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Offline Adam

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #30 on: June 18, 2010, 07:55:28 AM »
i still think we should be friends tbh. but i  am too self centred or something
i have a feeling i wouldn't be welcome if I contacted her again tho

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #31 on: June 18, 2010, 07:59:15 AM »
i still think we should be friends tbh. but i  am too self centred or something
i have a feeling i wouldn't be welcome if I contacted her again tho

Forget it man. Shes worthless at the moment. Wait till she grows up enough to be on par with her peer group.
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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #32 on: June 18, 2010, 08:55:06 AM »
i still think we should be friends tbh. but i  am too self centred or something
i have a feeling i wouldn't be welcome if I contacted her again tho

Can't think it would be a huge loss.
Sorry you are upset over it. I personally see it as a lucky break for you
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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #33 on: June 18, 2010, 08:59:32 AM »
i still think we should be friends tbh. but i  am too self centred or something
i have a feeling i wouldn't be welcome if I contacted her again tho

Soph, you're one of the least self-centered people I know. So if that was said to you, I would let it go.

This isn't Bint specific, but any friendship that I either bring into my life, or I lose, I always ask myself what does that person bring to my life. If it's good things and it's balanced, then it's a positive step forward for me. If it's negative drama and it's high maintenance then I will let it go. I want to leave room in my life for the good stuff. I've had my cup full of drama as of late. :laugh:

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #34 on: June 18, 2010, 09:04:23 AM »
she didn't actually say I was too self centred, but I think that#s what she meant - and that  I was a shitty friend

I think she might have been right but I definitely wasn't being a shitty friend on purpose, which is why it's annoying. if she'd just told me what I was doing wrong then I coulda fixed it and we could still be mates. I wouldn't have met her IRL if I didn't wanna be friends with her

I dunno. it's cool. Just wish I knew exactly where I was going wrong  :-\

it's all so confusing, this social stuff  :laugh:
« Last Edit: June 18, 2010, 09:06:08 AM by Spastic² »

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #35 on: June 21, 2010, 06:08:28 AM »
i still think we should be friends tbh. but i  am too self centred or something
i have a feeling i wouldn't be welcome if I contacted her again tho

any friendship that I either bring into my life, or I lose, I always ask myself what does that person bring to my life. If it's good things and it's balanced, then it's a positive step forward for me. If it's negative drama and it's high maintenance then I will let it go.

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #36 on: June 21, 2010, 06:13:18 AM »

it's all so confusing, this social stuff  :laugh:

True. But sometimes people are just all up and down, and nothing you ever try to do to figure them out will be the right answer. Some people just change like the wind (not attacking Bint - I do it myself at times).

All you can do is know you did your best. I know that it would be hard, especially because of other stuff you've been through - you probably don't want to feel you've let a friend down. But CG is right, you do seem to be a very caring person, so I'm sure you did your best.

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #37 on: June 21, 2010, 07:01:09 AM »
I think she might have been right but I definitely wasn't being a shitty friend on purpose, which is why it's annoying. if she'd just told me what I was doing wrong then I coulda fixed it and we could still be mates.

This would make it so much easier for aspies if others would just tell us what we did that was wrong. We rarely figure it out on our own like they expect us to.

That's one huge benefit to dating an aspie. EBM and I just tell each other if something is wrong, or one of us said something out of turn or whatever and there's no drama.

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #38 on: June 21, 2010, 07:03:52 AM »
All the women I like irl tend to be very NT. I always go for the ones I can't have  :laugh:

I think I still have a lot to learn about friendship/relationship stuff. but I do try.

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #39 on: June 21, 2010, 07:06:29 AM »
All the women I like irl tend to be very NT. I always go for the ones I can't have  :laugh:

I think I still have a lot to learn about friendship/relationship stuff. but I do try.

Everyone in the world, of any age, NT or not, can afford to learn more.  :viking:
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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #40 on: June 21, 2010, 07:34:32 AM »
All the women I like irl tend to be very NT. I always go for the ones I can't have  :laugh:

I think I still have a lot to learn about friendship/relationship stuff. but I do try.

Everyone in the world, of any age, NT or not, can afford to learn more.  :viking:

very true

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Re: Hey has Bint gone? Just noticed. LOL
« Reply #41 on: June 21, 2010, 07:36:12 AM »
I'm gonna be going to my AS place again soon. So maybe I will make some aspie friends. no hot girls there tho  :(