority is just a majority.
I have seen ladies here get put down for bringing up feminism...when, even if not apparent, there is a huge systematic issue that does not value women nearly as much as men, and takes the talents and needs many do have for granted. I never understood this very well until this last year actually. Yes there are inconveniences for typical males as well, but the subtle ingrained devaluation of women and their experiences is so profound it deserves to be examined.
I have learned thus, unless the topic is autie discrimination, I cannot discuss many other forms of oppression here. Everybody has an opinion, but oppression is real. And if people cannot, or will not appreciate that, it is not my responsibility to make them. But I think it is a shame that one has to censor ones own experiences for fear of having your words twisted or being accused of meaning things bizarrely unrelated. If someone has something to say about how they are treated, or how they are valued, they should be able to vent among friends without having to pull out articles and stats to back up their life experience.
With regards to race, I bring it up because I think people value that discussion here very much. I know it needs to be had and I wanted to be a part of that conversation. And sometimes I just plain need to rant. It is overwhelming sometimes...as a visibly black person, the same with being trans, with it being in your face everyday- that is how it is being black. It affects every level...if affects jobs, education, going into a store, walking down the street.
So I have learned, I cannot come here and rant when that becomes too much. I cannot be upset about that, because somehow my anger is offensive. My frustration with that is offensive to others who do not see things as a big deal, or who cannot appreciate that it is REAL for some people. Fine...but I also know many more here listen...or discuss, or care to understand and offer their own perspectives for mutual growth.
Like many people, I could sweep these things under the rug. I could bury it within my subconscious...people are good at that. it is convenient. I did that with being trans. Did that with being black. Did that with a lot of things. Spent a great deal of energy doing that. But after coming out about being trans and autie, I have found I can't let that stuff sit. When people let it sit, it comes out in violence. You don't think about it, and then it all comes up at once and all you can do is tantrum. For your own survival, things have to be looked at...oppression is traumatising. So you have to deal with it. it seemed like dealing with it with friends was ideal.
Oppression is THAT real, and THAT urgent. It kills. It tears people up inside. it brings on mental illness. it destroys families and happiness. It hurts hurts hurts. And it cannot be addressed unless it is looked at...and its not going to be looked at unless someone experiencing that oppression is allowed to vent. Maybe the anger will seem very generalised sometimes, but feedback helps with focusing things. Feedback- not accusations, not lies, not misinterpretations taken as fact. That just adds frustration.
You say you try to provoke me to understand me? Well geez, why can't you just ASK? That seems a lot nicer to ask. If you provoke someone they are going to get angry, and you are not going to get nearly as a concise, representative and well thought out response as you would if you asked. Provocation is not a good way to understand anything beyond what buttons you can push. It doesn't tell you anything about WHY those buttons can be pushed, or what about them being pushed that causes frustration, or even if it was the buttons you were pushing or some other subtle fact such as the observation in the other person that you are trying to provoke them.
I am not a lab rat. I am a human being and you can communicate with me directly.
word hurt, we get it, news flash. this is the internet nobody cares.
we are both a minority in the aspect of being trans, i came out here, nobody cared. i dont talk about opression here because opression isnt applicable in this community. people are all treated equal.
if your a bitch you get slapped like a bitch, the women ask the men for junk pics, (btw parts still have not recieved mine). the men ask for b00bs
shit happens. if you dont like what someone said. deal with it.
that being said, you struck a nerve. call me a hypocrite for telling you not to bitch and then complaining but
being black =/= being trans, i understand you have both "issues" to contend with
but guess what
there not issues
PEOPLE FUCKING JUDGE
its a human condition, and right now im judging you for moronic statements about opression
we live in a free world. we can do what ever the fuck we want
if it defies what is socially acceptable there will be negative conciquences
if it adhiers to what is socially acceptible there will be positive ones
actions and reactions, buddy.
opression is not born of some white rich moron being white and rich.
its born of ignorance.
ignorance is a solvable problem, everyone here knows about the issues you deal with. no one gives a fuck, not because its easy to ignore but because this is a place for people to come and have debates on opinions that matter to the whole community.
being white and rich is not a problem.
i see stereotypes that are true every day about black people, white people, trans people, gay people, people of literally every color have stereotypes.
GUESS WHAT, no one fucking cares. can i drill this into your head enough?
if you care about a stereotype, then prove it wrong, dont adhere to it. simple as that, i know its hard to conceptualise, but with no one going first there will be no progress.
im trans, this was literally one of the first places i came out on, because dispite the dispicable community additudes at time by social standards they are supportive, crule jokes have been made sure, but really they would be made on every fucking post made here any ways. they were supportive in every other way
i am pre-HRT, i am full time, i am out in the community regularly. i get a couple weird looks once in a blue moon, but come on man. im out there. im making people aware and PROVING THEM WRONG.
if your not willing to do that. then quit complaining
because complaining on the internet solves nothing.
your upset that you have to 'not look sketchy' in white rich neighborhoods.
tell ya something bud
i live in a white rich neighborhood. i dont give two fucking shits if a black guy comes by. if your on my property its different
and let me tell you, the last person i escorted off my property at knife point was a schizoid white person. i dont care if your black, i care if your acting sketch.
stop generalising against people like me, for generalising against people like you, because it -does not happen-
