Am I going to eventually lose him?

[The_P]

^Well said.  I wouldn't bother asking anyone for advice about relationships.  I think deep down we all know what we need to do with our lives.  Asking someone else means you need their validation to feel good about yourself, and screw that.  If someone close to you really cares about you, they'll tell you when you're fucking up.   

 

Agreed, the ONLY people you should accept advice from is people that you have learned to trust and who have given you good advice before.  People who's opinions you value.  AND then ONLY accept what truly fits your situation.  What do you want?  Are you happy??  What are your plans??  Those are the questions that only you have the answer for.  Not people on a message board.

You value my electrons though, big boy.

You know you want it.

[ozymandias]

Oh you know it, you big throbbing hunk of neutrons!   

[Soph]

I don't think you will lose him if he's anything worth being with
If you lose him from laxk of sex then he's probably not very good anyway
But then I don't know shit about all this so don't listen to me

[Soph]

^Well said.  I wouldn't bother asking anyone for advice about relationships.  I think deep down we all know what we need to do with our lives.  Asking someone else means you need their validation to feel good about yourself, and screw that.  If someone close to you really cares about you, they'll tell you when you're fucking up.   

 

Agreed, the ONLY people you should accept advice from is people that you have learned to trust and who have given you good advice before.  People who's opinions you value.  AND then ONLY accept what truly fits your situation.  What do you want?  Are you happy??  What are your plans??  Those are the questions that only you have the answer for.  Not people on a message board.

yes this is true
listen to these people

[Calandale]

I don't think you will lose him if he's anything worth being with
If you lose him from laxk of sex then he's probably not very good anyway
But then I don't know shit about all this so don't listen to me

I don't know. I'd have a tough time dealing
in a relationship without a lot of sex - especially
early on. Actually though, it gets easier later.

But, if interests aren't compatible, in this ONE
area, how would you feel about letting him
fuck someone else?

[Soph]

I don't think you will lose him if he's anything worth being with
If you lose him from laxk of sex then he's probably not very good anyway
But then I don't know shit about all this so don't listen to me

I don't know. I'd have a tough time dealing
in a relationship without a lot of sex - especially
early on. Actually though, it gets easier later.

But, if interests aren't compatible, in this ONE
area, how would you feel about letting him
fuck someone else?

for SG it wouldn't be right though, to be with someone who would leave her without getting laid every day I mean.
Well, I assume, that's not what she wants if there is alck of sex anyway

[Soph]

But, if interests aren't compatible, in this ONE
area, how would you feel about letting him
fuck someone else?

and I am assuming this bit is not directing at me?

[Calandale]

Yeah. Thing is, maybe their diaper play
is MORE important, in general. Which is
why I asked the question about letting
him screw others.

and I am assuming this bit is not directing at me?

How COULD it be? 

[Rabbit From Hell]

No sex when sex is wanted DOES tend to put a lot of strain on a relationship.

[El]

I don't think you will lose him if he's anything worth being with
If you lose him from laxk of sex then he's probably not very good anyway
But then I don't know shit about all this so don't listen to me

Actually, DO listen to Soph.  Words of wisdom.

I don't know. I'd have a tough time dealing
in a relationship without a lot of sex - especially
early on. Actually though, it gets easier later.

But, if interests aren't compatible, in this ONE
area, how would you feel about letting him
fuck someone else?

for SG it wouldn't be right though, to be with someone who would leave her without getting laid every day I mean.
Well, I assume, that's not what she wants if there is alck of sex anyway

Cal- I couldn't be in a celibate relationship either, but I wouldn't be so much of an asshole that i'd try to cooerce someone who wasn't willing.  If he needs someone who's going to have sex all the time, he should screen out people who are incompatable with that.
Soph- agreed.

No sex when sex is wanted DOES tend to put a lot of strain on a relationship.

Yes, it does indeed.

[Soph]

Cal- I couldn't be in a celibate relationship either, but I wouldn't be so much of an asshole that i'd try to cooerce someone who wasn't willing.  If he needs someone who's going to have sex all the time, he should screen out people who are incompatable with that.
Soph- agreed.

Yeah I think that's what I was trying to say last night
It's not necessarily that he wants to have sex more than she does that would make it fucked up - it's that he would try and get her to if she doesn't want to as much, and leave her if she didn't
And if that is the case, I don't think he is the right person for her and they should be with different people anyway

[Calandale]

I don't know. I'd have a tough time dealing
in a relationship without a lot of sex - especially
early on. Actually though, it gets easier later.

But, if interests aren't compatible, in this ONE
area, how would you feel about letting him
fuck someone else?

for SG it wouldn't be right though, to be with someone who would leave her without getting laid every day I mean.
Well, I assume, that's not what she wants if there is alck of sex anyway

Cal- I couldn't be in a celibate relationship either, but I wouldn't be so much of an asshole that i'd try to cooerce someone who wasn't willing.  If he needs someone who's going to have sex all the time, he should screen out people who are incompatable with that.

I haven't really gotten the view that he's
someone who wants to have sex ALL the
time. Hell, look how long it took.

Now, if having sex is simply impossible for
someone, it seems perfectly reasonable to
me, to consider other options. One of those
options is to open up the relationship, in at
least that regard. The thing is, they may share
something which is more important than sex
can ever be, to either of them. Something which
is much more difficult to find.

[El]

I haven't really gotten the view that he's
someone who wants to have sex ALL the
time. Hell, look how long it took.

Now, if having sex is simply impossible for
someone, it seems perfectly reasonable to
me, to consider other options. One of those
options is to open up the relationship, in at
least that regard. The thing is, they may share
something which is more important than sex
can ever be, to either of them. Something which
is much more difficult to find.

*snort*  And I'm suuuuuuure he was voluntarily celibate up 'till now.

[Alex179]

I am pretty sure he was waiting for her to be ready, him not having a real choice in the matter makes it not really voluntary.   It is being pretty damn patient.  Waiting a year to have sex with your girlfriend?  It is inevitable that he would get antsy after a while. That is pretty much unheard of, outside of religious types.   I could not do it, personally.   I think he just wanted to lose his virginity, the coming months will tell her how often he really wants to have sex.   It is a little early in their sex life to determine how often he wants to get it on.   There isn't exactly much of a sample size.

[El]

I am pretty sure he was waiting for her to be ready, him not having a real choice in the matter makes it not really voluntary.   It is being pretty damn patient.  Waiting a year to have sex with your girlfriend?  It is inevitable that he would get antsy after a while. That is pretty much unheard of, outside of religious types.   I could not do it, personally.   I think he just wanted to lose his virginity, the coming months will tell her how often he really wants to have sex.   It is a little early in their sex life to determine how often he wants to get it on.   There isn't exactly much of a sample size.

No shit, sherlock.