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Start here => Free For ALL => Topic started by: Calandale on July 09, 2007, 11:15:15 PM
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I've been thinking about these, for whatever
reason, recently. They're more for those who
remain, than for the dead.
My grandfather died some time ago, and had
wished for a wake, rather than a more ordinary
funeral. His wife more or less set up an open casket
thing - exactly what he most hated.
My mother was really pissed about the whole thing.
She felt that his will in the matter should have been
respected - maybe out of some fear that we won't
do the same for her.
Personally, I just don't give a shit, so I probably will
try and respect her wishes. I can't much expect that
anyone else in the family would do differently. (though
making stew out of her doesn't sound too bad)
Anyhow, I'm kinda wondering how others here feel
about a conflict between the wishes of the deceased,
and those of the family.
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I think that if you know what the deceased person would have wanted, then his wishes should be respected if at all possible.
Yes, they are for the survivors as much as for the deceased, but their purpose is to honor the deceased.
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I've been trying to figure out (other than
some sense of duty) WHY this should be
the case. It might be WRONG to do otherwise,
having nothing to do with what the beliefs
might be. But, I don't much see why it
would matter to the dead person.
If they're simply gone - it's no concern
of theirs. In a Christian style heaven or
otherwise, it shouldn't be either (they
are either not going to be botherable
or have MUCH worse things to deal with).
There are certainly faiths where this might
be important, but in this case, we were
talking a pair of nominal Catholics.
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Open casket funerals are creepy and vile. My gran had one, and was pretty nasty having her lying there in an open coffin in the sitting room of her house while people ate biscuits and talked.
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My grandparents were all cremated. Most of my relatives went to the funeral parlour to see the body, but i never have.
I go to the funeral service and the wake afterwards, but i just dont need to go and look at the body.
I wouldn't want to be in the same room as an open casket either.
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At my funeral, I have instructed my wife to play Queen: Another One Bites the Dust
I've only been to one funeral that I can remember, my wife's grandfather. They played Sinatra's cover of "My Way". That's an awesome fucking song to have played at your funeral if you can get away with it.
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At my funeral, I have instructed my wife to play Queen: Another One Bites the Dust
funny, that one was played at my wedding.
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I've been thinking about these, for whatever
reason, recently. They're more for those who
remain, than for the dead.
My grandfather died some time ago, and had
wished for a wake, rather than a more ordinary
funeral. His wife more or less set up an open casket
thing - exactly what he most hated.
My mother was really pissed about the whole thing.
She felt that his will in the matter should have been
respected - maybe out of some fear that we won't
do the same for her.
Personally, I just don't give a shit, so I probably will
try and respect her wishes. I can't much expect that
anyone else in the family would do differently. (though
making stew out of her doesn't sound too bad)
Anyhow, I'm kinda wondering how others here feel
about a conflict between the wishes of the deceased,
and those of the family.
hands down it should be what the person who passed away wanted.
the living should put aside their greedy "me me I want" and show one last act of respect
for the person who passed away.
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the poor do not have a choice.
funerals are expensive.
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If the wishes of the deceased are being respected, the family can feel like they're doing something for the deceased.
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I'm not really bothered if some family members decide to take over my funeral arrangements. If they want to send me off to the underworld in style, leave them to it.
Funeral ceremonies are meaningless to me, anyway.
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I'm not really bothered if some family members decide to take over my funeral arrangements. If they want to send me off to the underworld in style, leave them to it.
Funeral ceremonies are meaningless to me, anyway.
can I have you cremated, then mixed in with some tattoo ink..and put into my body foreverandever?
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I'm not really bothered if some family members decide to take over my funeral arrangements. If they want to send me off to the underworld in style, leave them to it.
Funeral ceremonies are meaningless to me, anyway.
can I have you cremated, then mixed in with some tattoo ink..and put into my body foreverandever?
Do what you will with my former vessel.
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I'm not really bothered if some family members decide to take over my funeral arrangements. If they want to send me off to the underworld in style, leave them to it.
Funeral ceremonies are meaningless to me, anyway.
can I have you cremated, then mixed in with some tattoo ink..and put into my body foreverandever?
