I agree, Jman, with some caveats.
If you've met an Aspie, you've met just that,
one Aspie. I know, it's a cliche but it's worth repeating. We're not all the same, and while some--me included--manage all right, others have a far more difficult time.
Let me just take one example. My son, who's also an Aspie, has for many, many years been unable to stay in the house if we're outside of it. For example, when I still smoked, I'd do it outside. But if it was just me and my son at home, he'd invariably follow me outside because to him, when I closed that door, I effectively disappeared. No amount of asking, begging, shouting or, for that matter, coddling, would help. And it drove me crazy, I can tell you that much.
A ToM issue, his problem, I guess, but I can tell you that I never had it like this at his age. At twelve, he still has some of this problem. Thankfully, I don't smoke anymore but it can still be enough sometimes to go down to the basement, where my study is, to freak him out. He'll definitely not stay at home alone, even for shorter periods of time, while his sister who's two years younger (and NT) will cheerfully do just that.
He's able to go play at a friend's house these days, though, which is a step forward.
For some parents, these things are cause for coddle. The boy's scared, and he cries and he screams, and won't let go until you humor him. I'd imagine that many tired parents would take the easy way out. They'd
protect him.
I should also add that he's not too happy with his AS sometimes. He hates it because of the meltdowns--he's very much aware of them and knows that they're a problem. He hates his AS because of his sensory problems, because he's unable to block unwanted stimuli. He can't usually watch TV if there's someone else in the room.
So I agree with you, sure, but you should know that it's not easy to bring up an Aspie kid. I know, I got him because of my sins but still...