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Start here => M.O.-Introductions => Topic started by: Scrapheap on October 10, 2010, 11:24:27 AM
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Has anyone bothered following the exchanges between TCO and myself?
I thought it was some mild drama at the worst, but then he claims that I was trying to push him into a meltdown.
If TCO is this goddamn sensitive, what the fuck is he doing here??
OH, and just like at WP, I've got some funny PM's that I might publish if I can be arsed. :green:
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No.
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No haven't been following it at all. I actually thought you were 2 friends who were just winding each other up. Oh well, perception was never my strong point.
Personally I have no problem with either of you.
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Scatheap, you're just as sensitive. You and TCO could make a great gay couple.
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Scatheap, you're just as sensitive. You and TCO could make a great gay couple.
TCO wants to have my love child, I just can get him to admit that he loves me in public. :-\
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Scatheap, you're just as sensitive. You and TCO could make a great gay couple.
I'm not into necrophilia, thanx Shleed.
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lol Says you scrappy :laugh:
"waaaaaah soph keeps gheying my karma :bigcry: "
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:minusevil: :green:
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i like both you guys. scrapheap reminds me of an old online friend i had named section8
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lol Says you scrappy :laugh:
"waaaaaah soph keeps gheying my karma :bigcry: "
Why can't you quit talking about karma Soph? You must be obsessed with it. :pwned:
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:bigcry:
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:bigcry:
Now, now Soph. You can come cry on Scrapdaddy's shoulder! :hug: :hug:
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I have not met you yet Scrapheap. Are you new or am I new and you have been away?......not sure (emo)
Loup
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This thread is headed for Fail Town. Wave sorrowfully, goodbye to it and wish is a pleasant and eventful journey
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This thread is headed for Fail Town. Wave sorrowfully, goodbye to it and wish is a pleasant and eventful journey
Ah ha.....yup :thumbup:
Loup
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I have not met you yet Scrapheap. Are you new or am I new and you have been away?......not sure (emo)
Loup
Yes, I've been away. You must be new, I've been here a while Loup.
Do you give good blowjobs and do you do anal??
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That is none of your business, dear person 8)
Loup
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Yeh Scrap you fucking pervert, leave these women alone :zoinks:
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I see TCO has switched tactics and is now playing blase.
Same shit, different toilet. ::)
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Seriously, you're just as quick to have a bitchfit. Didn't you put people on ignore too for similar reasons?
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I see TCO has switched tactics and is now playing blase.
Same shit, different toilet. ::)
And you're the paper.
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I see TCO has switched tactics and is now playing blase.
Same shit, different toilet. ::)
And you're the paper.
At least I got you to admit to your shit. That's progress I suppose.
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I see TCO has switched tactics and is now playing blase.
Same shit, different toilet. ::)
And you're the paper.
At least I got you to admit to your shit. That's progress I suppose.
Admit to what? All I said was I was venting, and you were too fucking stupid to get the message. Scrap, do you still have 2007 calendars hanging in your kitchen?
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Good timing guest.
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It appears that TCO has finally admited that i'm right. 8)
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When I first joined this site, long before I knew the politics of this place, a well established member who is only slightly older than me gave me some advice.
They told me that older members are treated with more respect, and will rarely be attacked. Of course, a younger member who is cool will also be treated with respect, but an older member will be defended no matter how much of a douche they are.
I find this to be true in the case of Steve. If he was 21 and behaved half as badly as he does now, I believe he would have been dogpiled out the door before his feet touched the ground.
His retarded manchild-like behaviour would have been ridiculed by most, and his crybaby tactics would have been derided by all.
He's 50, and has been treated in a way that people like Penty could only dream of. He bleats on about not getting equal treatment, completely oblivious to the fact that some of the people who were nastiest to Penty, treat him as a personal friend, and do their best to keep him out of trouble.
Whilst one or two of the oldre members may feel he is entitled to some kind of special treatment, I disagree. I will continue to treat him in the way that many, including himself, treated Penty.
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When I first joined this site, long before I knew the politics of this place, a well established member who is only slightly older than me gave me some advice.
They told me that older members are treated with more respect, and will rarely be attacked. Of course, a younger member who is cool will also be treated with respect, but an older member will be defended no matter how much of a douche they are.
I find this to be true in the case of Steve. If he was 21 and behaved half as badly as he does now, I believe he would have been dogpiled out the door before his feet touched the ground.
His retarded manchild-like behaviour would have been ridiculed by most, and his crybaby tactics would have been derided by all.
He's 50, and has been treated in a way that people like Penty could only dream of. He bleats on about not getting equal treatment, completely oblivious to the fact that some of the people who were nastiest to Penty, treat him as a personal friend, and do their best to keep him out of trouble.
Whilst one or two of the oldre members may feel he is entitled to some kind of special treatment, I disagree. I will continue to treat him in the way that many, including himself, treated Penty.
I agree. I think TCO is a pathetic bully.
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When I first joined this site, long before I knew the politics of this place, a well established member who is only slightly older than me gave me some advice.