Do what you will with my former vessel.
hawt.
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I rather adamently want my organs donated and then the rest of me burned.
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I'm not really bothered if some family members decide to take over my funeral arrangements. If they want to send me off to the underworld in style, leave them to it.
Funeral ceremonies are meaningless to me, anyway.
can I have you cremated, then mixed in with some tattoo ink..and put into my body foreverandever?
Do what you will with my former vessel.
hawt.
Very.
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I'm not really bothered if some family members decide to take over my funeral arrangements. If they want to send me off to the underworld in style, leave them to it.
Funeral ceremonies are meaningless to me, anyway.
can I have you cremated, then mixed in with some tattoo ink..and put into my body foreverandever?
Do what you will with my former vessel.
hawt.
Very.
indeed.
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Shush. The funeral's just started.
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Shush. The funeral's just started.
dearly beloved...
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Shush. The funeral's just started.
dearly beloved...
Let's trash the place.
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Shush. The funeral's just started.
dearly beloved...
Let's trash the place.
I've got a gas can.
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Shush. The funeral's just started.
dearly beloved...
Let's trash the place.
I've got a gas can.
And I've got some ice-cream.
Oil and water?
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I rather adamently want my organs donated and then the rest of me burned.
My sister-in-law's mother wanted her body donated to science, because she had Parkinson's disease. When the scientists are done with it, she wanted to be cremated, so of course her family are respecting her wishes.
I don't think open casket funerals are creepy and vile, but if Peter thinks that they are, then he definitely should not have one.
Nobody ate biscuits in the room where my brother's body was displayed.
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I think that if you know what the deceased person would have wanted, then his wishes should be respected if at all possible.
Yes, they are for the survivors as much as for the deceased, but their purpose is to honor the deceased.
:plus:
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oh man i dont want to even think about funerals :P
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In the tradition of my Viking forefathers, I want to be burned in a funeral pyre.
Then I want eveyone to get drunk out of their minds.
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That would work for me, but within the last few years, I have changed a bit. I would really like to donate my organs, if there is anything left of them. Just burn the rest and throw it back to the sea for all I care. I just hope I have planted enough trees before I go.
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This is my wishes according to my last will and testament. If I die at a young age, them my organs that can be transplanted should be taken and used for those who haave a shot at life. Otherwise, I DO NOT want heroic measure taken to preserve my life, IF the quality of my life is to be NO QUALITY. At the end, cremate me and either scatter my ashes or put them in the compost heap. :green:
If I am buried in the ground in a casket, I will return from the dead and haunt those who fucked me over in death until they were dead.
I have left specific instructions in my last will and testament. I do not want to be buried in my hometown or in the "family" plot. Yes, it has a lot to do with my femaleprogenitor. Aka, mother/cunt/soul sucker.
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If I am buried in the ground in a casket, I will return from the dead and haunt those who fucked me over in death until they were dead.
Ah, finally a GOOD reason to respect the wishes of the dead.
Yeah, this is pretty much what my mom threatened me with.
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Joke - What's the difference between a Czech wedding and a Czech funeral?
(keep scrolling)
Answer - One less drunk. :P
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I thought that was Irish? :eyebrows:
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I believe that the Czechs have beaten the Irish in per capita beer consumption several years in a row... :P
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In that case they need to have St Patricks Day more often until they catch up. :beergrin:
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I thought that was an American invention...
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so they'd have you believe. I'm reliably informed by friends who haven't left the Emerald Isle that they still get completely twatted at St Pat's. :GA:
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Do they honestly need an excuse to get completely twatted? I don't... :P
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Me neither. But then I'm Bradford Irish. :beergrin:
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I feel stupid because I have NO IDEA what that means... :LOL:
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My home city. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bradford) Its grim oop North. ;)
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My home city. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bradford) Its grim oop North. ;)
Bradford metro area is about the size of Anaheim.
BTW dunc, I've noticed you karma stuck on 714. It's not me doing it, must be McJ. ;)
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My home city. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bradford) Its grim oop North. ;)
Bradford metro area is about the size of Anaheim.
