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Start here => M.O.-Introductions => Ask Away Threads => Topic started by: Kiriana on August 02, 2007, 12:36:47 PM
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I'm feeling chatty. Go ahead, ask me anything.
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How did you find this forum?
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What led up to your son's diagnosis?
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How did you find this forum?
Random surfing/link clicking. I end up in the oddest places by doing that sometimes. ;) I think it went something like: a parenting site I frequent -> an autistic woman's blog -> autistics.org -> their forums -> here. I end up in the oddest places by doing that sometimes. ;)
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Have you ever seen Benny & Joon?
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What led up to your son's diagnosis?
Well, I had noticed for a while that he had some behaviors I hadn't seen in my daughter, like repetitive play, lining up toys, etc. and he wasn't talking. I wasn't sure it was anything to be concerned about, but then my mother-in-law pointed out his lack of eye contact, and it finally clicked that autism would explain a lot. So I did some internet research, contacted a developmental pediatrician and Early Intervention and we were off into that rat race. Actually, it was a pretty short journey for us comparatively. About 4 months from my first suspicions of autism to diagnosis.
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Have you ever seen Benny & Joon?
I think so, once, years ago. I'm not much of a movie person. Would you recommend I see it again? ;)
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Did you get those Early Intervention people who came to your house to check on you and the little ones and talk with you about the next phases they would go through? I got some when my daughter was born, but then we moved when she was around three months old and we didn't get them here.
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Have you ever seen Benny & Joon?
I think so, once, years ago. I'm not much of a movie person. Would you recommend I see it again? ;)
Are you joking?
Yes you should see it again. I doubt you remember it well since you said I think so.
Ever been to Spokane?
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Word of caution, my mom did that to. Things are not always what they appear, even people with doctoral degrees can make mistakes, although hard. Oh well, if people want me to have a dx, if I need to, I will pretend I do. I did ask them to stop, about a thousand times.
Lets not talk about about my dx, with your hyperfocus bullshit. I don't even see anyone no more, not even a clinical social worker.
Just remember that usually there is something worse to deal with, my mom for instance, is alot more tough to deal with than aspie on here. Bipolar disorder sucks.
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Did you get those Early Intervention people who came to your house to check on you and the little ones and talk with you about the next phases they would go through? I got some when my daughter was born, but then we moved when she was around three months old and we didn't get them here.
Ohh yeah, what are those people called? Parents as Teachers? We got them when he was born, because he was a preemie. They weren't very helpful though. Early Intervention was better, they go by different names in different places, like First Steps, or Birth to 3 or whatever. They coordinate all the OT and ST and whatnot.
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Have you ever seen Benny & Joon?
I think so, once, years ago. I'm not much of a movie person. Would you recommend I see it again? ;)
Are you joking?
Yes you should see it again. I doubt you remember it well since you said I think so.
Ever been to Spokane?
Yeah, I was being a little silly, but I do have that Blockbuster program that mails you DVDs every month, and my list is getting short, so I'll pop Benny and Joon on there. :) I haven't been to Spokane because I don't like to fly. I pretty much only go places I can drive in a day.
AllDayGlowRandy, you're confusing me. What gives you the impression that a mistake has been made in my son's dx? And where did I imply I think it's something bad? Of course there's a billion things out there worse to deal with than autism! A label gets services, that's how the system works where I live, so a label he has. That's all.
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Dang no Spokane. I love that place but the funny thing is when I am there, I see all the Benny & Joon locations I know and after doing everything I have wanted to do, I don't know what else to do in the city so I end up leaving and then the next day I miss it all over again and want to go back. Two days there is plenty for me.
Would you ever like to visit Spokane?
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Have you ever seen Benny & Joon?
I think so, once, years ago. I'm not much of a movie person. Would you recommend I see it again? ;)
Are you joking?
Yes you should see it again. I doubt you remember it well since you said I think so.
Ever been to Spokane?
Yeah, I was being a little silly, but I do have that Blockbuster program that mails you DVDs every month, and my list is getting short, so I'll pop Benny and Joon on there. :) I haven't been to Spokane because I don't like to fly. I pretty much only go places I can drive in a day.
AllDayGlowRandy, you're confusing me. What gives you the impression that a mistake has been made in my son's dx? And where did I imply I think it's something bad? Of course there's a billion things out there worse to deal with than autism! A label gets services, that's how the system works where I live, so a label he has. That's all.