They told me that older members are treated with more respect, and will rarely be attacked. Of course, a younger member who is cool will also be treated with respect, but an older member will be defended no matter how much of a douche they are.
I find this to be true in the case of Steve. If he was 21 and behaved half as badly as he does now, I believe he would have been dogpiled out the door before his feet touched the ground.
His retarded manchild-like behaviour would have been ridiculed by most, and his crybaby tactics would have been derided by all.
He's 50, and has been treated in a way that people like Penty could only dream of. He bleats on about not getting equal treatment, completely oblivious to the fact that some of the people who were nastiest to Penty, treat him as a personal friend, and do their best to keep him out of trouble.
Whilst one or two of the oldre members may feel he is entitled to some kind of special treatment, I disagree. I will continue to treat him in the way that many, including himself, treated Penty.
Sir Les has been his biggest defender, but now even he is conceding that TCO's behavior is indefensible because TCO can't man up to his behavior, even AFTER his "meltdowns". I'm not sure who else has tried to defend TCO.
You're right about the hypocricy of TCO. He goes after the unpopular members with the most vigor and venom, but he chokes on a thimble full of the shit he dishes out by the bucket. Apparently, his biggest problem with bullying, is when he's not the bully.
I'm becoming more and more convinced that TCO's "meldowns" are little more than ego rage. He seems to have some kind of really weird Narcissistic, or other Axis II Cluster B, personality disorder. He rages on ego damage just like an NPD, but in other ways doesn't seem like a typical narcissist. He has some kind of weird mental issues going on in his head, and i really don't care enough to try to figure them out. :jaded:
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When I first joined this site, long before I knew the politics of this place, a well established member who is only slightly older than me gave me some advice.
They told me that older members are treated with more respect, and will rarely be attacked. Of course, a younger member who is cool will also be treated with respect, but an older member will be defended no matter how much of a douche they are.
I find this to be true in the case of Steve. If he was 21 and behaved half as badly as he does now, I believe he would have been dogpiled out the door before his feet touched the ground.
His retarded manchild-like behaviour would have been ridiculed by most, and his crybaby tactics would have been derided by all.
He's 50, and has been treated in a way that people like Penty could only dream of. He bleats on about not getting equal treatment, completely oblivious to the fact that some of the people who were nastiest to Penty, treat him as a personal friend, and do their best to keep him out of trouble.
Whilst one or two of the oldre members may feel he is entitled to some kind of special treatment, I disagree. I will continue to treat him in the way that many, including himself, treated Penty.
I think it's interesting how you go out of your way to defend Penty but have not one tenth of that tolerance with TCO. Seems to me that you are doing the opposite of what you imply the site politics to be.
Respect, regardless of age, is earned. It's not automatic, not from me.
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When I first joined this site, long before I knew the politics of this place, a well established member who is only slightly older than me gave me some advice.
They told me that older members are treated with more respect, and will rarely be attacked. Of course, a younger member who is cool will also be treated with respect, but an older member will be defended no matter how much of a douche they are.
I find this to be true in the case of Steve. If he was 21 and behaved half as badly as he does now, I believe he would have been dogpiled out the door before his feet touched the ground.
His retarded manchild-like behaviour would have been ridiculed by most, and his crybaby tactics would have been derided by all.
He's 50, and has been treated in a way that people like Penty could only dream of. He bleats on about not getting equal treatment, completely oblivious to the fact that some of the people who were nastiest to Penty, treat him as a personal friend, and do their best to keep him out of trouble.
Whilst one or two of the oldre members may feel he is entitled to some kind of special treatment, I disagree. I will continue to treat him in the way that many, including himself, treated Penty.
Sir Les has been his biggest defender, but now even he is conceding that TCO's behavior is indefensible because TCO can't man up to his behavior, even AFTER his "meltdowns". I'm not sure who else has tried to defend TCO.
You're right about the hypocricy of TCO. He goes after the unpopular members with the most vigor and venom, but he chokes on a thimble full of the shit he dishes out by the bucket. Apparently, his biggest problem with bullying, is when he's not the bully.
I'm becoming more and more convinced that TCO's "meldowns" are little more than ego rage. He seems to have some kind of really weird Narcissistic, or other Axis II Cluster B, personality disorder. He rages on ego damage just like an NPD, but in other ways doesn't seem like a typical narcissist. He has some kind of weird mental issues going on in his head, and i really don't care enough to try to figure them out. :jaded:
I agree, and I have a huge ammount of respect for Les' words on this issue. I think he has been very even handed.
I think it's interesting how you go out of your way to defend Penty but have not one tenth of that tolerance with TCO. Seems to me that you are doing the opposite of what you imply the site politics to be.
Respect, regardless of age, is earned. It's not automatic, not from me.
I don't go out of my way to defend Penty. I have gone out of my way to praise Pentys recent behaviour, which I think is deserved. I don't think Penty needs defended at the moment, as his recent behaviour has done nothing to warrent attack.
I have also attacked Penty in the past when his behaviour has merited it, and on occasion, when his behaviour hasn't merited it.
I don't think Pentys current behaviour can in any way be compared to Steves.