BTW dunc, I've noticed you karma stuck on 714. It's not me doing it, must be McJ. ;)
They could be twin cities! Except Bradford doesn't have Disneyland. Or sun. Or a palpable sense of dooooom. (My mistake. Yes it does)
As for the karma, I probably haven't done anything entertaining for the last couple of days. :dunk:
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My home city. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bradford) Its grim oop North. ;)
BTW dunc, I've noticed you karma stuck on 714. It's not me doing it, must be McJ. ;)
I noticed he was a Quaalude the other day, but I haven't touched it. I owe him a couple, now.
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My home city. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bradford) Its grim oop North. ;)
BTW dunc, I've noticed you karma stuck on 714. It's not me doing it, must be McJ. ;)
I noticed he was a Quaalude the other day, but I haven't touched it. I owe him a couple, now.
What does quaalude mean in this context? I know what the drug is.
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"downer" the street name for quaalude like drugs.???
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The old chalky tablets had "Rorer 714" pressed into the surface on one side and a dividing line on the other. His karma was at 714 when the conversation started.
Dunc is anything but a downer.
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although I do like downers. ;D
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Most everyone I ran with as a kid, loved them, too. They fuck me up too much and I go off on an adrenaline rush for hours. I noticed that my heart was pounding after a bunch of us "taking a 'lude" once and everyone took each other's pulse. Most were under sixty, but mine was above one hundred, when it was "normally" near fifty at rest. I missed something, I guess.
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My home city. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bradford) Its grim oop North. ;)
Bradford metro area is about the size of Anaheim.
BTW dunc, I've noticed you karma stuck on 714. It's not me doing it, must be McJ. ;)
They could be twin cities! Except Bradford doesn't have Disneyland. Or sun. Or a palpable sense of dooooom. (My mistake. Yes it does)
As for the karma, I probably haven't done anything entertaining for the last couple of days. :dunk:
dance, monkey, and i will give you some karma.
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:dance:
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good enough for me.
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I don't want a Catholic wake and funeral Mass. I'd better write up my wishes while I still can. :apondering:
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I hate funerals. I would so much rather remember someone as I knew them. Not haunted by that last good-bye while their body lays made up and barely recognizable in a casket.
My parents both requested cremation, no viewing, no funeral.
My dad wanted scattered where the trillium covered the top of the hillside in the spring on the farm where he grew up.
My mother in the small creek she waded in barefoot as a child.
Throw me on the fire, take me up on the hillside and toss me to the wind.
I told SO if I go before him and he decides to go the funeral/display route he better hope that there is no afterlife so that I can't kick his ass. Because if there is a way to do it...I will.
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^I'm the same.
I've told my wife that I am to be cremated and scattered at sea. Yes, I know it requires permission but I don't care. I do not want a grave or urn of any kind.
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I admire the final arrangements of an old lady whose obituary I read years ago.
She died of cancer and left her body to the local teaching hospital for dissection/doctor training. :arrr:
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I admire the final arrangements of an old lady whose obituary I read years ago.
She died of cancer and left her body to the local teaching hospital for dissection/doctor training. :arrr:
That's what I did with PA and am intending to do with my remains. I'd like to donate The PR's remains because so few handicapped bodies are available to the students. But since I'll be dead before her, I'm not sure what her caretakers will do.
One annoying thing is the wait until we get the cremains back. If we don't want them, they will be interred in a large grave in a hospital's cemetery.
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If I predecease my sister, I should have my cremains sent to her,
so her cats can knock them off the shelf. 'Cause cats are assholes. :kitten: :trollface:
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If I predecease my sister, I should have my cremains sent to her, so her cats can knock them off the shelf. >:D
And have ashes all over the floor?
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Wouldn't it be great? :laugh:
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Maybe I could even be laid to rest in the litter box. Useful right to the very end! :tard: :trollface:
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Maybe I could even be laid to rest in the litter box. Useful right to the very end! :tard: :trollface:
That's the spirit. :laugh:
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They can make animal food from my remains if they like.