Don't worry about AllDayGlowRandy, Kiriana. He rarely posts anything which makes sense in English, and has 'issues'. We still love him. Honest. *cough*
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AllDayGlowRandy is like a pet that isn't quite housebroken. We like it when he waggles his tail and doesn't bark at the neighbour's cat (or car, or kids, or the fat lady that visits, or the mailman, or the pizza delivery boy, or...) but that little quirk gets bloody annoying after a while.
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Well, alrighty then, as long as it's not just me that's confused!
SG, no, I don't think I would like to go to Spokane. Too far to drive. Plus, isn't Washington state all rainy and stuff? Not my favorite kind of weather.
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Is there anywhere you've always wanted to visit?
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Is there anywhere you've always wanted to visit?
Hmm...I've heard good things about San Franicisco, and I have some online friends there. Disney World was fun, I hope to take my kids some day, it'd be cool to share that experience with them. Of course both run into that nasty flying problem again, but I guess I'd either take an extra day or 2 to drive there.
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Well, alrighty then, as long as it's not just me that's confused!
SG, no, I don't think I would like to go to Spokane. Too far to drive. Plus, isn't Washington state all rainy and stuff? Not my favorite kind of weather.
Only in the fall winter and spring. But Spokane gets lot of snow in the winter. I love it.
Do you like fluorescent lights?
How far away from Spokane are you?
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Have you been in an aeroplane before?
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Well, alrighty then, as long as it's not just me that's confused!
SG, no, I don't think I would like to go to Spokane. Too far to drive. Plus, isn't Washington state all rainy and stuff? Not my favorite kind of weather.
Only in the fall winter and spring. But Spokane gets lot of snow in the winter. I love it.
Do you like fluorescent lights?
How far away from Spokane are you?
I don't like snow either. lol Well, I like playing in it, not driving in it.
Flourescent lights don't bother me like they seem to bother some apsies/autistics, but I can't say I like them. I prefer "regular" lightbulbs, sunlight, candlelight, etc.
I'll look up the distance to Spokane and get back to you. Over 1000 miles, I'm sure.
Have you been in an aeroplane before?
Yes, I flew to Las Vegas and back. Vegas was very enjoyable, the flights were not. Too many people in too small of a space!
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are you going to post a picture?
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of yourself?
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Did you enjoy high school?
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How often do you hear the fluorescent lights bzzing or humming?
How come you prefer the regular light bulbs, sunlight and candles?
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are you going to post a picture?
Sure. Is it supposed to go somewhere specific, or shall I post it here in this thread?
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Did you enjoy high school?
It was better than grade school. More people= more diversity=I stuck out slightly less as an oddball, and had more choices of who to make friends with. Wouldn't call it one of the best times of my life though.
How often do you hear the fluorescent lights bzzing or humming?
How come you prefer the regular light bulbs, sunlight and candles?
Rarely...only if the room is otherwise very very quiet. As to why I prefer other kinds of light...everything looks worse in flourescent light, in ways that are hard for me to explain. It's too harsh. It makes colors and contrasts pop too much. It seems unnatural.
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Word of caution, my mom did that to. Things are not always what they appear, even people with doctoral degrees can make mistakes, although hard. Oh well, if people want me to have a dx, if I need to, I will pretend I do. I did ask them to stop, about a thousand times.
Lets not talk about about my dx, with your hyperfocus bullshit. I don't even see anyone no more, not even a clinical social worker.
Just remember that usually there is something worse to deal with, my mom for instance, is alot more tough to deal with than aspie on here. Bipolar disorder sucks.
you should take a vow of silence.
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Word of caution, my mom did that to. Things are not always what they appear, even people with doctoral degrees can make mistakes, although hard. Oh well, if people want me to have a dx, if I need to, I will pretend I do. I did ask them to stop, about a thousand times.
Lets not talk about about my dx, with your hyperfocus bullshit. I don't even see anyone no more, not even a clinical social worker.
Just remember that usually there is something worse to deal with, my mom for instance, is alot more tough to deal with than aspie on here. Bipolar disorder sucks.
you should take a vow of silence.
And you, one of obedience.
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Word of caution, my mom did that to. Things are not always what they appear, even people with doctoral degrees can make mistakes, although hard. Oh well, if people want me to have a dx, if I need to, I will pretend I do. I did ask them to stop, about a thousand times.
Lets not talk about about my dx, with your hyperfocus bullshit. I don't even see anyone no more, not even a clinical social worker.
Just remember that usually there is something worse to deal with, my mom for instance, is alot more tough to deal with than aspie on here. Bipolar disorder sucks.
you should take a vow of silence.
