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Start here => Free For ALL => Topic started by: Beowulf on October 05, 2006, 12:39:48 PM
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I have a question. Is it gay to hold a door open for a guy?
Obviously, if they're right behind you, holding the door open is the most sensible thing.
But what if they're ten yards behind? Or fifteen?
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its just polite.
its only gay if you are on a date with him...
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Not unless you're going to ask him for a blowjob. :squit:
Meh, worst case scenario is you end up standing there like a tit. I wouldn't usually bother unless they're reasonably close, regardless of gender (though would wait for old gimmers and folk with pushchairs obviously)
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No, of course not; it's just common courtesy.
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I hold doors for anyone no matter what their sex, its just politeness.
You don't strike me as the type of person to actually think something like that would make you gay Beowulf, so I'm kinda confused what point you were trying to make with this topic ???
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I think it is just courtesy to hold the door for someone, especially if they are fairly close to the door or if they are holding a package or seem to need extra help for some reason. Did someone say it was gay?
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It might be genuine curiosity, or that combined with a little fear of coming off as gay. I would used to be afraid that I might appear as gay by doing something, not because i cared about my image, but because i didnt want to offend other guys who are probably homophobes.
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
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Common courtesy, I'd say. Nothing gay about that unless you decide to use the occasion for flirting with the wrong gender.
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Absolutely not, though if you're more than ten or fifteen seconds ahead of where he is, unless he's running to catch the door, he might be confused, but probably not thinking you're hitting on him. It's only gay if you compliment his ass as he passes.
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...the wrong gender...
"wrong"? there's a wrong gender, is there? do we mean "same", by any chance?
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...the wrong gender...
"wrong"? there's a wrong gender, is there? do we mean "same", by any chance?
'kay (he said sheepishly)
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:-*
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This almost makes me want to hold a door open for a girl, and then flirt with her when she walks by, just out of morbid curiosity.
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Post the pics here (as McJ would say). ;D
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This almost makes me want to hold a door open for a girl, and then flirt with her when she walks by, just out of morbid curiosity.
I support this experiment.
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This almost makes me want to hold a door open for a girl, and then flirt with her when she walks by, just out of morbid curiosity.
I support this experiment.
dittoed.
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Post the pics here (as McJ would say). ;D
Dittoed²
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If you wink at him suggestively and stare at his ass as he walks passed you.... absolutely not. ::)
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I hold doors for anyone no matter what their sex, its just politeness.
You don't strike me as the type of person to actually think something like that would make you gay Beowulf, so I'm kinda confused what point you were trying to make with this topic ???
There was no point. It was just a question.
I think. I can't remember.
It was just an inane question about social etiquette that popped into my mind while at work.
I think I should have asked, "is it emasculating ...?"
I should expand on this ...
Now, if you see someone 20 yards behind you holding a drink, you might feel obliged to hold the door open for them while you wait for them to catch you up, whereas you might not if they were not holding a drink.
So, if the person behind you has their hands free, then there is probably some distance beyond which it becomes more sensible to let the door swing (or slam) than to stand there holding it. I know that often if I am the person several yards behind, I feel compelled to jog lightly to catch up the person in front in order help the person in front make up their mind, and to make sure that they are not left standing there holding the door beyond a sensible number of seconds.
This sensible distance might be greater for a woman than for a man. If you decide to hold a door open for a man who is, say, 20 yards behind you, he might think, "I can open the bloody door myself, you know".
Ah well, it's not important.
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No, of course not; it's just common courtesy.
But I thought common courtesy was pretty gay too? :p
at least that is the way it seemed in high school
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Thats cos high school kids are in a contest to see who can be the biggest shithead.
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I agree. High school kids suck.
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Thanks for expanding on that a bit Beowulf, I know what you're getting at now (it was the gay comment that threw me off). There's been plenty of times when I'm stood there wondering whether or not someone is too far away for me to hold the door for them- in some cases its pretty obvious that I should just wait (e.g. if the person is carrying a lot of bags, has a pushchair or is elderly), but in others I have wondered what is the distance away someone can be before it becomes weird waiting and holding the door for them.
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i hate situations like that. it feels so awkward to hold the door if the person is really far away... same with elevators but at least i have a fear of sticking my hands between the doors so i couldn't hold those open for someone anyway... :P if you read Dilbert, there are some good jokes about social awkwardity.
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how about the situation where, when you hold the door open for one person (to be polite), then eseveral other groups of people begin to 'double time' it anfd you are left holding the door for five minutes.
after the first, i generally say, "oops, sorry 'bout that." as the door swings shut on their using arses.
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:LOL: I should try that.
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Yes it is gay if you hold a door for somebody, and as such you are committing a grave sin.
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Yes it is gay if you hold a door for somebody, and as such you are committing a grave sin.
:LMAO:
You don't actually believe this, do you Crusader?
Did you believe the other stuff either, or were you just being controversial?
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just being a twat, basically, callaway.
i wouldn't bother giving it any attention, as that's obviously what the moron craves.