A "natural" funeral, somewhere in some woods, no headstone or anything like that would be OK too. Thank goodness, embalming is not a habit here. So, whatever happens, my remains will disappear in an oversee-able amount of time.
Wish I had for a long time was to get buried in a bog. Take my carbon away from the atmosphere for a while, and then be burned a thousand years later for the sake of distilling a nice single malt worked well for my imagination.
I do not really care what happens. As long as it is OK for those who stay behind.
Did tell them that if they would decide to get ashes of me pressed into a raw diamond, that then they'd better toss me away on a pebble beach. Don't want descendants fighting over who gets grandma in the shape of a diamond.
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^I'm the same.
I've told my wife that I am to be cremated and scattered at sea. Yes, I know it requires permission but I don't care. I do not want a grave or urn of any kind.
"Technically" it requires permission in most places...but as the funeral director told us/me, it is done every day. Once they release the ashes to the family member, no one is going to come beating on the door to inspect where you put them.
Just make sure to remove the metal tag that will be in the ashes...this has sometimes a name on it or a number and the name of the crematory which makes it traceable, everything else will go back to the earth. If someone forgets though, it's normally okay. Most people that find the tags aren't sure what they are, the others that do know what they are...are usually metal detecting.
If you ever metal detect on the beach for an extended period of time, you will most likely eventually find a tag that someone forgot to remove, it's very common. Standard procedure by all...is to toss it back into the sea after giving it a moment of respect.
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^I'm the same.
I've told my wife that I am to be cremated and scattered at sea. Yes, I know it requires permission but I don't care. I do not want a grave or urn of any kind.
"Technically" it requires permission in most places...but as the funeral director told us/me, it is done every day. Once they release the ashes to the family member, no one is going to come beating on the door to inspect where you put them.
Just make sure to remove the metal tag that will be in the ashes...this has sometimes a name on it or a number and the name of the crematory which makes it traceable, everything else will go back to the earth. If someone forgets though, it's normally okay. Most people that find the tags aren't sure what they are, the others that do know what they are...are usually metal detecting.
If you ever metal detect on the beach for an extended period of time, you will most likely eventually find a tag that someone forgot to remove, it's very common. Standard procedure by all...is to toss it back into the sea after giving it a moment of respect.
:plus: for being a great guest lecturer in the School of Life! :2thumbsup:
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ashes of me pressed into a raw diamond
Never heard of that. Jack's going to be diamonds. :M
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ashes of me pressed into a raw diamond
Never heard of that. Jack's going to be diamonds. :M
Of course. The Jack of diamonds. :autism:
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:laugh:
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ashes of me pressed into a raw diamond
Never heard of that. Jack's going to be diamonds. :M
I've seen that.
It's not cheap, but cool...used to be only one place that did it, more options now.
http://www.cremationsolutions.com/cremation-jewelry-for-ashes/cremation-diamonds-made-from-ashes/how-cremation-diamonds-are-made
They have something called a "bio urn" or "living urn" now too. You can become a tree.
https://www.thelivingurn.com/
...that gives me an idea...a cardboard oatmeal container, my ashes, and some seeds of my request. :stoned:
If I want people to not mourn my passing and instead celebrate my life, what better way to celebrate? :autism:
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ashes of me pressed into a raw diamond
Never heard of that. Jack's going to be diamonds. :M
I've seen that.
It's not cheap, but cool...used to be only one place that did it, more options now.
http://www.cremationsolutions.com/cremation-jewelry-for-ashes/cremation-diamonds-made-from-ashes/how-cremation-diamonds-are-made
They have something called a "bio urn" or "living urn" now too. You can become a tree.
https://www.thelivingurn.com/
...that gives me an idea...a cardboard oatmeal container, my ashes, and some seeds of my request. :stoned:
If I want people to not mourn my passing and instead celebrate my life, what better way to celebrate? :autism:
The diamonds are a fantastic idea. Really like the thought of being immortalized like that, diamonds being forever and all.
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^I'm the same.
I've told my wife that I am to be cremated and scattered at sea. Yes, I know it requires permission but I don't care. I do not want a grave or urn of any kind.