And you, one of obedience.
exactly. shut the fuck up willow,
anyways do you like blackmetal, or rocks? if so list them here please! :)
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are you going to post a picture?
Sure. Is it supposed to go somewhere specific, or shall I post it here in this thread?
you can post it here, in the photo thread:
http://www.intensitysquared.com/index.php?topic=535.0
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are you going to post a picture?
Sure. Is it supposed to go somewhere specific, or shall I post it here in this thread?
you can post it here, in the photo thread:
http://www.intensitysquared.com/index.php?topic=535.0
Done. Though was sorry to interupt the entertainment that was going on in there. lol
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are you going to post a picture?
Sure. Is it supposed to go somewhere specific, or shall I post it here in this thread?
you can post it here, in the photo thread:
http://www.intensitysquared.com/index.php?topic=535.0
Done. Though was sorry to interupt the entertainment that was going on in there. lol
Sorry to interupt the fun. Carry on as if I wasn't here.... I'll just sit in the corner and watch. :angel:
(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v30/myjulybabes/blackshirtsm.jpg)
Thanks for posting your picture. It is so nice to have a face to associate with the name Kiriana. Since you didn't want to interrupt the fun there, I hope you don't mind that I quoted your post here so I could ask you a question.
Who took your picture?
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No problem Callaway!
I believe my husband took that one.
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kiriana, you said you have two kids and are pregnant now.
will you tell u s a story about when you were pregnant and overly emotional.
for instance, you started sobbing uncontrolably because the burger joint forgot to put pickles on your burger.
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kiriana, you said you have two kids and are pregnant now.
will you tell u s a story about when you were pregnant and overly emotional.
for instance, you started sobbing uncontrolably because the burger joint forgot to put pickles on your burger.
I'm not much of a crier, I tend to get angry and rant endlessly instead. >:D But the ending of Lilo and Stitch (son's current favorite movie) is starting to get me crying every time. The whole bit about "this is my family. I found it. It's small, and kind of broken, but still good...yeah...still good." (or something to that effect) :'( It's just so sweet!
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tell us a pregant hormonal angry rant story then. ;D
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tell us a pregant hormonal angry rant story then. ;D
How does one fit a full 24 hour day into a single post? ;)
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tell us a pregant hormonal angry rant story then. ;D
How does one fit a full 24 hour day into a single post? ;)
Apparently, he's trying to start a story now... It's never a good thing when I look over to see him whistling seemingly innocently....
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i take it that mordok is your husband?
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i take it that mordok is your husband?
Yep.
I'm not ignoring the question about the hormonal ranting, I'm trying to recall a particularly entertaining one. I shall return!
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new question:
would your husband be jealous if some of the men talked dirty to you here?
would you be jealous if some of the ladies flirted with him on this website?
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new question:
would your husband be jealous if some of the men talked dirty to you here?
would you be jealous if some of the ladies flirted with him on this website?
:lol: Not at all. At the risk of opening myself up to flaming-- monogamy isn't high on our list of priorities for our relationship.
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new question:
would your husband be jealous if some of the men talked dirty to you here?
would you be jealous if some of the ladies flirted with him on this website?
:lol: Not at all. At the risk of opening myself up to flaming-- monogamy isn't high on our list of priorities for our relationship.
there are several poly amorous people here. we are an adult side and many people here are interested in adult games.
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Speaking from experience people are unlikely to flame you here for not having a monogamous relationship, generally people are understanding of that- although occasionally you will get some people snipe at you about it it. ::) :laugh:
How are you liking Intensity so far?
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So far, I'm rather enjoying it. Due to a habit of preferring to read threads from the beginning, I'm not posting as much as I'd like, as I find they've gone on to an entirely different topic by the 4th or 5th page most times. But I'm working on that. And enjoying what I'm reading!
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So far, I'm rather enjoying it. Due to a habit of preferring to read threads from the beginning, I'm not posting as much as I'd like, as I find they've gone on to an entirely different topic by the 4th or 5th page most times. But I'm working on that. And enjoying what I'm reading!
is there a little too much dirty, filthy s e x talk for you
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So far, I'm rather enjoying it. Due to a habit of preferring to read threads from the beginning, I'm not posting as much as I'd like, as I find they've gone on to an entirely different topic by the 4th or 5th page most times. But I'm working on that. And enjoying what I'm reading!
is there a little too much dirty, filthy s e x talk for you
Not at all. It usually just takes me a little time to settle in to a new place before I start participating the in filth myself.