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I thought it was dead. ???
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I thought it was dead. ???
no such luck.
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It's a zombie! :o
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The Italian, 60's kind of zombie, without lip sync! :eyebrows:
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they get dessicated, don't they?
where are my matches...?
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First they try to storm a house, though, with the poor victims right inside the front door, and the youngster (played by a middle-aged guy) hugs his on-screen mum (also played by a middle-aged guy) and says "mum, I'm scared".
Without the lip sync, of course.
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you're mixing zombie films up with your more weird porn collection, darling.
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you're mixing zombie films up with your more weird porn collection, darling.
Not at all. See, what's really scary here is that there is an Italian zombie film with that exact scene. Well, almost. The mum was played by a middle-aged woman.
But she looked like a guy. Honest.
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quod erat demonstrandum .
i rest my case...
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:'( You're making fun of my zombie flick collection.
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no, i'm accusing you of having some really bizarre porn. which you haven't, as far as i'm aware.
i'm just making everything up - real life and the truth is far too vile to be bothered with it.
in fact, i'm a little to near to reality for my liking - wine time, i feel...
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I don't have any really bizarre porn. Sorry. :(
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don't be sorry. i'm not.
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I don't have any really bizarre porn. Sorry. :(
what kind of porn do you have?
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The unbizarre kind.
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I don't have any really bizarre porn. Sorry. :(
what kind of porn do you have?
/wanders off before she sees anything to upset her...
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The unbizarre kind.
oh well - too late...
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me.
i like naked gay men holding doors open for strangers porn.
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The unbizarre kind.
oh well - too late...
It didn't take an awful lot to upset you, did it? :P
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no. it rarely does, to be honest, and especially not at the moment, i'm afraid.
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me.
i like naked gay men holding doors open for strangers porn.
Damn, that sounds hot. Where do you suppose I get my hands on something like that?
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(http://www.dark-sanity.com/sl149.gif)
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that's awesome.
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try Christopher Walken getting analprobed by the greys... and other kinky shit. :P
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Something else I recommend, if you hold the door for him and think he's cute - blow in his ear. It'll score all kinds of points.
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woss your definition of points, then? broken facial bones?
bet be sure he's gay, if you're going to blow in his ear, i'd say. although that's a bit much, even if he is - unsolicited stuff like that would make me lash out, verbally, most likely...
(...but it has been said - frequently - that people would rather have a slap than a gobful from me).
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woss your definition of points, then? broken facial bones?
bet be sure he's gay, if you're going to blow in his ear, i'd say. although that's a bit much, even if he is - unsolicited stuff like that would make me lash out, verbally, most likely...
(...but it has been said - frequently - that people would rather have a slap than a gobful from me).
Well, if I said I strictly go for the Y not the pole I think it might snap that into perspective well :P
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i would rather a guy grab my ass than to have them hold a door open for me.
it makes me feel very siisy like. and that i owe them sex for their politeness.
just treat me like a dirty boy.
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If i wanted to get laid/get my ass kicked, i would attempt to bite their neck on the way through. Would require more dexterity than i have however.
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
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I only have enough dexterity to glomp and bite, not smoothly bite while passing without missing a step.
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
Yeah, so? What are you trying to say? :laugh:
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
Me too!
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
Yeah, so? What are you trying to say? :laugh:
i have no idea my dear, were you expecting me to make an announcement of some sort? ;)
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
Me too!
Me too. It's the polite thing to do.
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So why is it "Gay"????
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gay is as ghey does. if it makes you happy, then do it.
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gay is as ghey does. if it makes you happy, then do it.
Who am I to argue with an expert???
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gay is as ghey does. if it makes you happy, then do it.
Who am I to argue with an expert???
you are a homosexual.
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What makes you say that!? Pot calling kettle black!
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What makes you say that!? Pot calling kettle black!
your black, or are you brown?
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Does it matter?
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Does it matter?
it matters because i am some sort of addiction for you.
nice to be loved.
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Does it matter?
it matters because i am some sort of addiction for you.
Not really
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Does it matter?
it matters because i am some sort of addiction for you.
Not really
admit it.
you can't get enough.
now go get me a beer.
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"Fuck off, emo and get your own damn beer!' Sorry, I guess I'm not intense enough! :wanker:
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"Fuck off, emo and get your own damn beer!' Sorry, I guess I'm not intense enough! :wanker:
ouch.
please come in, and i will leave a light on for you.
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No thanks, I'll find my way on my own!
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No thanks, I'll find my way on my own!
ok, so it is fine if i release the open door that i have been holding for you?
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No worries!
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
Yeah, so? What are you trying to say? :laugh:
i have no idea my dear, were you expecting me to make an announcement of some sort? ;)
Just trying to figure out why you were quoting me without saying anything, hon. ;)
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
Yeah, so? What are you trying to say? :laugh:
i have no idea my dear, were you expecting me to make an announcement of some sort? ;)
Just trying to figure out why you were quoting me without saying anything, hon. ;)
i think that is how he agrees.
its the lazy mans way of stating his beliefs.
