Advice to desperate aspie guys

[Pyraxis]

My advice? Be more like me -- less desperate.

Amen.

[McGiver]

My advice? Be more like me -- less desperate.

Amen.

or...

less wise about the ways of the world.
more naive in the sense that you haven't experienced some things in life that you should be forming an opinion of.

or...

building more walls, which could be used as defensive mechanisms.

[techstepgenr8tion]

To aspie guys desperate to get laid, should go and visit a hooker or hire an escort, as long as you treat them nicely and use protection it is pretty safe and the prices are not too bad either. If they did that the wrongplanet forums and chatrooms would be a much more pleasant place. 

I personally have mixed opinions of sex workers and I am not desperate to get laid. I more desire emotional intimacy which you do not get from a hooker or escort.

I think for the guys that need a woman's attention that badly that's the biggest part of the problem - the very fact that your needing it enough to even be willing to pay for it. I'd just say learn to be happy by yourself, no....fuck it....learn to feel like your pimp shit by yourself. Get yourself into ambitous interests, things that make you feel more alpha, things that you'd be proud to tell another person about, work on how you dress, work on how you see yourself and the world around you. If you do that, feel like you have a lot, seem like you have a lot, and could give a damn about finding a woman - they'll come around on their own, don't even sweat it.

You've gotta think of it this way too, how the heck would you even be happy with a woman's company if she's not someone you click with on the head to head level? Is taking an escort out even going to be fun really? And your paying for it? Even if you hire the variety where you end up getting yourself laid.... what's it worth? That's way too much power and emphasis to place on sex itself, doesn't matter what she looks like.

[McGiver]

you must be a monk.

how about, have the sex, then pay for her cabride home, just in time to turn on sportscenter.

[thepeaguy]

My advice? Be more like me -- less desperate.

Amen.

or...

less wise about the ways of the world.
more naive in the sense that you haven't experienced some things in life that you should be forming an opinion of.

or...

building more walls, which could be used as defensive mechanisms.

You're just mad that I'm not interested in making a legacy for myself which doesn't consist of how many people I shagged in my lifetime, unlike you with your boasts here. Any animal can do that.

[McGiver]

once you achieve any legacy then your argument will begin to hold water.

but, in the meantime, i may achieve more as well.

thank you for playing, please try again.

[thepeaguy]

once you achieve any legacy then your argument will begin to hold water.

but, in the meantime, i may achieve more as well.

thank you for playing, please try again.

I couldn't really care less with what a village idiot has to say to the likes of me.

I'm just saying that you're common, you're boring, you're a male stereotype, you just want to shag, shag, shag, fucking shag.

"Game over, Jaggs -- Insert Coin."

[McGiver]

once you achieve any legacy then your argument will begin to hold water.

but, in the meantime, i may achieve more as well.

thank you for playing, please try again.

I couldn't really care less with what a village idiot has to say to the likes of me.

I'm just saying that you're common, you're boring, you're a male stereotype.

"Game over, Jaggs -- Insert Coin."

you actually know very little about me.
i am proud of the fact that YOU have ambition.  the desire is encouraging, peaguy, but until we see results your base of argument is moot.

TILT- turn over.
volley.

[purposefulinsanity]

And back on topic....

My advice to the lonely male aspies is to stop acting so desperate and sorry for yourself, harsh maybe, but desperation and self pity are never attractive.   Look at yourself without the self pity and see the positives in your life, find reasons to like yourself. And don't just sit around in your room online all night waiting for a relationship to fall into your lap- get yourself out there, sure its hard, but surely if you really want a relationship (or even just a sex partner) so badly its worth making the effort?

Stop obsessing about it, find something else to do with your free time- at least then, when you do meet someone, you'll have something to talk about and you might even actually enjoy yourself.

As for paying for a prostitute that really depends on your own personal feelings on this, sure you might rid yourself off that virginity that you see as something hanging round your neck like a big loser sign, but that's all you will get out of the experience (unless of course you end up with an STD).  Plus, is it really something thats going to do your self-esteem any good?


Please note, I am not saying that everyone should be looking for a relationship and/or someone to shag, but I don't think its helpful to tell someone who is looking for those things that they shouldn't.  In fact I believe that telling someone that they shouldn't want what they do might actually provide them with another reason to beat themselves up for not being good enough.

[QuirkyCarla]

The other end of the spectrum annoys me too. I've seen some of the aspie guys on wp post about how they're unattractive, overweight slobs and yet they won't settle for anything less than than a hot girl with a great body. These are some of the same people who whine about not being able to get a girlfriend. Those guys are shallow and deserve to be alone if that's all they care about.

[Randy]

 

Nice CARLA

[Randy]

yOU MEAN ALEX?

[Nomaken]

Am I exempt from your ire because I don't whine about not having a girlfriend?

[QuirkyCarla]

partially exempt

[Nomaken]

So i'm partially shallow and deserve to be alone?