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I was talking about Penty's earlier behaviour. IIRC, you were all for giving him chance after chance, then.
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I was talking about Penty's earlier behaviour. IIRC, you were all for giving him chance after chance, then.
Yes. I suppose that is true.
It was largely because he kept saying he would change, and I'm a sucker for that type of thing.
I don't think Steve has any intention of changing, because he clearly has no idea what he is doing. I don't really care about his meltdowns. He can throw his toys out of the pram every month for all I care.
I detest any person who is not prepared to take any responsibility for their actions. I detest anyone who is determined to blame every event on someone else.
He has even told me that if he goes and beats his fiance, then in a court of law, I am responsible.
I cannot be civil to a person like this.
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... I detest anyone who is determined to blame every event on someone else.
He has even told me that if he goes and beats his fiance, then in a court of law, I am responsible.
I cannot be civil to a person like this.
Yes, that and his droping hints about suicide to guilt trip the people it was directed at.
Pure douchbaggery. ::)
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I was talking about Penty's earlier behaviour. IIRC, you were all for giving him chance after chance, then.
Yes. I suppose that is true.
It was largely because he kept saying he would change, and I'm a sucker for that type of thing.
I don't think Steve has any intention of changing, because he clearly has no idea what he is doing. I don't really care about his meltdowns. He can throw his toys out of the pram every month for all I care.
I detest any person who is not prepared to take any responsibility for their actions. I detest anyone who is determined to blame every event on someone else.
He has even told me that if he goes and beats his fiance, then in a court of law, I am responsible.
I cannot be civil to a person like this.
You wouldn't be responsible, of course. The idea is preposterous. He is an adult and should be responsible for his actions, the same as any one of us.
But here's something to ponder: if he doesn't have any idea of what he is doing as you seem to imply, how can he change? How would he know what to change? I've thought for a long time that TCO has little or no control over his meltdowns, and that quite a few of us see them coming long before he does. Certainly PPK did, this time.
And quite a few know perfectly well how to use them and to provoke him further. But does fueling his meltdowns help him or anyone else? I doubt it.
Mind, I'm not defending what he said about you or your family, just as I'd not defend what you said about him or his family, I'm merely asking you because while you're angry, right now I consider you to be more rational than he is.
As his friend, I hope he can get help because he is hurt far more by his meltdowns than anyone else.
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On the point of dynamics of young and old, it makes sense because people identify with each other. I certainly identify more with the adults, but have more patience for the youth when they get my nerve, and may care more in the consideration of the emotions of another.
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You wouldn't be responsible, of course. The idea is preposterous. He is an adult and should be responsible for his actions, the same as any one of us.
But here's something to ponder: if he doesn't have any idea of what he is doing as you seem to imply, how can he change? How would he know what to change? I've thought for a long time that TCO has little or no control over his meltdowns, and that quite a few of us see them coming long before he does. Certainly PPK did, this time.
And quite a few know perfectly well how to use them and to provoke him further. But does fueling his meltdowns help him or anyone else? I doubt it.
Mind, I'm not defending what he said about you or your family, just as I'd not defend what you said about him or his family, I'm merely asking you because while you're angry, right now I consider you to be more rational than he is.
As his friend, I hope he can get help because he is hurt far more by his meltdowns than anyone else.
I do agree with almost everything you're saying, but it does totally miss the problem that I have with Steve.
I don't care about his meltdowns. I don't care that he has wished death on me and my family and threatened to beat me up. I don't care that he wants my dad to attack me, or that he thinks I'm the ugliest person in the world.
My problem is that he continually blames everyone else for everything that he does. Even after his meltdown, he is constantly looking to rewrite history to blame everyone else, and turn himself into the victim. Fuck, he's even tried to blame Schleed for this one. He will accept no responsibility for any of his actions. I hate people who blame everyone else for everything, and Steve is the worst person I have ever known for doing this.
He's not my friend. I really dislike him, and I have no interest in helping him, or even making anything easier for him. At least not until he accepts responsibility for his own actions and stops blaming others.
You are his friend. If you want to help him, then the best thing you could do would be to make him understand that he, and he alone is responsible for his actions. Make him understand that blaming others for his actions will only attract scorn.
Make him understand that it's better to fuck up, but to accept responsibility for that fuck up, than to attempt to divert the blame for his fuck up.
And please. Try and make him stop being such a crybaby.
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On the point of dynamics of young and old, it makes sense because people identify with each other. I certainly identify more with the adults, but have more patience for the youth when they get my nerve, and may care more in the consideration of the emotions of another.
I've never looked at it that way, but then I never really looked at the ages of people on this site. I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
I don't really identify more with any age group, either here, or in real life. I like almost everyone who's nice to me.
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
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On the point of dynamics of young and old, it makes sense because people identify with each other. I certainly identify more with the adults, but have more patience for the youth when they get my nerve, and may care more in the consideration of the emotions of another.
I've never looked at it that way, but then I never really looked at the ages of people on this site. I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
I don't really identify more with any age group, either here, or in real life. I like almost everyone who's nice to me.
