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Offline QuirkyCarla

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Communicating in groups...
« on: April 17, 2009, 11:52:28 PM »
When I'm one on one with people lately I've been told that I communicate just fine. However, I've noticed that when I'm around a large group of people I have trouble including myself in the conversation and get very quiet. I know many of you probably have similar issues being on the spectrum and all.  Does anyone here have any strategies for this?

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Re: Communicating in groups...
« Reply #1 on: April 18, 2009, 01:20:53 AM »
I wish. I tend to interrupt when they are talking about something interesting. It's also frustrating too because I have to keep up so that's why I ask questions and I don't know when it's my turn to talk. Luckily people don't get mad at me. I get told to be quiet or to lower my voice, someone else is talking. With family, nothing happens except I get told I'm too loud. I also go off by myself or go and do my own thing.

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Re: Communicating in groups...
« Reply #2 on: April 18, 2009, 04:02:49 AM »
I will usually say anything in a group as well but I have learnt to keep the same subject going and not change it because people tend to get annoyed at that.

I think there are quiet and not so quiet people in every group.
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Re: Communicating in groups...
« Reply #3 on: April 18, 2009, 09:01:41 AM »
One on one it depends on the person I'm talking to. If I'm not somewhat at ease with them it's hard.

In groups forget it.

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Re: Communicating in groups...
« Reply #4 on: April 18, 2009, 09:31:19 AM »
I have an easier time talking in a group than one on one. I get an adrenalin spike before I say anything important, but one on one is more draining because you have to come up with more things to day. I guess my suggestion would be not worrying if you're quiet, just making sure that when you do say things, they matter.
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