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the word filter has been changed by someone s e x is a substitute for McJ, which is me. i normally go by the nick McJagger.
do you get incredible bouts of horniness during your secong trimester?
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do you get incredible bouts of horniness during your secong trimester?
I, for one, certainly hope so! :eyebrows:
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do you get incredible bouts of horniness during your secong trimester?
I, for one, certainly hope so! :eyebrows:
Hope all you want, it ends next week! :P Then you're going to have to wait until 37 weeks when I need those prostoglandins to get things moving.
And to answer the original question--yes, "bouts" seem about right. It's not a constant second tri thing, but there are definitely days! Of course the logistic start getting increasingly interesting, but a good collection of pillows can solve most problems.
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do you get incredible bouts of horniness during your secong trimester?
I, for one, certainly hope so! :eyebrows:
Hope all you want, it ends next week! :P Then you're going to have to wait until 37 weeks when I need those prostoglandins to get things moving.
And to answer the original question--yes, "bouts" seem about right. It's not a constant second tri thing, but there are definitely days! Of course the logistic start getting increasingly interesting, but a good collection of pillows can solve most problems.
What ends next week? Your second trimester?
Trying different positions can help with the big belly logistics. As my big belly got bigger, my husband worried more about possibly hurting the baby, though.
My brother and sister-in-law could not do anything after she was four or five months because she started dilating then and they really would have hurt the baby.
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do you get incredible bouts of horniness during your secong trimester?
I, for one, certainly hope so! :eyebrows:
Hope all you want, it ends next week! :P Then you're going to have to wait until 37 weeks when I need those prostoglandins to get things moving.
And to answer the original question--yes, "bouts" seem about right. It's not a constant second tri thing, but there are definitely days! Of course the logistic start getting increasingly interesting, but a good collection of pillows can solve most problems.
What ends next week? Your second trimester?
Trying different positions can help with the big belly logistics. As my big belly got bigger, my husband worried more about possibly hurting the baby, though.
My brother and sister-in-law could not do anything after she was four or five months because she started dilating then and they really would have hurt the baby.
Yes, I'll be 26 weeks on Friday. Well, I guess that makes it 2 weeks until the second tri ends, hmm? Depends on how you count.
I am "high risk", but not for pre-term labor, so no restrictions on the sex yet. :eyebrows:
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Yes, I'll be 26 weeks on Friday. Well, I guess that makes it 2 weeks until the second tri ends, hmm? Depends on how you count.
I am "high risk", but not for pre-term labor, so no restrictions on the McJ yet. :eyebrows:
Why are you high risk?
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new question:
would your husband be jealous if some of the men talked dirty to you here?
would you be jealous if some of the ladies flirted with him on this website?
:lol: Not at all. At the risk of opening myself up to flaming-- monogamy isn't high on our list of priorities for our relationship.
Polyamorous or open?
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Yes, I'll be 26 weeks on Friday. Well, I guess that makes it 2 weeks until the second tri ends, hmm? Depends on how you count.
I am "high risk", but not for pre-term labor, so no restrictions on the McJ yet. :eyebrows:
Why are you high risk?
I've had "early onset" pre-eclampsia twice (early onset being before 34 weeks), and they think this is due to a couple blood clotting disorders I just found out I have during this pregnancy. Got me shooting up with anti-coagulants every day. Fun fun.
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new question:
would your husband be jealous if some of the men talked dirty to you here?
would you be jealous if some of the ladies flirted with him on this website?
:lol: Not at all. At the risk of opening myself up to flaming-- monogamy isn't high on our list of priorities for our relationship.
Polyamorous or open?
Yes. lol Polyamorous in theory, but thus far in practice it's pretty much just been open. Take 2 socially awkward people in a conservative area of the country and you end up with not a whole lot of prospects, ya know?
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Yes. lol Polyamorous in theory, but thus far in practice it's pretty much just been open. Take 2 socially awkward people in a conservative area of the country and you end up with not a whole lot of prospects, ya know?
Yes, my wife and I were searching for a long time,
and just couldn't find something that would last.
So, are you looking at a pairing of couples,
or something else?
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Yes, I'll be 26 weeks on Friday. Well, I guess that makes it 2 weeks until the second tri ends, hmm? Depends on how you count.
I am "high risk", but not for pre-term labor, so no restrictions on the McJ yet. :eyebrows:
Why are you high risk?
I've had "early onset" pre-eclampsia twice (early onset being before 34 weeks), and they think this is due to a couple blood clotting disorders I just found out I have during this pregnancy. Got me shooting up with anti-coagulants every day. Fun fun.
