I'm having trouble distinguishing exactly what you're saying.
Am disagreeing with Walkie's assessment that sex isn't a deeply intimate act for males. Though at the same time wont commit to that being untrue, because stereotypes exist for a reason. Maybe it's a common conception because it's true, or maybe it's just the macho crap men feel the need to say. Think it may be a misconception that sex doesn't make males feel more emotionally intimate and connected to their partners, or that they really prefer sexual relationships without the sentimental baggage. Though not really sure because it could be that males may not deal well with females who don't associate sex and love, only because females are expected to. So, just really saying I don't know what to think. Saying some stuff so you will say what you think, because the honest perspective of a male on this topic is more interesting than my uncertainty.
I'm not terribly typical, I think. So, my personal view is likely of little value. And the women I've been both
sexually and emotionally involved with are not either.
Given that though, my limited experience (both direct and perceived) lend to both males and females being able to
engage in sex without much meaning - sometimes even just as a means to get out of anotherwise uncomfortable
situation. Both are able to form emotional bonds quickly, with or without sex. The major differences that I've seen
appear to be gender role-based expressions: which I tend to mark down almost entirely to societal expectations.
The most distant perceived experiences are probably the most generally applicable - though, of course, I am
likely applying filters and have less information as to what is really being felt. The gamit seems to align well
with what I've experienced more closely (through self, or close contacts).