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[maldoror]

I think I'm about to start a relationship with someone, but before I met her I had planned a valentine's day date with someone else from one of my classes. If this becomes a relationship within the next couple of weeks, what do I do about what I originally had planned? I can't un-ask her out; what if she turned down other people based on what she already had planned with me? Plus, I had been extremely interested in her, and if this other thing doesn't end up working out, I still want to keep it as an opportunity.

Right now I'm thinking that what I'll do is keep what I originally had planned, but as a friendly thing, and suggest going out with the other girl the day after (which is Friday, works better anyway). Is that a good idea? How big of a deal is this situation actually?

[GalileoAce]

Perhaps the truth, to all parties, will set you free...Or clear up your options if they get offended and leave

[Calandale]

See if you can manage the big prize.
Go with both.

[Callaway]

I think that what you plan to do sounds good, but maybe you need to tell the person you are in a relationship with about the previous engagement with the other one.  I don't think that you need to tell her that you were extremely interested in this other person, though.