Not age group as in 30s vs 40s, youth and adult. They do group, it's natural. Of course people will like others of any age based only on personality, but that's not what I meant. Maybe just unable to find the words; haven't been sleeping.
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On the point of dynamics of young and old, it makes sense because people identify with each other. I certainly identify more with the adults, but have more patience for the youth when they get my nerve, and may care more in the consideration of the emotions of another.
I've never looked at it that way, but then I never really looked at the ages of people on this site. I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
I don't really identify more with any age group, either here, or in real life. I like almost everyone who's nice to me.
Not age group as in 30s vs 40s, youth and adult. They do group, it's natural. Of course people will like others of any age based only on personality, but that's not what I meant. Maybe just unable to find the words; haven't been sleeping.
Every one of us is an adult here, but yes, some of us are adults in name only. I couldn't seriously class myself as a real adult, and Penty might be in the same boat. Apologies if he disagrees.
There were a few others I would say were similar when I first joined the site, but they've grown up and appear to have became "real adults"
I would say that the site has became more mature in the time I've been here.
I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
30-40 is a funny age. Under 30, you're young and still in the prime of your life. Over 40, and you're on the verge of middle-age.
When you're in your 30s, it's up to you what side you're on. You can still be a youngster, having fun, or you can be an oldie.
Of course, some people in their 20s act like old people, and some people over 40 are still young inside.
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When I first joined this site, long before I knew the politics of this place, a well established member who is only slightly older than me gave me some advice.
They told me that older members are treated with more respect, and will rarely be attacked. Of course, a younger member who is cool will also be treated with respect, but an older member will be defended no matter how much of a douche they are.
I find this to be true in the case of Steve. If he was 21 and behaved half as badly as he does now, I believe he would have been dogpiled out the door before his feet touched the ground.
His retarded manchild-like behaviour would have been ridiculed by most, and his crybaby tactics would have been derided by all.
He's 50, and has been treated in a way that people like Penty could only dream of. He bleats on about not getting equal treatment, completely oblivious to the fact that some of the people who were nastiest to Penty, treat him as a personal friend, and do their best to keep him out of trouble.
Whilst one or two of the oldre members may feel he is entitled to some kind of special treatment, I disagree. I will continue to treat him in the way that many, including himself, treated Penty.
The reason I relate to TCO the way I do is because he and I established a ceasefire circa 2009 and I like him when he is not in the midst of a fit. It has nothing to do with his age. @ zOMG in 2008 I got pissed because he and Citrus/kosmo/fuckhead were fucking up the whole board with their feud. So I trolled them both including suggesting Citrus kill himself. In 2009 TCO got into it with most of the board here re: buttcoffee's banning. After that major disagreement he and I made peace and agreed not to attack each other. I stuck to that agreement - which had to do with a discussion he and I had, nothing to do with his age.
The only reason I wrote about his behavior publicly was his 2nd post about not having friends back him up.
Last year after a minor trolling of Richard turned into a feud it was resolved and we agreed to get along. Again I did not dogpile on Richard after that - and not because of his 50 year old status.
As for DD when he jumped on you and Soph I figured you two could handle that, especially Soph given that she was deliberately trolling for a response. When he did it to weakling on at least 3 occasions I asked what the problem was and he never answered. I did that because weakling was not being contentious at all - not because of DDs age or hers.
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The reason I relate to TCO the way I do is because he and I established a ceasefire circa 2009 and I like him when he is not in the midst of a fit. It has nothing to do with his age. @ zOMG in 2008 I got pissed because he and Citrus/kosmo/fuckhead were fucking up the whole board with their feud. So I trolled them both including suggesting Citrus kill himself. In 2009 TCO got into it with most of the board here re: buttcoffee's banning. After that major disagreement he and I made peace and agreed not to attack each other. I stuck to that agreement - which had to do with a discussion he and I had, nothing to do with his age.
The only reason I wrote about his behavior publicly was his 2nd post about not having friends back him up.
Last year after a minor trolling of Richard turned into a feud it was resolved and we agreed to get along. Again I did not dogpile on Richard after that - and not because of his 50 year old status.
As for DD when he jumped on you and Soph I figured you two could handle that, especially Soph given that she was deliberately trolling for a response. When he did it to weakling on at least 3 occasions I asked what the problem was and he never answered. I did that because weakling was not being contentious at all - not because of DDs age or hers.
I certainly wasn't criticizing you, or anybody else. I think you and Les have actually handled this situation very well, both by being even-handed on the board, while at the same time, imploring Steve to step back.
I'm also not suggesting that any one person conciously thinks "He's old, I'll be nice to him," or "He's young, let's hand him his arse."
And I'm certainly not suggesting that I have ever been treated unfairly, or with any lack of respect.
I do however, stand by my point that you are less likely to be treated shit on this board if you're older.
I should probably qualify this by saying that I also believe it is easier to to be treated nicely on this board if you're female, and less likely to be treated nicely if you're a right-wing nutjob :laugh:
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The reason I relate to TCO the way I do is because he and I established a ceasefire circa 2009 and I like him when he is not in the midst of a fit. It has nothing to do with his age. @ zOMG in 2008 I got pissed because he and Citrus/kosmo/fuckhead were fucking up the whole board with their feud. So I trolled them both including suggesting Citrus kill himself. In 2009 TCO got into it with most of the board here re: buttcoffee's banning. After that major disagreement he and I made peace and agreed not to attack each other. I stuck to that agreement - which had to do with a discussion he and I had, nothing to do with his age.