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
Yeah, so? What are you trying to say? :laugh:
i have no idea my dear, were you expecting me to make an announcement of some sort? ;)
Just trying to figure out why you were quoting me without saying anything, hon. ;)
i think that is how he agrees.
its the lazy mans way of stating his beliefs.
Maybe I should find a Quoted for Truth emoticon. I'll see what I can find.
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I hold doors open all the time for both guys and girls.
Yeah, so? What are you trying to say? :laugh:
i have no idea my dear, were you expecting me to make an announcement of some sort? ;)
Just trying to figure out why you were quoting me without saying anything, hon. ;)
i think that is how he agrees.
its the lazy mans way of stating his beliefs.
Maybe I should find a Quoted for Truth emoticon. I'll see what I can find.
I could not find a Quoted for Truth sign, but how about this?
:agreed:
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Nice emoticon. :) :agreed:
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:pinocchio: :diddle: :cheese:
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You know, one thing I'm still not sure on is a girl opening a door for me - I think context matters and yeah, even if it felt like a sissy context I'd still play it off graciously. I think what kills me though in dealing with my AS is that far more often than being mad I'm thinking image and rather than just following my gut I still have to ask myself - to be the kind of person I want people to think of me as, should I try to prevent that or try to at least counter-compensate some other way? If she's more of a souljah-ette than a girly girl than it doesn't feel like nearly as big of a deal because they tend to be more stable and the doubly little things won't phase em as much. If she's a close friend no trouble there either. The only thing is when your on a date with a girl and she does it it's that same momentary and mild sinking feeling as if she spends way more money on a date than you do (toward you) like the balls been pushed farther into your court and you've gotta make sure you reciprocate in kind in some way to assure your keeping the equilibrium (and that kind of paranoia IS legit - women care a LOT about the little things and you have to make sure of course that its genuine, that you don't make a show of it but even deliberately downplay it).
Bleh, didn't wanna get off on a whole philosophical shpeal about it but it happens I guess...
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I'm still not sure on is a girl opening a door for me
now that i think of it girls open the door for me all the time
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I'm still not sure on is a girl opening a door for me
now that i think of it girls open the door for me all the time
are they holding the door for you, or your monster?
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Or maybe they assume you're disabled in some strange way, looking like you have 3 legs and all. :P
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Or maybe they assume you're disabled in some strange way, looking like you have 3 legs and all. :P
hahaha
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Or maybe they assume you're disabled in some strange way, looking like you have 3 legs and all. :P
Maybe that is so in the end. ;D
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I'm still not sure on is a girl opening a door for me
now that i think of it girls open the door for me all the time
are they holding the door for you, or your monster?
heheheheh, if they were doing that then I guess you could rest assured that they were doing it for themselves - you might even get a phone number or two on your way through.
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untill i opend my mouth, :mua: ;)
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I'm still not sure on is a girl opening a door for me
now that i think of it girls open the door for me all the time
/me holds the door open for richard
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see what i tell you ;)
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i dont think it is if the person is carrying so much crap that he needs to have help thats being curteous not gay. i hold the door open for anyone guy or female.
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i dont think it is if the person is carrying so much crap that he needs to have help thats being curteous not gay. i hold the door open for anyone guy or female.
Me too. Do you want to be a member of the Aspie Elite and get a secret decoder ring, mig29fulcrum?
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i dont think it is if the person is carrying so much crap that he needs to have help thats being curteous not gay. i hold the door open for anyone guy or female.
what if they are holding a CD of ABBA, aq leather vest, and a manlovin magazine?
would it be ghey then?
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I guess I just consider it common courtesy! :-\ Ah, but, what do I know!? :P
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Of course not.
I don't know where people come up with these stupid ideas. I mean, why the grey area? It's a farcry off spanking another guy's backside.
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it's gay to hold a door open for a guy!!!
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lesbians do it all the time!!!
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it's gay to hold a door open for a gay? :P
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Of course not.
I don't know where people come up with these stupid ideas. I mean, why the grey area? It's a farcry off spanking another guy's backside.
which i would do way before i would hold a door open for a guy.
my third ball is ghey!
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it's gay to hold a door open for McJagger
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it's gay to hold a door open for McJagger
it is when you hold the door open for my third ball.
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I live in the South, where it is almost expected.
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I live in the South, where it is almost expected.
for guys?
PS - G'day headphase - Didn't know you were here. I may have to rejoin.
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I live in the South, where it is almost expected.
for guys?
PS - G'day headphase - Didn't know you were here. I may have to rejoin.
yes
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I have a question. Is it gay to hold a door open for a guy?
Obviously, if they're right behind you, holding the door open is the most sensible thing.
But what if they're ten yards behind? Or fifteen?
Only if you immediately drop to your knees afterwards and put his cock in your mouth. That would probably be viewed as a little gay.