She says I misunderstood/overreacted. She seems not to realize how she sounds. In between these incidents we get along fine. We just are very different people and seem to push each other's buttons at times, except that I do not feel equal in power. But who knows, maybe she is just as much afraid of my bad moods as I am of hers! 
And I love the dogs. 
That is the type of shit manipulative fucks always use to defend their grossly obnoxious behavior.
All my life I've been intimidated by other people's anger. Lately I feel as if I am beginning to learn (at my very slow pace) how better to handle it.
I think I just need to remember that I am still entitled to get angry in return, even if *some* of the problem was legitimately my fault.