The only reason I wrote about his behavior publicly was his 2nd post about not having friends back him up.
Last year after a minor trolling of Richard turned into a feud it was resolved and we agreed to get along. Again I did not dogpile on Richard after that - and not because of his 50 year old status.
As for DD when he jumped on you and Soph I figured you two could handle that, especially Soph given that she was deliberately trolling for a response. When he did it to weakling on at least 3 occasions I asked what the problem was and he never answered. I did that because weakling was not being contentious at all - not because of DDs age or hers.
I certainly wasn't criticizing you, or anybody else. I think you and Les have actually handled this situation very well, both by being even-handed on the board, while at the same time, imploring Steve to step back.
I'm also not suggesting that any one person conciously thinks "He's old, I'll be nice to him," or "He's young, let's hand him his arse."
And I'm certainly not suggesting that I have ever been treated unfairly, or with any lack of respect.
I do however, stand by my point that you are less likely to be treated shit on this board if you're older.
I should probably qualify this by saying that I also believe it is easier to to be treated nicely on this board if you're female, and less likely to be treated nicely if you're a right-wing nutjob :laugh:
How old do you think Meadow and Sinsboldly are?
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The reason I relate to TCO the way I do is because he and I established a ceasefire circa 2009 and I like him when he is not in the midst of a fit. It has nothing to do with his age. @ zOMG in 2008 I got pissed because he and Citrus/kosmo/fuckhead were fucking up the whole board with their feud. So I trolled them both including suggesting Citrus kill himself. In 2009 TCO got into it with most of the board here re: buttcoffee's banning. After that major disagreement he and I made peace and agreed not to attack each other. I stuck to that agreement - which had to do with a discussion he and I had, nothing to do with his age.
The only reason I wrote about his behavior publicly was his 2nd post about not having friends back him up.
Last year after a minor trolling of Richard turned into a feud it was resolved and we agreed to get along. Again I did not dogpile on Richard after that - and not because of his 50 year old status.
As for DD when he jumped on you and Soph I figured you two could handle that, especially Soph given that she was deliberately trolling for a response. When he did it to weakling on at least 3 occasions I asked what the problem was and he never answered. I did that because weakling was not being contentious at all - not because of DDs age or hers.
I certainly wasn't criticizing you, or anybody else. I think you and Les have actually handled this situation very well, both by being even-handed on the board, while at the same time, imploring Steve to step back.
I'm also not suggesting that any one person conciously thinks "He's old, I'll be nice to him," or "He's young, let's hand him his arse."
And I'm certainly not suggesting that I have ever been treated unfairly, or with any lack of respect.
I do however, stand by my point that you are less likely to be treated shit on this board if you're older.
I should probably qualify this by saying that I also believe it is easier to to be treated nicely on this board if you're female, and less likely to be treated nicely if you're a right-wing nutjob :laugh:
How old do you think Meadow and Sinsboldly are?
Meadow was just too crazy and obnoxious to be treated with any respect at all. I didn't think she was all that old though.
Sinsboldly was quite old, but I gather that she was hugely unpopular because of her power trip on WP.
Obviously there is a limit to my theory. Being old doesn't mean you will automatically be respected, no matter what you have done in the past, or how badly you treat people.
I just said that I think it is easier to get respect if you're old.
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30-40 is a funny age. Under 30, you're young and still in the prime of your life. Over 40, and you're on the verge of middle-age.
it's a fucked age, is what it is. I feel about 12 on most days. When I was 20, 31 seemed so old. Now I see I'm not that different. Maybe I am just incredibly immature.
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30-40 is a funny age. Under 30, you're young and still in the prime of your life. Over 40, and you're on the verge of middle-age.
it's a fucked age, is what it is. I feel about 12 on most days. When I was 20, 31 seemed so old. Now I see I'm not that different. Maybe I am just incredibly immature.
I look around 14 and act around 14. 31 seems so old to me. 21 even seems old to me. It's like, at 21 I can still get away with being a child, but I know that when I reach 30 I will have to be an adult, and I don't think that's possible for me :laugh:
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The reason I relate to TCO the way I do is because he and I established a ceasefire circa 2009 and I like him when he is not in the midst of a fit. It has nothing to do with his age. @ zOMG in 2008 I got pissed because he and Citrus/kosmo/fuckhead were fucking up the whole board with their feud. So I trolled them both including suggesting Citrus kill himself. In 2009 TCO got into it with most of the board here re: buttcoffee's banning. After that major disagreement he and I made peace and agreed not to attack each other. I stuck to that agreement - which had to do with a discussion he and I had, nothing to do with his age.
The only reason I wrote about his behavior publicly was his 2nd post about not having friends back him up.