You have my sympathy I had to inject myself with heparin twice a day throughout all 3 of my pregnancies (although thankfully only for the last 6 weeks and 6 weeks after labour) it wasn't nice. Do they have you going in for regular blood tests?
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Yes, I'll be 26 weeks on Friday. Well, I guess that makes it 2 weeks until the second tri ends, hmm? Depends on how you count.
I am "high risk", but not for pre-term labor, so no restrictions on the McJ yet. :eyebrows:
Why are you high risk?
I've had "early onset" pre-eclampsia twice (early onset being before 34 weeks), and they think this is due to a couple blood clotting disorders I just found out I have during this pregnancy. Got me shooting up with anti-coagulants every day. Fun fun.
You have my sympathy I had to inject myself with heparin twice a day throughout all 3 of my pregnancies (although thankfully only for the last 6 weeks and 6 weeks after labour) it wasn't nice. Do they have you going in for regular blood tests?
Youch, all 3 pregnancies? You're braver than I am! This is our last baby, partially because I'm having such a hard time (mentally) with the injections. And I won't have to start the twice a day until 4 weeks before my due date and they promised me pills instead of shots for the 6 weeks after! I'm doing a CBC at pretty much every doctor's visit right now, so about every 4 weeks, give or take. So far, so good.
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I didn't enjoy my last pregnancy all that much either- it was at a tough time in my life- so we won't be having any more kids. I could have had pills once they were born but unfortunately I was told if you breastfeed its better to stick with the injections.
I hope everything continues to go well for you both. :)
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I didn't enjoy my last pregnancy all that much either- it was at a tough time in my life- so we won't be having any more kids. I could have had pills once they were born but unfortunately I was told if you breastfeed its better to stick with the injections.
I hope everything continues to go well for you both. :)
See, I keep getting conflicting information on whether the Coumadin or Lovenox/heparin is safer for breastfeeding. I guess I need to do some independent research on that, because that's an issue I won't compromise on. If it has to be injections, it will be.
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From what I can tell it seems that most of the research suggests that the Warfarin is considered safe for breastfeeding now, my youngest child was 4 last week so its likely that the advice I was given (that I had to continue with heparin injections if I wanted to breastfeed) is out of date. I'd agree that doing some research yourself would probably be a good idea, at least then you'll feel sure about the treatment you decide to take.
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My sister had to have those injections for her last pregnancy (she is currently doing IVF to get pregnant again).
I think she called it lupus anticoagulant factor. I am not quite sure.
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Is Kiriana your real name?
I think it's a lovely name.
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My sister had to have those injections for her last pregnancy (she is currently doing IVF to get pregnant again).
I think she called it lupus anticoagulant factor. I am not quite sure.
Yep, lupus anticoagulant is what I have too. Which is just an odd name, since only something like 10% of the people who have it actually have lupus.
Is Kiriana your real name?
I think it's a lovely name.
No, it's not, my real name is much more boring. It's a name I used for one of my characters in World of Warcraft. Yep, I'm a big geek. :)
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are you jealous that your husband has a more polular ask away thread? :laugh:
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are you jealous that your husband has a more polular ask away thread? :laugh:
Not really, just entertained by the direction it's taken!
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are you jealous that your husband has a more polular ask away thread? :laugh:
Not really, just entertained by the direction it's taken!
i think you may enjoy the direction it may take.
wanna McWatch?
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wanna McWatch?
:lol:
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are you jealous that your husband has a more polular ask away thread? :laugh:
Not really, just entertained by the direction it's taken!
i think you may enjoy the direction it may take.
wanna McWatch?
Probably. Can I take pictures?
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are you jealous that your husband has a more polular ask away thread? :laugh:
Not really, just entertained by the direction it's taken!
i think you may enjoy the direction it may take.
wanna McWatch?
Probably. Can I take pictures?
i understand that you are the photabrarian in the family.
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are you jealous that your husband has a more polular ask away thread? :laugh:
Not really, just entertained by the direction it's taken!
i think you may enjoy the direction it may take.
wanna McWatch?
Probably. Can I take pictures?
i understand that you are the photabrarian in the family.
Indeed. Also the main photographer. I did a brief stint as a professional photog at a portrait studio and have been fascinated with the (pardon the pun) subject ever since. The day I can afford a digital SLR and some accessories...watch out! :P
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do you like sausage or tacos?
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do you like sausage or tacos?