"Technically" it requires permission in most places...but as the funeral director told us/me, it is done every day. Once they release the ashes to the family member, no one is going to come beating on the door to inspect where you put them.
Just make sure to remove the metal tag that will be in the ashes...this has sometimes a name on it or a number and the name of the crematory which makes it traceable, everything else will go back to the earth. If someone forgets though, it's normally okay. Most people that find the tags aren't sure what they are, the others that do know what they are...are usually metal detecting.
If you ever metal detect on the beach for an extended period of time, you will most likely eventually find a tag that someone forgot to remove, it's very common. Standard procedure by all...is to toss it back into the sea after giving it a moment of respect.
I didn't know that. +
When my father died, we scattered his ashes at sea. Wondering now if there was a metal tag in there somewhere.
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Also thinking that if they compressed my remains into a diamond, I'd like to become a really expensive one, the kind that people will kill for.
The circle of, um, life. :zoinks:
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Also thinking that if they compressed my remains into a diamond, I'd like to become a really expensive one, the kind that people will kill for.
The circle of, um, life. :zoinks:
:lol1:
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In an ideal world, I would invite all the people I ever hated under the guise that there was something for them in the will, and then have myself served as the appetizer. Realistically, I like the BioPod idea.
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In an ideal world, I would invite all the people I ever hated under the guise that there was something for them in the will, and then have myself served as the appetizer. Realistically, I like the BioPod idea.
Medium rare or well done?
Some of us have always been curious about those kind of things. :zoinks:
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In an ideal world, I would invite all the people I ever hated under the guise that there was something for them in the will, and then have myself served as the appetizer. Realistically, I like the BioPod idea.
Medium rare or well done?
Some of us have always been curious about those kind of things. :zoinks:
Whatever it takes to pass muster. I'd leave those details to the morally questionable chef I'd hire for the purpose :M
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In an ideal world, I would invite all the people I ever hated under the guise that there was something for them in the will, and then have myself served as the appetizer. Realistically, I like the BioPod idea.
Medium rare or well done?
Some of us have always been curious about those kind of things. :zoinks:
Whatever it takes to pass muster. I'd leave those details to the morally questionable chef I'd hire for the purpose :M
This guy's your man! ---> :fatchef: He's never passed ServSafeTM, and doesn't care! :laugh:
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This guy's your man! ---> :fatchef: He's never passed ServSafeTM, and doesn't care! :laugh:
I can't help noticing how much his apron looks the way mine does on a typical day. :P
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I'm hungry now. :P
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I'm hungry now. :P
This disturbs me on so many levels.
:zombiefuck:
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I'm hungry now. :P
This disturbs me on so many levels.
:zombiefuck:
A meal to die for. :zoinks:
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I'm hungry now. :P
This disturbs me on so many levels.
:zombiefuck:
A meal to die for. :zoinks:
Agatha Christie - Murder from the Old Folks Kitchen
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Someone needs to post this...might as well be me. >:D
http://youtu.be/99Ptctl5_qQ
A side of Fava Beans and a Nice Chianti...
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Still hungry. :grrr:
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Still hungry. :grrr:
Go into the kitchen and make some food! :multitask:
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Still hungry. :grrr:
Go into the kitchen and make some food! :multitask:
Eating now. Bacon.
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Still hungry. :grrr:
Go into the kitchen and make some food! :multitask:
Eating now. Bacon.
Just bacon? :bacon: :moomin:
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When I was on the Paleo diet, I snacked on ready cooked bacon. I'd probably find it a bit gross now. My tastebuds change all the time though. Apparently everybodys' does. I really like the taste of fizzy drinks when you don't eat much apart from rice, cheese and vegetables for a couple of weeks. It tastes to me slightly syrupy because it tastes so much sweeter. Mochas taste incredible too. They taste OK usually, but then after dieting they taste intensely chocolatey.
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Still hungry. :grrr:
Go into the kitchen and make some food! :multitask:
Eating now. Bacon.
Just bacon? :bacon: :moomin:
Yes. It's yummy.