Last year after a minor trolling of Richard turned into a feud it was resolved and we agreed to get along. Again I did not dogpile on Richard after that - and not because of his 50 year old status.
It was good of you to try to warn TCO, but the fact that you forwarned him and he stepped right into a fight should give you pause.
I'm not at all convinced that TCO is "losing control" and having "meltdowns".
In my spats with him, and others that i've witnessed, there is a certian amount of calculating and maneuvering to his abuse. I think he's trying to be manipulative.
I thing this is TCO's way of trolling people.
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It was good of you to try to warn TCO, but the fact that you forwarned him and he stepped right into a fight should give you pause.
I'm not at all convinced that TCO is "losing control" and having "meltdowns".
In my spats with him, and others that i've witnessed, there is a certian amount of calculating and maneuvering to his abuse. I think he's trying to be manipulative.
I thing this is TCO's way of trolling people.
Very strange. I do agree that he is not fully "losing control." I am convinced he is using the fact that others believe he can't control himself, and they keep telling others that he can't control himself to allow himself to say what he wants. I think he does genuinely lose control at times, but not as much as he makes out.
I do find it hard to believe that he's trolling though.
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30-40 is a funny age. Under 30, you're young and still in the prime of your life. Over 40, and you're on the verge of middle-age.
it's a fucked age, is what it is. I feel about 12 on most days. When I was 20, 31 seemed so old. Now I see I'm not that different. Maybe I am just incredibly immature.
I look around 14 and act around 14. 31 seems so old to me. 21 even seems old to me. It's like, at 21 I can still get away with being a child, but I know that when I reach 30 I will have to be an adult, and I don't think that's possible for me :laugh:
it's just a matter of experience really, and what you do will help you deal with the shit will come to in life. I'm sure you will be fine because it doesnt all happen at once, and you're a smart girl.
Im very lucky, I can pass for 22 and often have. I dont look my age, act my age, dress my age and I am certainly do not have the accomplishments of people my age. This is probably why all of my friends are younger than me and I date much younger men. I dont have a lot in common with people my age really. Also, cougars are in fashion. You wouldn't believe how many boys like the fact that I am this age but dont act it :D
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Was maybe twenty seven before beginning referencing myself as a woman instead of girl. Have heard others say similar so it seems kind of normal.
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
I've got less that 24 hours left as a 39 year old. Is this the end?? :bigcry:
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30-40 is a funny age. Under 30, you're young and still in the prime of your life. Over 40, and you're on the verge of middle-age.
it's a fucked age, is what it is. I feel about 12 on most days. When I was 20, 31 seemed so old. Now I see I'm not that different. Maybe I am just incredibly immature.
I look around 14 and act around 14. 31 seems so old to me. 21 even seems old to me. It's like, at 21 I can still get away with being a child, but I know that when I reach 30 I will have to be an adult, and I don't think that's possible for me :laugh:
it's just a matter of experience really, and what you do will help you deal with the shit will come to in life. I'm sure you will be fine because it doesnt all happen at once, and you're a smart girl.
Im very lucky, I can pass for 22 and often have. I dont look my age, act my age, dress my age and I am certainly do not have the accomplishments of people my age. This is probably why all of my friends are younger than me and I date much younger men. I dont have a lot in common with people my age really. Also, cougars are in fashion. You wouldn't believe how many boys like the fact that I am this age but dont act it :D
Not sure I'll ever have real life experience. I think I'll end up being like an old cat lady, except I'm allergic to cats :laugh:
What is it about aspie girls and younger guys, I'm at my happiest when I'm kicking a football around the park with a bunch of boys that are little over half my age :LOL:
Slightly creepy when one hits on me though :zombiefuck:
Was maybe twenty seven before beginning referencing myself as a woman instead of girl. Have heard others say similar so it seems kind of normal.
Yes, my best female friends are 21 and 25. Nether of them call themselves women, but they would definately see themselves as adults.
The 25yo is probably slightly aspie, and not too much more mature than me though.
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
I've got less that 24 hours left as a 39 year old. Is this the end?? :bigcry:
No. It's just the end of your youth, but look on the bright side. It's the beginning of middle-age. You'll be able to do new things, like accidentally poop when you fart, and wear old-people clothes :santa:
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la la la, whatever, la la la, it doesn't matter. [Lyrics] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-10py3jpYU#)
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... You'll be able to do new things, like accidentally poop when you fart, ...
Hell, I did that when I was a little kid.
We called it getting the Hershey's squirts.
:emb:
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
Pretty sure I have mentioned in various places that I am 34. :P
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
You didn't scan close enough. :P
I am 34.
I should flame you ren just because no one else does. :hahaha: :zoinks:
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:zoinks: PPK.
I changed my post because I just remembered that I don't have my birthday listed and so MLA wouldn't have seen it. Apologies to him. :)
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:zoinks: PPK.
I changed my post because I just remembered that I don't have my birthday listed and so MLA wouldn't have seen it. Apologies to him. :)
:lol: That is the kind of spazziness that I relate too very well.