Both. Slight preference for tacos at this stage of my life though. ;)
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do you like sausage or tacos?
:lol:
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looks like you and mordok have gone away, i presume to "takce care" of each other. all the better, i need to leave anyways.
have you ever heard of Knott's Berry Farm?
because that is where i am leaving to go, with my family.
later, i want to talk about your preferences for taco's, if you wouldn't mind.
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Are you open with your friends and family about your relationship? Do you ever find that people judge you because of it?
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do you like sausage or tacos?
Both. Slight preference for tacos at this stage of my life though. ;)
that's hot. :green:
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looks like you and mordok have gone away, i presume to "takce care" of each other. all the better, i need to leave anyways.
have you ever heard of Knott's Berry Farm?
because that is where i am leaving to go, with my family.
later, i want to talk about your preferences for taco's, if you wouldn't mind.
While less fun to hear about, I'm sure, it was actually to take care of the kids, in an entirely different way.
I haven't been to Knott's Berry Farm. Sounds like fun though, I love amusement parks.
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have you ever had a lesbian experience? :eyebrows:
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What would you say to Mordok and McJ at it together?
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Are you open with your friends and family about your relationship? Do you ever find that people judge you because of it?
Not really with our families, no. My mom and Mordok's parents are very religious, so this would NOT go over well with them. My mom does have a clue...she knows we go to PrideFest and that prior to this pregnancy, I'd occasionally hang out at the lesbian bars with my lesbian friends. Oh, and we have gay/bi pride bumperstickers. But I don't think the concept of "open relationship" has ever occured to her. She just thinks I'm going to leave Mordok for a woman, like a friend of hers did. I suppose down the road, if we end up in more of a long term relationship with a person or couple, then things will have to be said, but we haven't gotten there yet.
Friends definitely know. Since I'm perfectly fine having just a small circle of friends, I tend to chose those open-minded enough to be ok with my choices, even if they don't necessarily "get" them, ya know? I don't find a lot of out and out judgement, just occasional misunderstandings or incorrect assumptions.
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have you ever had a lesbian experience? :eyebrows:
Indeed. >:D :eyelash:
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you and your husband are enlightened people. :plus:
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What would you say to Mordok and McJ at it together?
I would say "have fun, boys!"
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Are you open with your friends and family about your relationship? Do you ever find that people judge you because of it?
Not really with our families, no. My mom and Mordok's parents are very religious, so this would NOT go over well with them. My mom does have a clue...she knows we go to PrideFest and that prior to this pregnancy, I'd occasionally hang out at the lesbian bars with my lesbian friends. Oh, and we have gay/bi pride bumperstickers. But I don't think the concept of "open relationship" has ever occured to her. She just thinks I'm going to leave Mordok for a woman, like a friend of hers did. I suppose down the road, if we end up in more of a long term relationship with a person or couple, then things will have to be said, but we haven't gotten there yet.
Friends definitely know. Since I'm perfectly fine having just a small circle of friends, I tend to chose those open-minded enough to be ok with my choices, even if they don't necessarily "get" them, ya know? I don't find a lot of out and out judgement, just occasional misunderstandings or incorrect assumptions.
you have an open relationship? i think the only type of relationship i could be in would have to be open. i'm not very monogamous. unless i married Dr. Daniel Jackson. cuz he's the hottest thing i've ever seen.
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have you ever had a lesbian experience? :eyebrows:
Indeed. >:D :eyelash:
i think you're hot. :eyebrows:
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will you tell mordok that i have to leave? i couldn't bear the thought of breaking his heart.
but i will be back later.
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Are you open with your friends and family about your relationship? Do you ever find that people judge you because of it?
Not really with our families, no. My mom and Mordok's parents are very religious, so this would NOT go over well with them. My mom does have a clue...she knows we go to PrideFest and that prior to this pregnancy, I'd occasionally hang out at the lesbian bars with my lesbian friends. Oh, and we have gay/bi pride bumperstickers. But I don't think the concept of "open relationship" has ever occured to her. She just thinks I'm going to leave Mordok for a woman, like a friend of hers did. I suppose down the road, if we end up in more of a long term relationship with a person or couple, then things will have to be said, but we haven't gotten there yet.
Friends definitely know. Since I'm perfectly fine having just a small circle of friends, I tend to chose those open-minded enough to be ok with my choices, even if they don't necessarily "get" them, ya know? I don't find a lot of out and out judgement, just occasional misunderstandings or incorrect assumptions.
you have an open relationship? i think the only type of relationship i could be in would have to be open. i'm not very monogamous. unless i married Dr. Daniel Jackson. cuz he's the hottest thing i've ever seen.
