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What gender pronouns do you use
« on: January 18, 2011, 06:53:37 PM »
When talking about a transgendered person?

And no I don't mean me personally, just wondering why

For me I obviously don't care what sex they are so will refer to them as whatever they identify as

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #1 on: January 18, 2011, 06:57:03 PM »
I find this difficult. I keep referring to GA as "he" but obviously he would prefer "she". He also wants me to call him Kayleigh but I haven't gotten around to doing that either.
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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #2 on: January 18, 2011, 06:58:15 PM »
I understand that tbh - you are in a rare situation I guess, which must be difficult

What about random people though, or friends? I can't remember if you call me he or she

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #3 on: January 18, 2011, 07:00:33 PM »
I'm inconsistent. I refer to you as "he" because I always thought you were a guy anyway, but I can see why some people still refer to, say,
Chaz Bono as "she," if they knew him as a female for many years before the transition. I guess if the trans person looks like the gender
they identify with, I use that pronoun, but if they look more like the gender they were born as, I use that  pronoun.
I don't mean any disrespect by it, I just trip up over the physical appearance.
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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #4 on: January 18, 2011, 07:06:29 PM »
Most scholars have (for generations) insisted that English should have a gender-non-specific set of pronouns.

It makes perfect sense, since we do not include gender in "things"  as with most Latin-based languages. Why should we include gender when we speak to each other?  We are setting ourselves up to simply fail at communication, again!

It is a very rare instance when knowledge or description of gender plays a part in understanding what someone else is trying to say.
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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #5 on: January 18, 2011, 07:08:01 PM »

Most scholars have (for generations) insisted that English should have a gender-non-specific set of pronouns.

It makes perfect sense, since we do not include gender in "things"  as with most Latin-based languages. Why should we include gender when we speak to each other?  We are setting ourselves p to simply fail at communication, again!

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #6 on: January 18, 2011, 07:09:58 PM »
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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #7 on: January 18, 2011, 07:14:15 PM »
I used whatever pronoun the person wants me to use. I would respect a person enough to at least refer to them as the appropriate gender.

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #8 on: January 18, 2011, 07:30:28 PM »
I have a tenancy to use the wrong ones all the time so you get what you get :laugh:
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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #9 on: January 18, 2011, 07:33:34 PM »
Most scholars have (for generations) insisted that English should have a gender-non-specific set of pronouns.

It makes perfect sense, since we do not include gender in "things"  as with most Latin-based languages. Why should we include gender when we speak to each other?  We are setting ourselves up to simply fail at communication, again!

It is a very rare instance when knowledge or description of gender plays a part in understanding what someone else is trying to say.

Yes, but English shares common descent with German, and German has gender for things too.

It's based on the gender of the word itself. A cat, for example, is a she even if it's a male cat.  :dunno:

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #10 on: January 18, 2011, 07:36:01 PM »
English used to have a gender neutral pronoun iirc

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #11 on: January 18, 2011, 07:38:54 PM »
English used to have a gender neutral pronoun iirc

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #12 on: January 18, 2011, 09:04:45 PM »
Don't know any in real life, but guess would use what they prefer. If they have no preference, then whatever comes natural to say.

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #13 on: January 18, 2011, 09:21:37 PM »
i usualy just refer to them as it *sarcasm* usually i just say what there dressed as as thats usually the polite thing to do assuming they identify with the way they dress and not that they have yet to get a new wardrobe

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Re: What gender pronouns do you use
« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2011, 10:27:13 PM »
Whatever the person identifies as.