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Zegh is also now in his 30s. I like reminding him of that often. :P
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What is it about aspie girls and younger guys, I'm at my happiest when I'm kicking a football around the park with a bunch of boys that are little over half my age :LOL:
Slightly creepy when one hits on me though :zombiefuck:
Whenever someone asks me why I date 19ish year old boys, I always tell the truth. have more in common with them and more fun with them and it generally works out with them.
Then I tell them the real truth. You want to know why I date 20 year olds ? CAUSE THEY ARE RIPE :thumbup:
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I thought Renaeden and Zegh were both in their twenties.
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^I wish I was still in my twenties. I feel old at times.
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You wouldn't be responsible, of course. The idea is preposterous. He is an adult and should be responsible for his actions, the same as any one of us.
But here's something to ponder: if he doesn't have any idea of what he is doing as you seem to imply, how can he change? How would he know what to change? I've thought for a long time that TCO has little or no control over his meltdowns, and that quite a few of us see them coming long before he does. Certainly PPK did, this time.
And quite a few know perfectly well how to use them and to provoke him further. But does fueling his meltdowns help him or anyone else? I doubt it.
Mind, I'm not defending what he said about you or your family, just as I'd not defend what you said about him or his family, I'm merely asking you because while you're angry, right now I consider you to be more rational than he is.
As his friend, I hope he can get help because he is hurt far more by his meltdowns than anyone else.
I do agree with almost everything you're saying, but it does totally miss the problem that I have with Steve.
I don't care about his meltdowns. I don't care that he has wished death on me and my family and threatened to beat me up. I don't care that he wants my dad to attack me, or that he thinks I'm the ugliest person in the world.
My problem is that he continually blames everyone else for everything that he does. Even after his meltdown, he is constantly looking to rewrite history to blame everyone else, and turn himself into the victim. Fuck, he's even tried to blame Schleed for this one. He will accept no responsibility for any of his actions. I hate people who blame everyone else for everything, and Steve is the worst person I have ever known for doing this.
He's not my friend. I really dislike him, and I have no interest in helping him, or even making anything easier for him. At least not until he accepts responsibility for his own actions and stops blaming others.
You are his friend. If you want to help him, then the best thing you could do would be to make him understand that he, and he alone is responsible for his actions. Make him understand that blaming others for his actions will only attract scorn.
Make him understand that it's better to fuck up, but to accept responsibility for that fuck up, than to attempt to divert the blame for his fuck up.
And please. Try and make him stop being such a crybaby.
TBH, I have no idea of how to achieve any of the above. PPK and others expressed themselves well enough, saying pretty much the things I would say, and probably better, without a result.
I see your point. I understand perfectly well what you are saying, and I don't blame you. I think you can stop this but he probably can't, but it's your choice.
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
I've got less that 24 hours left as a 39 year old. Is this the end?? :bigcry:
Yes. Have you thought about where and how you want to be buried? :orly:
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You wouldn't be responsible, of course. The idea is preposterous. He is an adult and should be responsible for his actions, the same as any one of us.
But here's something to ponder: if he doesn't have any idea of what he is doing as you seem to imply, how can he change? How would he know what to change? I've thought for a long time that TCO has little or no control over his meltdowns, and that quite a few of us see them coming long before he does. Certainly PPK did, this time.
And quite a few know perfectly well how to use them and to provoke him further. But does fueling his meltdowns help him or anyone else? I doubt it.
Mind, I'm not defending what he said about you or your family, just as I'd not defend what you said about him or his family, I'm merely asking you because while you're angry, right now I consider you to be more rational than he is.
As his friend, I hope he can get help because he is hurt far more by his meltdowns than anyone else.
I do agree with almost everything you're saying, but it does totally miss the problem that I have with Steve.
I don't care about his meltdowns. I don't care that he has wished death on me and my family and threatened to beat me up. I don't care that he wants my dad to attack me, or that he thinks I'm the ugliest person in the world.
My problem is that he continually blames everyone else for everything that he does. Even after his meltdown, he is constantly looking to rewrite history to blame everyone else, and turn himself into the victim. Fuck, he's even tried to blame Schleed for this one. He will accept no responsibility for any of his actions. I hate people who blame everyone else for everything, and Steve is the worst person I have ever known for doing this.
He's not my friend. I really dislike him, and I have no interest in helping him, or even making anything easier for him. At least not until he accepts responsibility for his own actions and stops blaming others.
You are his friend. If you want to help him, then the best thing you could do would be to make him understand that he, and he alone is responsible for his actions. Make him understand that blaming others for his actions will only attract scorn.
Make him understand that it's better to fuck up, but to accept responsibility for that fuck up, than to attempt to divert the blame for his fuck up.
And please. Try and make him stop being such a crybaby.
TBH, I have no idea of how to achieve any of the above. PPK and others expressed themselves well enough, saying pretty much the things I would say, and probably better, without a result.
I see your point. I understand perfectly well what you are saying, and I don't blame you. I think you can stop this but he probably can't, but it's your choice.
Hadn't seen this one coming. But had wondered if September/October would bring a major one for TCO. Seems to happen every year, the last month he can be on the internet, before moving back to his home again.
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Could be. He may not have a dx but he sure handles change like a spazz.