Dr. Jackson? As in the character played by Michael Shanks? If so, I couldn't agree more. :drool:
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We're not really open with our families, but then I think since its about our sex life I don't see why its any of their business.
I think the most irritating assumption we come across is the idea that if we have other sexual partners it must mean that one of us can't satisfy the other sexually. There was only one person that said we were hypocrites to get married if we wanted an 'open' relationship. (I hate the term open relationship, but poly doesn't quite fit either).
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oh yes. :green: i like you more and more mordok. you have great taste.
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We're not really open with our families, but then I think since its about our P.I. life I don't see why its any of their business.
I think the most irritating assumption we come across is the idea that if we have other P.I.ual partners it must mean that one of us can't satisfy the other P.I.ually. There was only one person that said we were hypocrites to get married if we wanted an 'open' relationship. (I hate the term open relationship, but poly doesn't quite fit either).
does it tickle you to say P.I. life? :laugh:
it irritates me when people criticize people's lifestyles.
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We're not really open with our families, but then I think since its about our P.I. life I don't see why its any of their business.
I think the most irritating assumption we come across is the idea that if we have other P.I.ual partners it must mean that one of us can't satisfy the other P.I.ually. There was only one person that said we were hypocrites to get married if we wanted an 'open' relationship. (I hate the term open relationship, but poly doesn't quite fit either).
does it tickle you to say P.I. life? :laugh:
No I forgot about the word filter- I generally put some code in the middle of the word so it will come out as ssex :laugh:
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lol. but isn't it kind of flattering in an embarassing way?
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We're not really open with our families, but then I think since its about our P.I. life I don't see why its any of their business.
I think the most irritating assumption we come across is the idea that if we have other P.I.ual partners it must mean that one of us can't satisfy the other P.I.ually. There was only one person that said we were hypocrites to get married if we wanted an 'open' relationship. (I hate the term open relationship, but poly doesn't quite fit either).
Exactly. Right now, since a lot of it is about sex, well, my family doesn't need to know. "Open relationship" is definitely a weird term, but we're somewhere between swingers and poly, so what are you gonna call it?
I think the assumption comes from some people being hard-wired for monogamy and some people not so much. It can be hard for one side to understand the other.
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"Open relationship" is definitely a weird term, but we're somewhere between swingers and poly, so what are you gonna call it?
Yeah, I prefer the term open relationship over all the others but even that doesn't feel exactly right if you know what I mean?
I think the assumption comes from some people being hard-wired for monogamy and some people not so much. It can be hard for one side to understand the other.
I agree- that's the reaction I've gotten a lot- 'how can you cope with that? Don't you worry you'll end up splitting up because of it?'- that kinda thing.
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I think the assumption comes from some people being hard-wired for monogamy and some people not so much. It can be hard for one side to understand the other.
i understand. i understand monogamy and i understand polygamy. i fall in love all the time. i don't need to pursue those interests but if i met someone and liked them and wanted to fuck them i'd feel it was my right to do so as long as the person i was with knew. but i understand being with someone exclusively because you love them more than anyone else ever... whatever you want to do, do so. life is for living. do what you will, harm none.
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I think the assumption comes from some people being hard-wired for monogamy and some people not so much. It can be hard for one side to understand the other.
i understand. i understand monogamy and i understand polygamy. i fall in love all the time. i don't need to pursue those interests but if i met someone and liked them and wanted to fuck them i'd feel it was my right to do so as long as the person i was with knew. but i understand being with someone because you love them more than anyone else ever... whatever you want to do, do so. life is for living. do what you will, harm none.
Yeah, I hear you. I understand both sides on an intellectual level, but maybe not as much on an emotional level, if that makes sense. I don't judge either as "right" or "wrong", just what works for me and what doesn't. But that's just me.
BTW, thanks for the compliment eariler. I'm busy chasing kids and chasing dogs and chasing threads..... probably not catching everything as fast as I should. :P
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yeah i know. understanding someone intellectually is what tolerance is. you understand someone is different but not wrong or right, just different. and you tolerate them. the people who don't tolerate those who just want to live their lives without harming anyone, that's who i get mad at.
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yeah i know. understanding someone intellectually is what tolerance is. you understand someone is different but not wrong or right, just different. and you tolerate them. the people who don't tolerate those who just want to live their lives without harming anyone, that's who i get mad at.
I would hope people would do more than just tolerate others around them. Tolerate seems a horrible way of looking at things.
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*shrug*
it means you put up with people you don't understand. if people want to embrace people who are different than them then that's great. but tolerance is the minimum requirement.
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do you hate anyone?
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do you hate anyone?
Definitely. The list is pretty short, hate is a really strong word. Plus I'm sure it's more damaging to me to hold on to the hate and all that psychobabble, but...yeah. There's one or 2 who've earned it.
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what has made you hate? i mean: what has a person to do to warrant your hate?
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what has made you hate? i mean: what has a person to do to warrant your hate?
You mean other than having to do with my ancestry?
For the record, they've earned it.
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what has made you hate? i mean: what has a person to do to warrant your hate?
You mean other than having to do with my ancestry?
For the record, they've earned it.
parents who have force fed you religion and guilt?
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what has made you hate? i mean: what has a person to do to warrant your hate?
You mean other than having to do with my ancestry?
For the record, they've earned it.
Why would your ancestry make you hate someone?
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what has made you hate? i mean: what has a person to do to warrant your hate?
The latest one to earn the honor has persisted in attacking my family, thereby hurting my husband and kids.
what has made you hate? i mean: what has a person to do to warrant your hate?
You mean other than having to do with my ancestry?
For the record, they've earned it.
parents who have force fed you religion and guilt?
Yeah, that'd be it. Had they stopped there, they'd have just ended up on the massive "dislike" list. Plenty of parents pull that crap, mine included. When it persists into adulthood and starts affecting the grandkids, now we've got a whole new ballgame.
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does your husband have a cute cock?
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does your husband have a cute cock?
Cute? Errrr......no. Which is not to say I don't enjoy some functions of said cock, but the aethestics of any cock don't do much for me.
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Or better yet, some local talent:
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does your husband have a cute cock?
Cute? Errrr......no. Which is not to say I don't enjoy some functions of said cock, but the aethestics of any cock don't do much for me.
you say any cock? how could you possibly know if you haven't seen my cute package yet?
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does your husband have a cute cock?
Cute? Errrr......no. Which is not to say I don't enjoy some functions of said cock, but the aethestics of any cock don't do much for me.
you say any cock? how could you possibly know if you haven't seen my cute package yet?
Hmmm....an intriguing point. Send me the pic and I'll make sure she sees it. ;)
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does your husband have a cute cock?
Cute? Errrr......no. Which is not to say I don't enjoy some functions of said cock, but the aethestics of any cock don't do much for me.
you say any cock? how could you possibly know if you haven't seen my cute package yet?
Hmmm....an intriguing point. Send me the pic and I'll make sure she sees it. ;)
you cock slut! :laugh:
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does your husband have a cute cock?
Cute? Errrr......no. Which is not to say I don't enjoy some functions of said cock, but the aethestics of any cock don't do much for me.
you say any cock? how could you possibly know if you haven't seen my cute package yet?
I'd like to think I've seen a pretty representative sample in my day. Unless your package is in some way highly unusual, say perhaps festooned with ribbons and candy hearts, I doubt I will find it cute.
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does your husband have a cute cock?
Cute? Errrr......no. Which is not to say I don't enjoy some functions of said cock, but the aethestics of any cock don't do much for me.
you say any cock? how could you possibly know if you haven't seen my cute package yet?
Hmmm....an intriguing point. Send me the pic and I'll make sure she sees it. ;)
you cock slut! :laugh:
I would have thought I'd made that more than obvious by now.
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i really dont know how to ask this question without sounding rude, but
how much do you weigh?
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i really dont know how to ask this question without sounding rude, but
how much do you weigh?
You sound rude because it's generally considered to be a rude question. Then again, when have Aspies followed the rules of polite society? :P
But if I'm to say I'm not ashamed of my body, I better put my money where my mouth is, eh? 247.5 pounds according to my scale this morning. According to my ultrasound this afternoon, 2lbs 11oz of that is directly attributable to the small person currently residing in my uterus. ;)
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well i guess for an american your average size. im not american so..
congrats on getting pregnant. how much do you think your baby will weigh once its born, and are you gonna have that baby naturally?
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well i guess for an american your average size. im not american so..
congrats on getting pregnant. how much do you think your baby will weigh once its born, and are you gonna have that baby naturally?
Nah, I'm pretty sure I'm fat even for an American. It rarely bothers me though.
My guess is baby will be between 8 and 9 pounds, and I probably will not be having a natural birth. I would very much like to, but I've got a fairly complex medical history that makes it unlikely.