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I kinda assumed there was a fairly evenish spread between youngies, under 30s, and more middle aged people, over 40.
Where does that leave me? Am I a class all to myself?
I scanned through the birthday calendar and discovered that I actually am. Almost everyone is under 30 or over 40. The only active members in their thirties are Eris and myself. EBM and CG are in there also, so they need to get back here more often so we aren't alone. :nerdy:
Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
Too close to the other side. I have already written you off :laugh:
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Sinsboldly is 60, and a female. So everyone should love her :hug:
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Sinsboldly is psychotic, and a WP mod. So everyone should lynch her :santa:
Fixed. :angel:
I've never actually met sinsboldly so I don't condone violence against her. :) Unless it's really funny.
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I know Ive read a lot about Sinsboldy, that she power trips and messes with peoples private messages. But I cant recall any details, all can remember is that she said she used to be a professional Dominatrix. While I admire that in a woman I usually dont get along with them.
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TBH, I have no idea of how to achieve any of the above. PPK and others expressed themselves well enough, saying pretty much the things I would say, and probably better, without a result.
I see your point. I understand perfectly well what you are saying, and I don't blame you. I think you can stop this but he probably can't, but it's your choice.
OK. If he walks away, then I will stop attacking him. I can't guarantee that we won't clash again though, or that I won't become involved in discussions about Steve with others.
If he attacks, or criticizes me, I will retaliate.
That really is the best I can do. I can barely turn the other cheek when I'm arguing with someone I respect. There is no way that I am capable of turning the other cheek when it comes to someone I have absolutely no respect for.
I do not claim to be a good person.
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Sinsboldly is psychotic, and a WP mod. So everyone should lynch her :santa:
Fixed. :angel:
I've never actually met sinsboldly so I don't condone violence against her. :) Unless it's really funny.
It's all fun and games until somebody gets hurt... then it's hilarious!!! :evillaugh:
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Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
I've got less that 24 hours left as a 39 year old. Is this the end?? :bigcry:
Yes. Have you thought about where and how you want to be buried? :orly:
Yes, I want to be buried right in front of Capitol Hill, so I can be a pain in the arse to politicians in both life AND death!!! :viking: :viking: :viking: :viking: :viking:
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TBH, I have no idea of how to achieve any of the above. PPK and others expressed themselves well enough, saying pretty much the things I would say, and probably better, without a result.
I see your point. I understand perfectly well what you are saying, and I don't blame you. I think you can stop this but he probably can't, but it's your choice.
OK. If he walks away, then I will stop attacking him. I can't guarantee that we won't clash again though, or that I won't become involved in discussions about Steve with others.
If he attacks, or criticizes me, I will retaliate.
That really is the best I can do. I can barely turn the other cheek when I'm arguing with someone I respect. There is no way that I am capable of turning the other cheek when it comes to someone I have absolutely no respect for.
I do not claim to be a good person.
:plus:
But I think you are. And more importantly, I think you are honest.
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Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
I've got less that 24 hours left as a 39 year old. Is this the end?? :bigcry:
Yes. Have you thought about where and how you want to be buried? :orly:
Yes, I want to be buried right in front of Capitol Hill, so I can be a pain in the arse to politicians in both life AND death!!! :viking: :viking: :viking: :viking: :viking:
Zombie holocaust in Washington DC?
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Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
I've got less that 24 hours left as a 39 year old. Is this the end?? :bigcry:
Yes. Have you thought about where and how you want to be buried? :orly:
Yes, I want to be buried right in front of Capitol Hill, so I can be a pain in the arse to politicians in both life AND death!!! :viking: :viking: :viking: :viking: :viking:
If they ever go green, you might end up as a bicycle stand, and be the one with a pain in the arse. :orly:
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Ahem, i am active here and in my thirties. Well for a couple more months anyway.
I've got less that 24 hours left as a 39 year old. Is this the end?? :bigcry:
Yes. Have you thought about where and how you want to be buried? :orly:
Yes, I want to be buried right in front of Capitol Hill, so I can be a pain in the arse to politicians in both life AND death!!! :viking: :viking: :viking: :viking: :viking:
If they ever go green, you might end up as a bicycle stand, and be the one with a pain in the arse. :orly:
:LMAO: :plus:
I lol'd very loudly.
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TBH, I have no idea of how to achieve any of the above. PPK and others expressed themselves well enough, saying pretty much the things I would say, and probably better, without a result.
I see your point. I understand perfectly well what you are saying, and I don't blame you. I think you can stop this but he probably can't, but it's your choice.
OK. If he walks away, then I will stop attacking him. I can't guarantee that we won't clash again though, or that I won't become involved in discussions about Steve with others.
If he attacks, or criticizes me, I will retaliate.
That really is the best I can do. I can barely turn the other cheek when I'm arguing with someone I respect. There is no way that I am capable of turning the other cheek when it comes to someone I have absolutely no respect for.
I do not claim to be a good person.
:plus:
But I think you are. And more importantly, I think you are honest.
Aww. Thanks :plus:
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loling at all the people who disagreed with me, only to be proven wrong.
Fucking story of my life.